How to be More Organized: The 7 Habits of Highly Organized People

1-more-organizedBeing organized comes from developing a collection of habits that allows to become and remain that type of person. Here are the 7 habits of highly organized people so you can finally figure out how to be more organized in your life.

1. What Gets Scheduled, Gets Done

Highly organized people recognize that being organized and staying productive is a match made in heaven. They schedule everything that they have to do that day, week and month. They set deadlines that they actually stick to so that they can achieve their goals. If you are living an un-organized, messy lifestyle, you will find it extremely difficult to meet your deadlines and you may not even have time to set any in the first place.  Do this now: write down everything that you want to achieve this year and then schedule the things that you need to do this week to get the ball rolling. Then stick to it!

2. Do it Now Technology

My good friend Rhydian over at Thought Support coined this phrase and it lends itself to what is the opposite of procrastination and that it is ‘Doing it NOW!’. The more that time that passes before you do something, the more of a challenge it will be to get it completed. I’m guessing that you want your life to be as low in stress as possible; one way to do this is to make sure you put in the effort to get tasks completed as soon as possible. What you’ll notice is, you’ll start to feel more on top of things and generally more organized.

3. Write Everything Down

My girlfriend is always asking me “How do you remember everything, all the time?” The truth is I don’t use any weird memory tricks, I just write everything down. Once you have completed the task of putting pen to paper, not only do you have a physical reminder that you can place somewhere you will see it, you have also imprinted the item onto your subconscious mind making recall more likely. Getting things like birthdays, shopping lists, Christmas presents and important meeting dates out of your head and on to paper will make you more organized and make your life a lot easier.

4. Delegate, Delegate, Delegate

Those people with really organized lives have days that only focus on a few core responsibilities. Once you have your list of things that you need to do that day or week, place a star next to the once that other people can do for you. For example, today I paid people to back up my website, do some printing for me and deliver my shopping. This allowed me to spend time focused on the activities that contribute the most to my goals.

5. Everything Has its Place

Highly organized people know exactly where everything goes. It is easy to become one of these people. Create storage spaces that make it easy for you to reach for the things that you use on a daily basis and don’t allow these spaces to become cluttered. Imagine you could add up all of the time you have spent looking for your keys, your wallet or a pen? Once everything has its place you will notice that you are getting things done easier because you have freed up the time that you used to spend looking for things.

6. The 365 Day Rule

If you haven’t used it for the last year, get rid of it. People who are highly organized only hold on to what they need and what they really really want. Having less things allows you to enjoy the things that you do have and you’ll feel a sense of clarity from actually using everything that you own. There is nothing worse than cluttering your mind with the thought that you haven’t got enough space for everything that you own. Remove that thought by removing the clutter.

7. Work Hard When you need to

If you need to push the limit of how hard you have to work to stay on track and get things done. So be it!. The business of being in the highly organized elite is not easy but it’s simple. Realize that working hard right now will allow you to be clutter free in the physical, mental and emotional worlds later on.

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How to be more Confident in 6 Easy Steps

c1When I first decided that there were several things that I wanted to create in my life, I didn’t believe that I was capable of achieving them. I wanted to write a book but I thought it would be too difficult for me because I wasn’t the best at English in school. I wanted to be a speaker but I thought my regional accent would hold me back. I wanted to be in a relationship but my past told me that I wasn’t cut out for one.

You may not have a long list of things that you want to do but you can can probably empathise with the feeling of really wanting to do something and being to scared to get started. Living in this fear stifles your potential and stops you from being able to share your gifts and talents with the world. There are, of course, many different things that fuel that fear and one of those will regularly be a lack of confidence. Confidence is a learned skill and just by following the steps below on how to be more confident you will build momentum towards being the most confident version of yourself.

1. Take a Compliment

I find it absolutely fascinating how people will so easily believe the negative things that they hear and totally ignore or even disagree with the positive. There is a pleasant, humble way to take a compliment and that is to simply say “Thank You”. Avoid saying things like “Oh no, don’t be silly, me?”. Use the compliments you receive to fuel your confidence. After you have said “Thank You” out loud you can get to work into growing the confidence in your own head. You can think ‘You know what, I did do a great job and that means that I can do it over and over again.

2. Practice Being Confident

All skills improve with intelligent practice and confidence is one of those things. My favourite way of practising being confident is when I meet new people. They don’t you which means you can show them the best, most authentically confident version of yourself. Think about how a confident person would move and speak whilst thinking confident thoughts. Hold your back and shoulders high and straight and speak with a clear measured voice.

You can practice the physiological side of being confident anywhere. Get in front of of mirror, puff your chest up, throw shoulders back, hold your head up and smile a that type of smile you smiled as a kid when you new a really cool secret. It may take time but it’s a skill and you will get better.

3. Trust Yourself

You know what you are good at; trust yourself to be good at those things. You should also trust in your ability and desire to improve and learn, knowing that you can always do even better next time. It is important that you are trusting in your capabilities and not someone else’s. Avoid comparisons. The only comparison you should make is the comparison to the person that you were last week, last month and last year.

4. Embrace Your ‘Toddler Confidence’

When you entered this world you had no idea about insecurities or the possibility of being judged. You just new what you needed and you did what you could to get it. When you were learning to walk you didn’t give up because you failed at your first step, you somehow ‘knew’ that you were going to master it so you just confidently kept going.

Unfortunately, this started to change when you became aware of people seeing you in different ways and the possibilities of positive and negative feedback. If you started to get a lot of negative feedback as you grew older, perhaps you were harsh on yourself and any confidence you had was drained away. When you notice yourself feeling low on confidence, realize that you have learned to feel this way and tap into the confidence that you came into this world with.

5. Take Calculated Risks

Doing the things in the same way that you have always done them doesn’t breed confidence. When I first got into speaking I joined Toastmasters International and I really enjoyed it and I learned so much. However, I began to feel comfortable with the 15-20 people that were there every week. When I was asked to compere a charity event and also be the auctioneer for 200 people, I thought to myself ‘Absolutely no way!”. Then I knew that jumping in and just doing it would be a calculated risk that would further my career. I made some mistakes and had some technical problems to deal with but it was a massive turning point in my speaking career. Had I not taken that calculated risk I’m not sure if I would have spoken to more than 20 people, ever.

6. See Success as Inevitable

You cannot predict the future but isn’t that what many of us do in the negative sense regularly? Have you ever been in a situation that was challenging and presumed that everything was going to go wrong?

I am well aware of this idea that you can expect the worst and then not end up being disappointed if you fall short. But what if I told you that this can just become a self-fulfilling prophecy where you are never overly disappointed when failure shows up but it shows up all the time?

Focus on and expect the tiniest of successes in every waking hour and watch as they increase as if by way of magic.

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2015: Making my Goals Public

2015-goals2015 is going to be the first year that I make my goals public. By putting them out there for all visitors to my website and my social media followers to see I will raise my standards to the level required for me to achieve them. I recently wrote about the Goals that I managed to achieved in 2014 and the Post regarding my 2015 goals will be even better reading because I made my goals public.

I am extremely grateful for the things that I achieved in 2014 and I have a whole new fire to achieve great things in 2015.

You will notice that my Goals are split into each area of my life so that I can achieve what I call ‘Circular Success’. I state my goals in the present tense which helps me to visualize the goal as already achieved. I have less goals this year as I am going to streamline in order to achieve them all.

Health, Fitness & Muscularity

  • It is December 31st 2015 and I weigh 12 Stone with 8% body fat and a clearly visible 6 Pack.

[I set the date as the last day of the year because in 2014 I got in great shape and then let it slide with too many ‘treat meals’ in December]

  • It is April 30th 2015 and I have had 64 Green Juices and Green Smoothies so far this year. (16 Per Month)
  • It is April 30th 2015 and I can easily do 5 ‘Muscle Ups’ with 15kg’s strapped to me

Business and Finances

  • It is December 31st 2015 and my membership site has over 1000 Members
  • It is December 31st 2015 and jermaine-harris.com has 100+ Blog Posts
  • It is December 31st 2015 and my Foreign Exchange Trading Account Easily makes me £2,500 per month in profits
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I have £7,000 saved towards the deposit on our first House
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I have changed the lives of over 1,000 people this year through events, seminars and training programmes, with earnings of more than £10,000 as direct profit from these events

Lifestyle

  • It is January 30th 2015 and I easily had enough money in my ‘Play Account’ to go to Barcelona for the weekend with my friends and watch FC Barcelona vs. Villareal.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and me, Katie & Fraizer (New Baby) enjoyed a beautiful break away that was at least 3 days long.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I easily have enough time for 3 rounds of Golf per month.
  • It is April 30th 2015 and I have had plenty of time to decorate our new Home and prepare it for the arrival of the baby.

Relationships

[There are one or two goals that I can’t put here just in case Katie reads this post 😉 Needless to say, she will be cared for, looked after and surprised plenty of times]

  • It is August 12th 2015 and my son is now 3 months old and I have got out of bed every time he needed us and I helped support him and Katie in every way that I could and I have associated positive feelings with the disturbed sleep as I am caring for my son.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and every time that Katie needed a break or to relax I was there to look after the Baby EVERY TIME.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I orchestrated a Family day out every week I was in the country this year.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I made visiting my family, friends and ‘future in-laws’ a weekly and monthly priority.

Contribution/Charity

  • It is December 31st 2015 and I easily continued my association with The British Heart Foundation, Cancer Research UK and Dementia UK
  • It is December 25th 2015 and I doubled my contribution to the Homeless Shelter and the Dogs Home this year.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I doubled my Social Media Reach with my positive messages.

Daily Habits & Self Improvement

  • It is December 31st 2015 and I easily completed my unread book collection purchased another 20 books this year.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I easily did 3 deep breathing sessions per day this year.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I easily Worked Mastering Coaching Techniques at least 4 times per week this year,
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I did 192 Morning Rituals this year.

Will you make your Goals Public?

Share your Goals with me below and by making them public you’ll be more likely to take action on them and achieve them. I may even check in with you! Leave your goals in the comment box below and then get to it!

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7 Easy Ways to Stop Complaining

stop_complainingI still catch myself complaining sometimes even if I don’t realize straight away. I do complain a lot less than I used to though. Complaining rarely adds to the quality of your life; of course you may form a connection with someone with the same complaints but in the end these relationships don’t last. There are people that you come across (I’m sure that you can think of at least one) that are constantly moaning about their family, their health, their body, their job or all of the above! When you spend an extended period of time with these people you end up feeling drained of your life’s spirit don’t you? There doesn’t seem to be anything that can stop these people from complaining.

What if the issue is with YOU? What if you are stuck in this ‘complaining cycle’? We have all experienced that feeling where things seem to just be going wrong left right and centre and complaining seems like the only thing left. It takes less effort to complain than it does to tackle the issue head on and find a solution.

Below are 7 Easy ways to stop complaining and maintain a ‘Solution Focus’.

1. Take Responsibility

If there is something that is negatively impacting your life that you have the ability to change, accept the fact that either you can fix it right now or nothing can be done at this moment in time and you’ll fix it when the opportunity arises. You intellectually know that complaining won’t solve anything so put it into practice. Focus your mind on the things that you CAN do and action steps that you can take.

2. Look After Yourself

In modern society it is common for the stresses and strains of busy life to destroy our positivity. Be sure to schedule time just for you. Read that book you’ve been itching to read, play a round of golf, get a massage or do whatever makes you feel relaxed and re-energizes you.

3. Be the Positive Voice

Whenever you are with friends, family or co-workers and they get into a cycle of complaining, notice something positive about their life and/or the situation. This is a great way to change the focus and energy of the conversation. You could also simply say something funny to diffuse the complaining. Although useful, this technique may not always be appropriate and if that’s the case just keep quiet, control your thoughts and avoid complaining yourself.

4. Write a Gratitude List

You will have seen me mention this strategy in other posts. That is because it really is a great way to diffuse any negative feelings that you may have. Stop for a minute and write down all of things that you are grateful for. Everything from your health, to a roof over your head, to your family…everything that comes to mind. This will allow any petty complaints you had to fizzle away.

5. Meditate

When I first came across the idea of meditation I presumed that it wasn’t for me and that it was a practice reserved for the Buddhist monks of this world. However, I’ve found that even the simplest meditation can help. We often allow our minds to zoom off in a hundred different directions. Meditation will allow you to train yourself to calm these impulsive negative thoughts and be more positive and considered in your approach to life.

6. Re-Train Your Brain

Re-training your brain may be a challenge at first and it will have positive results 100% of the time when you stick with it. For whatever reason, without proper management our minds tend to go the negative. It is time for you to become aware of these thoughts and when you notice yourself thinking a negative thought about something, force yourself to stop (you can even say STOP!) and you can say a positive replacement. For Example, “I always get stuck in this stupid traffic!” “STOP!” “I’m so grateful to have a car”. I know that this takes time and persist with it and you will be amazed by the results.

7. Get it Out!

If you are going through an especially difficult time it is useful to vent sometimes. Be brave and share your feelings with a close friend, family member or therapist. Getting it out will then allow you to fully commit the some or all of the steps outlined above.

 

If you’ve been getting sick of it and wondering how to stop complaining following just a couple of these steps will get you on the road.

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2014: Goals Achieved & Crucial Lessons

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At the end of each year I reflect on how far I have come, the goals I managed to achieve, goals that I didn’t achieve and the lessons that I can learn. I first came across this idea when I was listening to a Jim Rohn audiotape. The great Mr. Rohn believe that you should reflect on the previous year for 2 major reasons: Firstly, to notice and celebrate all of the successes of the year. By taking the time out to celebrate your achievements you are reinforcing your belief to go ahead and achieve more goals. I also believe that the feeling of gratitude and pride that this process will give you is absolutely priceless. Secondly, reviewing the goals that you didn’t quite achieve allows you to ask some powerful questions so that you can do even better next time. What did I learn? What’s the best thing that will happen as a result of not achieving the goal? By going through the process of finding the positive lessons in each ‘failure’ you are making sure that you don’t make the same mistakes again and refine your processes for the next year.

The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be of greater value than what you get.  – Jim Rohn

2014 was the proverbial rollercoaster for me; there were holidays of a lifetime, family tragedies and illnesses, book releases, seminars, a pregnancy and more.

Goals Achieved and Accomplishments

Here the goals that I achieved and other accomplishments in 2014 that I am grateful to have created.

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  • Had a Green Juice at least 5 days per week
  • Did a 60 Day, 0 Carb ‘Protein and Green’ Eating Plan
  • The above allowed me to get down to 7% Bodyfat (Although this is technically a missed goal as my target was 6%. Still an accomplishment.
  • Ate a spoonful of Coconut Oil every day
  • Achieved my Goal of 10 ‘Muscle Ups’ in a Row

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  • Secured 4 Book Sponsors
  • Released my 1st Book ‘The Rut Buster’ 
  • Published 30 Blog Posts
  • Published 22 Videos to Youtube with my channel growing to over 4,000 views
  • Coached over 15 Clients One on One, helping to improve their lives
  • Conducted my first personal Seminar
  • Conducted my first 2 Day Long Seminar
  • Spoke to Over 400 People in South Africa
  • Launched a membership site
  • I learned how to trade the Foreign Exchange
  • I made 170% profit on my Foreign Exchange Account
  • I successfully separated my money into different accounts to control spending

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  • Got a New Car (Goal Accelerated by the Pregnancy of my girlfriend, Katie. I needed a 4 Door Car for the Baby Seat!)
  • Spent a week in Lanzarote, Canary Islands with Katie
  • Spent 5 Days in Las Vegas with Katie
  • Spent a week in Isla Mujeres, Cancun with Katie
  • Had a Great week off with my Friend who visited from Australia
  • Had a Great Long Weekend in Newcastle with my friends

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  • Supported my Nan through her near fatal heart attack and consequent recovery
  • Supported my girlfriend through several family tragedies
  • Visited my Grandfather in his Home regularly
  • Spent time with family and friends every week
  • Found out I am going to be a father
  • Surprised Katie with a Trip to Lanzarote for her Birthday
  • Had at least one Date Night/Date Day every week me and Katie were in the same country.
  • Had a lot of progressive Conversations with my best friend Rhydian of Thought Support
  • Dedicated more time to new relationships both social and business.
  • Coordinated the Rental of my first House with Katie
  • Dedicated myself with to the preparation and learning required to be a great dad

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  • Donated 3.33% of Book Profits to The British Heart Foundation
  • Donated 3.33% of Book Profits to Dementia UK
  • Donated 3.33% of Book Profits to Cancer Research UK
  • Gave £100 worth of Food to the Homeless Shelter on Christmas Eve
  • Gave Dog Food to the Dogs Home on Christmas Eve
  • Gave a lot of time helping people through answering Facebook messages, emails etc.
  • Helped all of the members of my membership site
  • Reached Thousands of People with my positive messages on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram
  • Allowed under 16’s to join my membership site for Free

Daily Habits & Self Improvement

  • Read 41 Books
  • Went through ‘Train the Trainer’ in South Africa
  • Created several Pinterest Vision Boards
  • Did my Morning Ritual consistently
  • Did Deep Breathing twice a day
  • Wrote a ‘Gratitude List’ every morning
  • Recorded any inspired thoughts in my journal

My Key Lessons from 2014

  • Going for too many goals at once can cause you to become confused and even stressed. Complete one goal at a time and then move on to the next one.
  • It is something that I always knew intellectually and I really started to practice it in 2014 and that is: what you THINK from moment to moment really will be the major factor in your happiness. Train yourself to focus on what you’re grateful for and to see the beauty in each moment and happiness will follow.
  • Remember to have fun with your friends. I know that people who write about personal development sometimes get caught up on working constantly and I used to be one of them. I realized in 2014 that you have to get out, socialize and enjoy the company of others to really nourish your spirit. Going back to working hard and achieving other goals will then be easier.
  • Being Healthy is easier than you think. Although I have gone to what some people would perceive to be extremes in the past to create rapid results and cure my asthma I have gotten to a stage where health and energy is easy. I make sure that I manage my mind when it comes to craving ‘bad’ foods, have a green juice, a green smoothie, my supplements and lots of greens with every meal and the rest easy. I have also realized that your ‘treat meal’ should be simply enjoyed with no negative feelings afterwards.
  • Nothing feels quite like giving to those with less than you.
  • Helping kids is amazing and they are like sponges. Give them good information and they will act on it and create great results.
  • Make sure that when you create an action plan (to do list) for the day, you mark the Top 3 items that you have to get done. These are the items that will contribute the most to your goals when compared to the rest.
  • The Foreign Exchange is a vehicle for long term wealth.
  • Separate yourself from that automatic ‘Little Voice’ and your true core. That ‘Little Voice’ is lying to you and holding you back by creating fears and excuses. Tell it to shut up and move forward!
  • It is important to keep improving no matter what. There is no destination only continual progress.

Even though 2014 came with it’s challenges, it was an amazing year and 2015 is going to be even better. For the first time I am going to publicly share my yearly goals to create a high level of accountability. Please keep up to date below:

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How to Change your Environment and Ultimately your Life

I was overwhelmed when someone that I had never met from Germany e-mailed me and said that he had watched my videos and found me inspiring and that I had changed his life. This was an absolutely incredible feeling and I am so thankful that my videos are doing what they’re supposed to do. My new friend had also explained how I had inspired him to only spend time with positive people in positive places and he wanted more advice on how to build on this.

This raises an important point: You have to surround yourself with people who are going to give you energy and push you up, rather than drain you and pull you down.


If you sit down and think about it, you will realise that you are becoming (or have become) like the people that you most associate with. You think like them, you talk like them, you do the things that they do and you have the same mindset as them. Of course this is absolutely wonderful if you’re surrounded by confident, excited, motivated, healthy, ambitious, hard working people. The challenges arise when you spend all of your time with people who are negative, lazy with low self-esteem, you are truly in danger of becoming the same way. I have been lucky in the fact that I have friends that have understood my transformation and supported it and interestingly enough, to use money as an example, something has happened where we are all finally earning more money than ever before. Although this was the case for me, I can relate when people say that they don’t know where to look when it comes to finding positive influences.

The best thing that you can do is to find these positive associations through books, blogs or youtube videos. You will notice that you are changing your environment just by doing this. These role models that you find through these channels will become part of your psyche just like friends do. The person in the Youtube Videos in the beginning for me was Tony Robbins. I literally started to take on parts of Tony’s mindset, beliefs and habits. This was pretty amazing as Tony Robbins is probably the peak performance genius of our time. You can do the same. Use positive blogs and videos like this one, use books and audio programmes. Do whatever you can to change the people you surround yourself with, whether you are spending face to face time with them or not.

If you have been surrounded by negative, draining people with no ambition the great news is you can reverse the damage. Since deciding to turn my life around I read hundreds of books, attended seminars, paid for programmes and hired coaches. I can tell you right now, it feels like I am genuinely surrounded by these positive people every day because I continually refresh their message. That’s why I love doing what I do now. All of the videos that I make, the programmes that I teach and the blog posts that I write are the culmination of everything that I have learned from all of these people.

As you do this and you become this mixture of all of the great people that you are hanging around with and learning from you will begin to see amazing things happening in your life. From the people you attract to the positive changes that you experience.

It is this feeding and strengthening of the mind that I have become increasingly passionate about in recent months and I really want to help as many people as possible do the same. You see our mind is like a muscle, the more we work it, strengthen it and feed it, the stronger it becomes. If this is something that you’d like to know more about you could Check out my Monthly Mind Upgrade to see how I will upgrade your mind every single month.

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How to Overcome Obstacles

ID-100123059I had been working tirelessly on a project that could have been life and business changing when I got some information that was going to hurt the project in a big way. The Obstacle had presented itself and I started to feel anxious and on edge pretty much immediately. I could have rolled over there and then and just felt defeated and depressed. However, I decided to do whatever it took to find a meaning for the situation that meant that it was actually good news.

Nothing has any meaning beyond the meaning that you give it.

I wanted to make a video as soon as this happened because unexpected obstacles is one of the main things that I get asked about. I wanted to share with you how I face the obstacle straight away and how I overcome it as quickly as possible. No matter how positive you are ‘Life is going to Happen’ and sometimes it’s going to smack you in the face. However, the main thing that we have to do is DECIDE to believe in a positive outcome and change the way that you are viewing the situation straight away. This will allow you to get back to it and making progress as quickly as you possibly can.

The Video is Below:


As I said, you ARE going to encounter adversity in your life and if you follow my process of how to overcome obstacles, your life will never be the same again. It is up to us and only us to find the empowering possibilities that the obstacle could be giving us. You can begin to do this immediately by asking the empowering questions that I also use in my morning ritual like “What’s the best thing about this?” or “What is the fastest most fun way for me to turn this around?”. I always say that your mind is like Google; ask it a question and it has to give you answer. Ask a better question and you’ll get a better answer.

What if Life wasn’t happening TO you and it was happening FOR you?

The above is a belief that I have internalised. No matter what happens, I always believe: “Everything that is happening in my Life is happening to ultimately make my life even better”. I have trained myself to find the positive in any situation, I just have to find it.

Nothing in Life will last FOREVER, no matter how much it feels that way sometimes. I have also taken on the belief “This obstacle hasn’t come to stay, it has come to pass”. Of course, it always does. Realise that you can jump up, take positive action and keep going until you win.

Just picking up a tiny tip from this Blog Post will serve you. I know that there may be obstacles in your life at the moment and you have to train yourself to believe that things will work out your favour and turn out how you want them to as long as you keep moving forward.

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How to Feel Better or Change a Negative Behaviour by Interrupting the Pattern

ID-100110736The true quality of our lives is defined by how we feel on a moment-to-moment basis right? Over the last 3 years I have wanted to investigate this concept a little deeper to see how I can stop feeling bad or change a negative feeling or behaviour in an instant. As a result, I kept coming across a technique called ‘The Pattern Interrupt’. This particular technique was popularized by the founder of NLP (or Neuro Linguistic Programming), Richard Bandler and I discovered its many applications in Bandler’s book; Get the Life you Want. I use this technique in my life on a regular basis due to the rapid success rate that it has. Think of a habit, behaviour or feeling that you would like to change. It can be anything from, feeling stressed, feeling anxious, comfort eating to lazing on the couch. I have realised that the key thing to realize is that the feeling or behaviour is simply an automatic pattern. It’s not you any more, you have been conditioned to the point where these things are just ‘happening’. The exciting thing about this realisation is how easy it then is to make rapid, positive changes. Depending on your learning style, you can watch the video of me going through the process or read the description of the process below. I recommend that which ever way around you do it that you read the description and watch the video to fully grasp the concept.

How to Change a Bad Feeling or Negative Behaviour using a Pattern Interrupt

1) Experience the Feeling or Behaviour at its Fullest Whatever you are looking to change, you must experience it as fully as possible first. Tony Robbins calls this ‘getting the pattern running’. As an example, I wanted to overcome the feeling of anxiety when it came to building my business so I purposely made myself feel anxious about my business. The fuller you can experience the feeling, the faster and more successful the change will be. Using anxiety as an example, you would ask yourself; “How can I get anxious right now?”, “How would I be holding my body?”, then change your body and head position to reflect the anxious state of mind. Think of the things that make you feel anxious and say what you’d say to yourself. When you are experiencing the anxiety to the fullest you can go to the next step.

2) Interrupt the Pattern Now that you are experiencing the emotion or behaviour to the fullest you must do something totally unique and somewhat outrageous to interrupt the pattern. Your feelings will be jolted so much that you will move into a more positive state. Think of  the simple Mathematics pattern: 2,4,6,8,10,12,14 – if I interrupt that pattern and make it 2,4,5,29,10,12,14 it simply isn’t a pattern any more. Human feelings are the same. I know what the next question you have, is: What Pattern Interrupt should I use? When you are experiencing the pattern of feelings at their fullest, change your body language drastically and shout or do something silly and crazy. You could jump up and shout “WOOOHHHOOO I LOVE GRASS!!!”. I know that sounds insane but that’s great, the more outrageous the better! It is the body change and craziness that interrupts the pattern. Sometimes with clients I tell them to jump up in a really loud voice, then tell to laugh as hard as they possibly can. Can you see how this really does interrupt the pattern?

3) Replace the Old, Negative Pattern with a Positive New One  Now that the pattern has been well and truly interrupted, you need to replace it with a positive pattern that you actually want to experience. For me, I wanted to feel happy and confident about building my business, replacing the old anxiety. The easy way to create this happy and confident feeling is to stand up, throw your shoulders back, throw your chest up and put a huge smile on your face. You know what positive alternatives will work for you, so do that. When you have done this enough times and it becomes totally automatic you will be reconditioned to feel the feelings and behave in a way that you want. I understand that you are probably sceptical, I was as well. The fact of the matter is, this stuff really works and you should use this tool to interrupt every negative pattern in your life.

Start Today and Keep Going

This process is a skill and in my opinion, like any other skill you can’t just do it once and expect to improve forever. Start right now with something that you’d like to change, then go through it 10 times per day for 2 weeks. You will notice yourself getting better and the old patterns being replaced. Most of all, Enjoy it!

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How to Overcome Fear And Improve Your Life Quickly

Watch the Video Blog Below on How to Overcome Fear and read the Blog Post Below

ID-100262240As time progresses I am getting more and more passionate about sharing videos and blog posts that contain ideas that have changed my life. One thing that I have had to do consistently is overcome fears. The exciting thing that I have discovered is that you can actually use fear to your advantage as opposed to being paralysed by it. The strategies that I am going to describe have been invaluable to me and some of my clients that have been suffering from the symptoms of fear.

You may be in a situation where you are doing anything and everything instead of doing the thing that you are scared to do. These tools on how to overcome fear will change your life in the same way that they have changed mine. They are the tools that I have learned and developed that allow me to work hard and smart on my goals every single day. They help me to take action on the things that improve my life, they help me to eat well, train hard and build my business.

Each and every time you find yourself not doing what you know you SHOULD be doing it’s because you’re not being totally honest with yourself as to how important the task actually is. You are subconsciously avoiding the things that scare you a little bit even though they’ll take you to where you want to go. That ‘Little Voice’ in your head starts saying things like “Ah it’s okay, you can do it later” or “It won’t make that much of a difference” or “I just don’t want to do it right now” or whatever ever other nonsense the little voice in your head is telling you.

ID-100174428You have to have the presence of mind to consciously say to that voice “STOP!..that is absolute rubbish! Ultimately, what price will I have to pay if I don’t do this right now? What major impact could it have on my life if I don’t do it?”

It is getting head on with the gravity of the situation that will get you back on track and making progress in spite of fear.

I often simplify human behaviour as a drive to gain good feelings or a drive to avoid bad feelings.

If you are not getting on with something, it is because you think that you’ll feel bad in some way if you do it. You have managed to associate bad feelings in some way to the task. This was useful when humans wanted to avoid the bad feelings of being in the presence of a Lion in the wild, however, it is often not as useful now. If you really sat down and thought about how much worse the bad feelings of being obese, with no energy and a likely early grave are than the good feelings of eating that extra cake are you’ll see the power of this idea. We often find ourselves focusing on the immediate good feelings that we will have without considering the long term bad feelings.

There are many Questions you can ask yourself to change your focus to the overall impact on the quality of your life. Here are some that I use to realise the bad feelings that are coming my way if I keep living in this fearful, negative way:

“What will be the overall effect on my life if I keep doing this?”

“What price will I pay in my health, relationships and finances?”

“What will I deny myself in my life if I keep living like this?”

“What has living like this already cost me?”

Here are the questions that I ask myself to induce the good feelings that I will experience if I do the things that will make my life better, even though I may be fearful:

“How will my life improve by doing this?”

“How does doing it move me closer to achieving my BIG goals?”

“How will doing this improve my health, finances and my relationships?”

“Why will I be grateful in 20 years time for doing it?”

ID-10022465I have found that fear can be a sneaky temptress and you can be subconsciously fearful of all sorts of bad feelings that you didn’t even no existed. For example, at the back of your mind, you may believe that if you become a millionaire all of your friends will be jealous and no one will like you. This fear will lead you to link bad feelings to being a millionaire and therefore make you procrastinate and not work on creating financial freedom for you and your family.

The secret is to ask these questions with every choice that you face; fries or salad? Write a business plan or Browse Facebook? Gym or TV? Do you see how often we are faced by these choices?

If you still find yourself not making progress on your goals because of pesky little subconscious fears it is because you haven’t been totally honest with yourself yet.

You cannot get to the point where you know how to overcome fear by just thinking about the good feelings and the bad feelings on an intellectual level. You have to truly FEEL them at your emotional centre. Experience the intense good feelings of being a happy, healthy, success at your very core and experience the overwhelming bad feelings of being an overweight failure and you really are on the road to lasting change.

The fact of the matter is you KNOW that you should be more afraid of what your destructive habits are doing to you but do you actually feel it?

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Appreciate Everything

jermaine-harrisEven though it was raining this morning, I still chose to take my Dog, Prince, for a walk around the Park that is just down the road from my house in Cardiff. I realised that I was one of only a handful of people in the park and I found myself observing the beautiful spring trees, the blossoms and the rest of the park’s scenery. I felt totally relaxed and centred. 

It was an incredibly refreshing experience because I have been especially busy lately and it was amazing to be able to stand there and think freely.

I started to feel genuinely lucky. If things had transpired slightly differently in my life I may not have been able to walk or even be alive today. I felt lucky to be able to be able to experience the sights, smells and sounds of the park and this was compounded by my gratitude for being able to actually walk around it. I felt an immense gratitude for the fact that I am spending my days doing what I absolutely love to do, which is give my all, writing, speaking and coaching on topics that allow people to improve their lives. As is always the way; these positive thoughts seemed to attract more positive thoughts. I started thinking about my beautiful family and my lifelong friends.

I progressed to think about how fortunate that I am to have had so many different experiences before the age of 26. Everything that I have been through so far; both the positive and the negative experiences have made me who I am today. I have suffered from a massive amount of rejection, pain and failure. I have made many mistakes and awful decisions. However, every one of these of things have allowed me to develop into the person that I am right now.

I feel gratitude for all of the experiences. The negative ones actually provided me with the motivation that I needed at the time to push forward in life. All of the amazingly positive experiences have added depth, celebration and a true sense of worth that I will always remember. Whatever has happened in my life, I have decided to use them to fuel my human potential and create a new destiny for myself.

If I hadn’t been on the ‘Jermaine Harris Roller Coaster’, who knows what I’d be doing? The chances are I would have just ended up with an average existence, with less friends and definitely much less motivation.

I went on to think about how grateful that I am for the proactive decisions that I have made over the last 3 years. The decisions that have led me to be obsessed with improving my life and passionate about improving the lives of others. I felt grateful for taking the scary decision to quit a well paid job that I was good at to start my own coaching business and ultimately become an author.

appreciate-everythingI thought about how grateful that I am to have conquered my asthma and transform my health when doctors had said that it was ‘impossible’.

These positive thoughts were simply magnetic. It was at this point that I decided that I was going to share this information with you. I wanted to help you to be aware of the fact that it is…

...Gratitude and Appreciation that allow us to experience true fulfilment.

I know that this may sound like an old cliché but the fact of the matter is, most members of society are not taking the time think about being grateful. They are so busy paying attention to the next payslip or ‘becoming successful’ that the things that they can be truly grateful for are totally eluding them. Of course a massive part of what I do is focused on success but I have become increasingly aware of the fact that ‘achievement’ isn’t going to make you happy.

What will make you happy is the person that you develop into.

I want you to imagine yourself as an empty cup and take on the belief that the skill involved with continuous happiness is filling that cup every single day with the gratitude and appreciation for the things that you actually have.

When was the last time that you actually did this? I mean genuinely took the time to focus on the things that feel fortunate to have or experience in your life.

It will be an amazing gift that you will give yourself because you will be attracting the love, validation and respect that you want from other people and you’ll be creating it in your own mind. As you do this more regularly and your ‘cup’ is filled with gratitude every day you will develop an emotional strength without having to depend on other people.

The whole process becomes life changing and exciting when you realise how comfortable that you are in your own skin, how much you feel compelled to contribute to the lives of others and how ’emotionally fulfilled’ you feel every day.

Realise that the only reason you want to be successful is because it will give you ‘Good Feelings’. Why not experience them in advance?

To achieve this spend 10 Minutes in the morning and 10 minutes in the evening, thinking about or even better, writing down, all of the things that you are grateful for.

I’d love for you to comment below, stating the things that you are grateful for. Thank you 🙂

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