2015: Making my Goals Public

2015-goals2015 is going to be the first year that I make my goals public. By putting them out there for all visitors to my website and my social media followers to see I will raise my standards to the level required for me to achieve them. I recently wrote about the Goals that I managed to achieved in 2014 and the Post regarding my 2015 goals will be even better reading because I made my goals public.

I am extremely grateful for the things that I achieved in 2014 and I have a whole new fire to achieve great things in 2015.

You will notice that my Goals are split into each area of my life so that I can achieve what I call ‘Circular Success’. I state my goals in the present tense which helps me to visualize the goal as already achieved. I have less goals this year as I am going to streamline in order to achieve them all.

Health, Fitness & Muscularity

  • It is December 31st 2015 and I weigh 12 Stone with 8% body fat and a clearly visible 6 Pack.

[I set the date as the last day of the year because in 2014 I got in great shape and then let it slide with too many ‘treat meals’ in December]

  • It is April 30th 2015 and I have had 64 Green Juices and Green Smoothies so far this year. (16 Per Month)
  • It is April 30th 2015 and I can easily do 5 ‘Muscle Ups’ with 15kg’s strapped to me

Business and Finances

  • It is December 31st 2015 and my membership site has over 1000 Members
  • It is December 31st 2015 and jermaine-harris.com has 100+ Blog Posts
  • It is December 31st 2015 and my Foreign Exchange Trading Account Easily makes me £2,500 per month in profits
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I have £7,000 saved towards the deposit on our first House
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I have changed the lives of over 1,000 people this year through events, seminars and training programmes, with earnings of more than £10,000 as direct profit from these events

Lifestyle

  • It is January 30th 2015 and I easily had enough money in my ‘Play Account’ to go to Barcelona for the weekend with my friends and watch FC Barcelona vs. Villareal.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and me, Katie & Fraizer (New Baby) enjoyed a beautiful break away that was at least 3 days long.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I easily have enough time for 3 rounds of Golf per month.
  • It is April 30th 2015 and I have had plenty of time to decorate our new Home and prepare it for the arrival of the baby.

Relationships

[There are one or two goals that I can’t put here just in case Katie reads this post 😉 Needless to say, she will be cared for, looked after and surprised plenty of times]

  • It is August 12th 2015 and my son is now 3 months old and I have got out of bed every time he needed us and I helped support him and Katie in every way that I could and I have associated positive feelings with the disturbed sleep as I am caring for my son.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and every time that Katie needed a break or to relax I was there to look after the Baby EVERY TIME.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I orchestrated a Family day out every week I was in the country this year.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I made visiting my family, friends and ‘future in-laws’ a weekly and monthly priority.

Contribution/Charity

  • It is December 31st 2015 and I easily continued my association with The British Heart Foundation, Cancer Research UK and Dementia UK
  • It is December 25th 2015 and I doubled my contribution to the Homeless Shelter and the Dogs Home this year.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I doubled my Social Media Reach with my positive messages.

Daily Habits & Self Improvement

  • It is December 31st 2015 and I easily completed my unread book collection purchased another 20 books this year.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I easily did 3 deep breathing sessions per day this year.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I easily Worked Mastering Coaching Techniques at least 4 times per week this year,
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I did 192 Morning Rituals this year.

Will you make your Goals Public?

Share your Goals with me below and by making them public you’ll be more likely to take action on them and achieve them. I may even check in with you! Leave your goals in the comment box below and then get to it!

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2014: Goals Achieved & Crucial Lessons

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At the end of each year I reflect on how far I have come, the goals I managed to achieve, goals that I didn’t achieve and the lessons that I can learn. I first came across this idea when I was listening to a Jim Rohn audiotape. The great Mr. Rohn believe that you should reflect on the previous year for 2 major reasons: Firstly, to notice and celebrate all of the successes of the year. By taking the time out to celebrate your achievements you are reinforcing your belief to go ahead and achieve more goals. I also believe that the feeling of gratitude and pride that this process will give you is absolutely priceless. Secondly, reviewing the goals that you didn’t quite achieve allows you to ask some powerful questions so that you can do even better next time. What did I learn? What’s the best thing that will happen as a result of not achieving the goal? By going through the process of finding the positive lessons in each ‘failure’ you are making sure that you don’t make the same mistakes again and refine your processes for the next year.

The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be of greater value than what you get.  – Jim Rohn

2014 was the proverbial rollercoaster for me; there were holidays of a lifetime, family tragedies and illnesses, book releases, seminars, a pregnancy and more.

Goals Achieved and Accomplishments

Here the goals that I achieved and other accomplishments in 2014 that I am grateful to have created.

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  • Had a Green Juice at least 5 days per week
  • Did a 60 Day, 0 Carb ‘Protein and Green’ Eating Plan
  • The above allowed me to get down to 7% Bodyfat (Although this is technically a missed goal as my target was 6%. Still an accomplishment.
  • Ate a spoonful of Coconut Oil every day
  • Achieved my Goal of 10 ‘Muscle Ups’ in a Row

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  • Secured 4 Book Sponsors
  • Released my 1st Book ‘The Rut Buster’ 
  • Published 30 Blog Posts
  • Published 22 Videos to Youtube with my channel growing to over 4,000 views
  • Coached over 15 Clients One on One, helping to improve their lives
  • Conducted my first personal Seminar
  • Conducted my first 2 Day Long Seminar
  • Spoke to Over 400 People in South Africa
  • Launched a membership site
  • I learned how to trade the Foreign Exchange
  • I made 170% profit on my Foreign Exchange Account
  • I successfully separated my money into different accounts to control spending

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  • Got a New Car (Goal Accelerated by the Pregnancy of my girlfriend, Katie. I needed a 4 Door Car for the Baby Seat!)
  • Spent a week in Lanzarote, Canary Islands with Katie
  • Spent 5 Days in Las Vegas with Katie
  • Spent a week in Isla Mujeres, Cancun with Katie
  • Had a Great week off with my Friend who visited from Australia
  • Had a Great Long Weekend in Newcastle with my friends

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  • Supported my Nan through her near fatal heart attack and consequent recovery
  • Supported my girlfriend through several family tragedies
  • Visited my Grandfather in his Home regularly
  • Spent time with family and friends every week
  • Found out I am going to be a father
  • Surprised Katie with a Trip to Lanzarote for her Birthday
  • Had at least one Date Night/Date Day every week me and Katie were in the same country.
  • Had a lot of progressive Conversations with my best friend Rhydian of Thought Support
  • Dedicated more time to new relationships both social and business.
  • Coordinated the Rental of my first House with Katie
  • Dedicated myself with to the preparation and learning required to be a great dad

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  • Donated 3.33% of Book Profits to The British Heart Foundation
  • Donated 3.33% of Book Profits to Dementia UK
  • Donated 3.33% of Book Profits to Cancer Research UK
  • Gave £100 worth of Food to the Homeless Shelter on Christmas Eve
  • Gave Dog Food to the Dogs Home on Christmas Eve
  • Gave a lot of time helping people through answering Facebook messages, emails etc.
  • Helped all of the members of my membership site
  • Reached Thousands of People with my positive messages on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram
  • Allowed under 16’s to join my membership site for Free

Daily Habits & Self Improvement

  • Read 41 Books
  • Went through ‘Train the Trainer’ in South Africa
  • Created several Pinterest Vision Boards
  • Did my Morning Ritual consistently
  • Did Deep Breathing twice a day
  • Wrote a ‘Gratitude List’ every morning
  • Recorded any inspired thoughts in my journal

My Key Lessons from 2014

  • Going for too many goals at once can cause you to become confused and even stressed. Complete one goal at a time and then move on to the next one.
  • It is something that I always knew intellectually and I really started to practice it in 2014 and that is: what you THINK from moment to moment really will be the major factor in your happiness. Train yourself to focus on what you’re grateful for and to see the beauty in each moment and happiness will follow.
  • Remember to have fun with your friends. I know that people who write about personal development sometimes get caught up on working constantly and I used to be one of them. I realized in 2014 that you have to get out, socialize and enjoy the company of others to really nourish your spirit. Going back to working hard and achieving other goals will then be easier.
  • Being Healthy is easier than you think. Although I have gone to what some people would perceive to be extremes in the past to create rapid results and cure my asthma I have gotten to a stage where health and energy is easy. I make sure that I manage my mind when it comes to craving ‘bad’ foods, have a green juice, a green smoothie, my supplements and lots of greens with every meal and the rest easy. I have also realized that your ‘treat meal’ should be simply enjoyed with no negative feelings afterwards.
  • Nothing feels quite like giving to those with less than you.
  • Helping kids is amazing and they are like sponges. Give them good information and they will act on it and create great results.
  • Make sure that when you create an action plan (to do list) for the day, you mark the Top 3 items that you have to get done. These are the items that will contribute the most to your goals when compared to the rest.
  • The Foreign Exchange is a vehicle for long term wealth.
  • Separate yourself from that automatic ‘Little Voice’ and your true core. That ‘Little Voice’ is lying to you and holding you back by creating fears and excuses. Tell it to shut up and move forward!
  • It is important to keep improving no matter what. There is no destination only continual progress.

Even though 2014 came with it’s challenges, it was an amazing year and 2015 is going to be even better. For the first time I am going to publicly share my yearly goals to create a high level of accountability. Please keep up to date below:

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10 Reasons Why You Need a Life Coach

life-coachIf that negative little voice woke up when you read the headline of this article and said “I don’t need a life coach”. Take a breather, you may need to read this more than anyone else.

Whether it is the best selling self-help books of all time, the best athletes or the world’s most successful businessmen; all of their best advice would have one thing in common: The most rapid route to success/achievement in anything is to locate a coach, role model or mentor that has either achieved what you are trying to achieve or has helped others to achieve it. This is something that you have heard before, right? All of the successful people that I have studied offer this advice, from Tiger Woods to Tony Robbins.

Although this is true and everyone accepts this notion, most people don’t have a life coach in their lives. We are all addicted to the “I can do it myself” mentality and we are not prepared to invest our money into the most important thing in our lives (ourselves!). I used to be one of these people and it was holding me back from success. I now have several coaches and mentors to coach me in different areas of my life and if I could turn back the clock, I would have had a life coach as soon as I turned 18 (if not younger). I would have saved so much time, money and effort. That being said, I will be forever grateful for the coaches and mentors that I have in my life right now and I am delighted to have learned from my mistakes.

I have been doing a lot of reflecting recently and I decided to make a Video about “The10 Reasons Why you Need a Life Coach”. Having a coach has allowed me to improve my life much faster and has allowed me to become a much better life coach myself. Whatever I have invested in coaching I have always made it back at least 3 times over in time and money. Without my coach I wouldn’t have started my own business, I wouldn’t have got down to 7% body fat, I wouldn’t have cured my asthma, I wouldn’t be making money on the internet whilst I was asleep; I wouldn’t have achieved so many things.  

Please Watch My Video Blog on The 10 Reasons Why you Need a Life Coach:


In the above Video I discuss how having coaches has impacted my life and how much my life has changed as a result. 

10 Reasons Why You Need a Life Coach

Below are the 10 Reasons Why you Need a Life Coach in more detail:

1. Having a Life Coach Saves you Time and Brings you in a State of ‘Rapid Achievement’

We are all running out of time. You can always get more money, more food, more cars, more businesses but you’ll never be able to get more time. Although this is true and people, once again, accept this idea on an intellectual level, they still try to do things the hard way; by themselves and end up wasting precious time. This happens when we try and do things on or own because we are on a path that is new to us and we don’t know the fastest route. 

Imagine you were stuck in the Sahara Desert and you had to find your way to civilisation. You could end up on an incredibly frustrating, stressful journey of trial and error that would ultimately end in your death.

Now imagine the same scenario but you are allowed to have the most experienced Sahara Desert Navigator in the world with you at all times. This person knows every inch of the great desert, knows how to survive and knows how to get to civilisation very quickly one hundred times out of a hundred. Would this save you time, stress and anguish? Would it ultimately save life your life? In fact, would this actually end up being an enjoyable experience that you would recommend to your family and friends? 

This is the best way I can describe having a coach. They give you the ‘map’ or the path to follow. Like the Desert Adventurer they have been there before, they know how to help you and they will get you to where you need to go a lot faster. They know every wrong turn to avoid and they know exactly what to do if you venture in the wrong direction.

2. Having a Life Coach Makes you Accountable

When I had my first life coach I really benefited from being held accountable for everything that I did. When you have a life coach you’ll find yourself procrastinating less, you’ll stop fear from holding you back and you’ll generally get things done faster. Every human has limiting beliefs and restrains that we place on ourselves. We all have thought and behaviour patterns that stop us from fulfilling our greatest potential. A life coach that is there to push you to heights that you have never been to before will allow you to have breakthroughs and “aha” moments. Once this happens, your life elevates itself quickly and easily.

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The idea of a coach making you accountable addresses the fact that most of us already know what we have to do to move forward but we just don’t do it. Having a life coach that expects you to have made progress by your next call or session makes sure that you get on with things! The life coaching process will teach you to place no value on excuses and to only be interested in taking action. When you are doing things by yourself, you only answer to yourself. And as you probably already know, you are very good and finding excuses as to why you couldn’t do it. What I found in being accountable to a coach is that just the thought of giving excuses makes you feel embarrassed so you force yourself to step up. 

3. Having a Life Coach Allows you to Vent Your Frustrations in a ‘Safe’ Environment

You know those days where things just don’t seem to be going quite right? Things have annoyed you, people have gone back on their word? You have tried your absolute best and things just haven’t worked out, you know those days, right? It is great to have supportive family and friends in this situation but I can tell you there is nothing quite like having a Life Coach. With family and friends you ‘guess’ what there opinion is going to be before they give it, you let the tension build between you rather than venting it fully. With a Life Coach you can really get the most out of a day filled with bad moments. A quality coach will get you to use your ‘bad day’ to your advantage, so you can push forward rather that be held back. 

4. Having a Life Coach Saves you Money

I thought that running a coaching business and an online business simultaneously was going to be easy. After all, I had read a couple of books, I had the motivation, I had the skills, right? WRONG. I really had no idea and when you have no idea you are letting money just pass you buy. To compound this further, you will find yourself (just like I did) wasting money on things that you think will make you money but end up making you nothing. You start to operate at a loss. When I took on a coach to help me with my business, he told me what to DO and I did it. He ended up thinking of things that I never would have thought of, he believed that I could do it. All I had to do was execute.

Going into all of the ways that coaches have helped me would take a very long time indeed. It suffices to say that the investment that I have made in coaches has saved me thousands of pounds! If that little voice in your head has ever said “I can’t afford a Life Coach”, let me tell you the plain truth You can’t afford NOT to have one!

5. Having a Life Coach will Help you Find Your Purpose

I had no idea what my purpose was when I first entered into life coaching and mentoring programmes. Yes, I had started to turn my life around and I had improved my daily behaviour. I knew that I wanted to help people do the same but with help from my coach, I discovered my purpose. I now know that I am here to truly inspire others to believe in and live a life filled with health, wealth and happiness. 

What purpose could you have sitting inside of you? I don’t know you but I do know something about you…you have greatness within you. The world is waiting for your massive contribution. Unfortunately, without someone’s help you may never discover what that purpose actually is. 

6. Having a Life Coach Give You Ideas you may Have Never had

When I first started as Life Coach I was only offering ‘hour-by-hour’ coaching. This was giving me a decent living but I wanted to build something bigger. That was when my life coach suggested that I start offering ‘Transformational Programmes’ that involved similar processes that I had used to change my life. At first I tried to tell him that I wasn’t sure it would work and that was when he coached me through the fact that I was just fearful of offering more expensive programmes. 

These are now the programmes that I offer clients from all over the world and they can adapted for face to face coaching, email coaching, skype coaching and telephone coaching. My business is as much as 4 times as profitable as a result of this one idea and better still, I no longer have to pencil in multiple one hour slots that effect my business activity. 

7. Having a Life Coach Helps you Avoid Unnecessary Stress

HappinessNumber 1 touches on how you will be saved stress and potential pain by having a Life Coach but it is worth mentioning in more detail. Ultimately, life is made up moments and if the majority of these moments are positive moments we are in for a positive life right? The great thing about having a coach is they can help you to avoid potential stress in the future, either because they have lived it themselves or they have helped other people avoid it. The greatest unnecessary stress that a life coach allows you avoid is the stress of getting things wrong over and over and again. Why try 100 different diets when a coach can get you to a place where you’re looking and feeling amazing first time round? A life coach will allow you to take the right route at the right time meaning you’ll be on a journey with the stressful obstacles already removed by the coach.

8. Having a Life Coach Makes Your Feel Excited About Life Again

Do you remember, as a child when every day was like an adventure? What cardboard box were you going to turn into a spaceship? What spoonful of green stuff would whizz itself towards your mouth posing as an aeroplane? What furniture item would be your new climbing frame? Life can be like this again! These creative, adventurous tendencies that are ‘beaten out of us’ by life are not extinct. They just lay dormant. A coach will bring these attributes back to life. Having a coach will make every day feel like an adventure again. What new business will you start? How will you go out and meet the love of your life? What new sport will you try? Your coach will open up a list of exciting questions that are in your head and then encourage you to go out and answer them.

9. Having a Life Coach will Help you to Get to Know Yourself Better.

My coaches and mentors have allowed me to gain such amazing insights into myself and who I am. Every step that you take in the coaching journey, your coach will provide you with feedback and help you make new discoveries. I am a big fan of the phrase “You can’t see the picture when you are in the frame”. I can honestly say that with every single one of the clients that I have coached over the last 3 years I have always noticed subtleties in the way that they think and act that they weren’t even aware of. Often times it is a ‘story’ that I can tell they have’on repeat’ in their head or the way that the quality of their body language drops when they talk about a certain aspect of their lives. The only way that these negative, unconscious thought processes and behaviours can be undone is if we are deliberately ‘reprogrammed’ by someone else.

The beauty of having a coach make you aware of these challenges is that you can rapidly change them together. I’ve seen absolutely phenomenal transformations just by making a small change. This was particularly true of one client of mine who we’ll call Jane for the purposes of this Blog Post. Whenever, Jane would talk about a particular family member I would literally watch her shoulders drop and I could sense her making negative pictures on the screen of her mind. Just by tackling this issue head-on, Jane made all kinds of positive strides in every area of her life. She was no-longer a prisoner of unconscious thoughts and behaviours. Without a coach Jane never would have known.

10. Having a Life Coach will Make you More Confident

I’d be willing to bet you that there is a list of things that you want to do but you don’t feel confident enough or you don’t have the self-belief to do them. When my coach suggested that I run in the Cardiff Half Marathon I didn’t think that I could do it. I had taken on the belief that the doctors had given me that I couldn’t run long distance on a hard surface. That’s when my coach reminded me of an important fact: “someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality”. This ‘shot in the arm’ allowed me to get confident enough to start the training program and ultimately complete the run. I believed in his belief in me. Having a coach will make you step up, raise your standards and your confidence will grow as an inevitable by-product.

Happy-lifeIf Tiger Woods, Beyonce and Richard Branson have Coaches…

Every person at the top of any field has a coach. Whether we are talking entertainers, sports people or business people. If they need coaches, so do we! Answer me this, does Beyonce need a coach? Does Richard Branson need a coach? Of course they don’t, but by having coaches in their lives it gives them a ‘cutting edge’. They use the coaches to draw more out of themselves that they ever would have gotten on their own.

No successful person got to where they are on their own. They all had mentors, coaches, advisers and role models. It’s time to make the “I can make it on my own” philosophy, die. Stop telling yourself this story because it is preventing you from getting to where you want to go in life. The next thing that troublesome little voice in your will say is “I can’t afford it”. More nonsense! I have come to realise that when anyone (me included) says those words it is in fact nothing to do with money and everything to do with how committed you are. With full commitment, you make things happen. It’s an old analogy but answer it truthfully: if someone had a gun held to the head of the person that you love most in this world and said “if you don’t get me £5,000 in 4 weeks I pull the trigger”, we both know that you would find the money. It sounds far fetched but you can literally take that level of commitment and urgency into everything that you do.

So many times in recent years, I haven’t had the money for a coach or to attend an inspirational event or start another passive income stream. Rather than saying to myself “I can’t afford it” and leaving it there I now say “If I am committed to making this happen, I will find the money and I will find it quickly”.

The most recent example of this was when I had money tied up in my businesses and I didn’t have the cash-flow to capitalise on an opportunity to make more money online. Did I just let the opportunity sail by? Of course not! I ended up selling a lot of stuff that I didn’t use any more on eBay. I got together £700 which was more than enough to get my new venture off the ground.

If I’m totally honest with you, you genuinely can’t afford not to have a coach. It’s costing you a fortune financially, physically, mentally and emotionally already. It may seem like I have gone to a lot of trouble, writing 3,000+ words to make the point that we should all have coaches but let me tell you one thing: if you are still reading these words you are the type of person that will reach world-beating heights with the help of a life coach! If you just read this post and then go back to what you were doing before, nothing changes. However, if you accept my challenge, take action on what you have just read and find a coach straight away, (yes right now), it will be one of the greatest decisions that you have ever made.

Even though I am phasing out the ‘One on One Coaching aspect of my business, I’d still love to hear from you if you’re interested in taking me on as your coach. Transforming people’s lives is my passion and I’d love to help you. I currently have 3 Open slots for coaching as several people have just renewed recurring coaching contracts. You can email jermaine@jermaine-harris.com to contact me about coaching or message me on my Facebook or Leave a Comment below. 

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Operate on Full Power

Full-PowerYou have seen them. The people that are making insanely quick progress in their lives and you have no idea how the hell they’re doing it. I don’t know what the secret is and I don’t think that I ever will. Why? Because there isn’t one. I am always striving to be like these people. These are the people that just GET IT DONE! My passion is turning you into one of those people. I care about you getting even better every single day at a crazy pace. The most powerful way to this is to constantly adopt the mindset of FULL POWER!

Think about the last time that you were running, lifting weights or working on your financial freedom. Next, truly ask yourself if you were giving it everything that you’ve got, leaving nothing on the table. Were you operating on full power or were you just going through the motions?

What I have found and still continue to realise is; if you want to get extraordinary results in your life you need to operate on Full Power every single day. It can be pushing out one more rep at the gym, continuing to work on your business until the early hours or making a conscious decision to step up a gear when things aren’t going your way.

My Full Power Principle is often met with conflict. You may be thinking: “what if I do all that and it doesn’t work?” and you may already be thinking that it just isn’t worth it. After all you could just sit around watch reality TV and do nothing every day, right? This is indeed the easy option, but at what cost? Not operating at full power means that you are missing out on becoming the absolute best version of yourself and achieving phenomenal long-term results in your life. It is vital that you get out of the mentality that revolves around ‘instant gratification’ and get clear on the fact that you could be wasting your life away without realising.

You have to be prepared for that pesky negative little voice in your head to show up when you decide to operate on full power. Let me prepare you for a few of the phrases it will throw at you. My guess is you have heard these phrases in your head before.

I just don’t feel like it.

My negative little voice knows that it is fighting a losing battle when it says this to me because I know that you can change the way you feel instantaneously! YOU control how you feel, not the weather, not the traffic, not everybody else….YOU DO! You can just decide that you want to operate on full power, right now.

I haven’t got time

You do have time. We all do and we all have the exact same amount every day. There are many situations that we are born into that are not equal but we’re all given 24 hours a day. Realise that this is just your negative little voice talking you out of it and make time!

I’m too tired

Really? As we speak there are people all over the planet that are pushing themselves to the absolute limit. Arnold Schwarzenegger once said on the topic of his daily 6 hours of sleep: “I know that some of you are thinking, wait a minute; I sleep 8 or 9 hours” he then said “just sleep faster, I would recommend”. What Arnie is saying is, if you want to get to where you want to get to in life you have to be prepared to shake off the feeling of being tired. This is actually pretty simple to do because tiredness is largely a state of mind which you can change in an instant and then ward off for the rest of your day with proper nutrition.

It’s time  to get in touch with every ounce of your potential, be prepared to go the extra mile and operate on full power. I think that you are ready to do this, otherwise you wouldn’t still be reading these words right now. Be prepared for the nonsense you may hear in your head, truly go for it and you will surprise yourself. You are ready for the chapter of your life where you achieve every goal that you set. Crank the dial up to full power and enjoy the ride!

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How to Control Your Emotions

EmotionsMy Favourite Book of all time is called Awaken the Giant Within. I remember when I first read it, when I was laid up with a broken leg, going through a challenging time thinking “what the hell am I going to do with my life?” . Without this book and specifically the chapter on Emotional Mastery, I don’t think that I would be doing what I am doing now and I certainly wouldn’t have become an author myself.

If you haven’t read Awaken the Giant Within yet; it is the book that I recommend to everybody!

As I have been improving myself and my life there have been, and continue to be emotional times in my life. It is the things that I learned from Anthony Robbins’ book Awaken the Giant Within that has allows me to stay in control of my emotions.

I’d like to share with you Tony’s 6 Steps to Emotional Mastery in the hope that they help you in the same way that they have helped me.

A ‘light bulb moment’ for me was realising that as complex as humans are, we only ever do anything to change the way that we feel.

If you’re trying to lose body fat, build muscle, improve your finances or save for a new car – the only reason is because of the particular emotion that you think will arrive when you do it. To elaborate, you may believe by upgrading your car or losing body fat you will feel more confident. Or by making more money you can ‘finally be happy’.

Most people (including me until I realised) wait and put milestones on their emotions and always keep that particular emotion in the future. The truth is you can feel whatever emotion you want to feel at any time!

The 6 Steps to Emotional Mastery

Below you will find the 6 Steps to Emotional Mastery outlined in Awaken the Giant the Within:

1)Get clear on what you’re feeling

As you notice that you are feeling some sort of negative emotion, ask yourself, “What am I REALLY feeling right now?”

Be totally clear about it. I ask myself “Am I really feeling Sad or is it another feeling?”

2)Recognise and be grateful for your emotions because they support you

As your emotions are there to help you, you should feel genuinely grateful that they are sending you a message at this time.

3)Develop a Curiosity about the Message this Emotion is Sending You.

You are on the road to mastering your emotions when you become curious about them. Even though the emotion appears negative, you can ask yourself some powerful questions like: “Is this How I want to Feel? What Can I learn from this? What else could this emotion mean? What am I willing to do so I can feel how I want to feel?

4)Restore Your Confidence

An easy, powerful and rapid way to deal with any negative emotion is to go back to a time when you successfully handled this emotion and moved on in the past.

The chances are this emotion isn’t new. You’ve dealt with it once; you can deal with it again.

If possible, say to yourself out loud: “What did I do so well last time, to deal with this emotion?”

Whatever you did well last time, do it again and you’ll get positive results again.

5)Be Certain that you can handle this emotion RIGHT NOW and in the Future.

Repeat the focus that you had in the previous step where you remembered a time that you dealt with this emotion in the past. Then you can move on to ask yourself, “How am I going to do Even better this time?”

You can then ask yourself, “How will make sure I deal with emotion effectively in the future?”

Originally, your brain may say something negative but push yourself through that barrier, keep asking and you will get positive answers.

6)Build Your Excitement and Take Action

The last part of this process is to build a level of excitement based on the fact that you can take control of this emotion easily and quickly take some action to prove that it has been dealt with.

The Hands Down, best way to deal with an emotion is as soon as you start to feel it! It is essential that you ‘kill the weed whilst it’s in the ground’ and don’t let it sprout and grow into a monster.

Control-your-emotionsJust like most of the concepts that I have learned and the ideas that I teach; knowing how to master your emotions will take practice and repetition. However, the more that you follow the steps, they eventually become embedded in your subconscious mind and you will be better you will be at taking control of your emotions.

The main reason that I wanted to share this information with you was because these steps have really helped me in recent times when the health of my Grandmother (who I am very close to) deteriorated after she had a large heart attack.  I had the steps written down on a piece of paper to help me deal with the situation systematically and positively. I now hope that you can do the same.

I hope that you can use the steps as a blueprint when it comes to how to master your emotions and that you practice and repeat it to the point where you gain true ‘Emotional Mastery’.

If you’d like to read more comprehensively about how to master your emotions I would to, once again highly recommend Awaken the Giant Within. One thing I will say is make sure that you are really committed to making some detailed, amazing changes in your life. Less than 1% of people actually finish the book and when they do their stories are phenomenal. Be part of that 1% and change your life forever.

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Improve you Daily Life by controlling what you Focus On

Improve you Daily LifeI have a lot going on in my life at the moment and I have to make a conscious effort to maintain an empowering focus on everything.

Whatever you do in life, whether you are shopping, at a party or exercising – your whole experience of the situation is based on what you are focusing on.

The interesting thing about this is, there are so many things that we could give our focus to at any one time. To elaborate, you are probably not focusing on how your feet feel on the surface they’re touching right now or the way your eyes feel as you blink. There are so many things beyond comprehension that you could be focusing on at this present moment that having nothing to do with looking at your screen and reading these words. What new sounds are you aware of as you sit there and focus on what you can hear right now? …Interesting isn’t it?

This is true of every situation. Let’s use a friend’s house warming Party as an example. Once again there are hundreds, if not thousands of things that you could focus on. You could focus on the fact that your ex is there, the fact that they don’t have any of your favourite drink and there aren’t many people there. Do this and you are guaranteed to have an evening of negative feelings and boredom.

If you started to focus on how many interesting people that were there to talk to, how much fun you could have by being there, how much you deserve to enjoy yourself and party because you have worked so hard for the last month; you’re going to have a truly positive, fulfilling evening!

If you start thinking that the people there are gossips and they will be abrupt and have no interest in talking to you, the chances are they will be just that. You will prove yourself right and you will be surprised at how ‘short’ people are being with you. You will begin to presume that people are talking about you as you stand there having a bad time. Turning your focus in this direction will only mean one thing. An awful experience! Look hard enough and you’ll find what you’re looking for.

The phenomenon that has changed my life is: what we focus on is OUR CHOICE.

There is only ever one way that you can have a bad time at party or at a bar, a restaurant or anywhere and that is focusing all of the things that are negative (in your opinion). What you are doing by living in this way is actually removing your ability to notice all of the great and positive things that are going on.

The reverse is true if you have an amazing time. You are not putting yourself in a position to notice any of the bad stuff when you have an unwavering focus on the positive stuff because all of the potentially negative things are effectively being ‘deleted’.

Unfortunately, as I type these words (and indeed as you read them) there are thousands of terrible things going on all over the planet. People are being murdered, mugged and lied to. People are seriously ill, people are living in poverty and people are dying tragically. Just turn on your News Channels and you will see most, if not all of these things being reported on in a 24 Hour Period. As I was writing the previous words I noticed my state start to drop, and you did too. Why? Because we began to have images of all of the negative things going on in the world on the screen of our minds.

Daily-Life-controllingThe amazing thing is; there are thousands of fantastic things happening in the world right now. There are people doing amazing charity work, caring for children, making people laugh, achieving goals, starting businesses and even winning lotteries! There are people miraculously recovering from illnesses and there are people conquering difficult challenges. You feel better now right?

It is easy to see that the quality of every one of our experiences is controlled by what we focus on. And this really is OUR CHOICE! So choose to leave any experience feeling wonderful about yourself and great about the fact you had an incredible time.

This is one of those situations where people say to me “Yea, that’s easy for you Jermaine, you’re so positive”. Now this may be true and it can also be true for you by doing exactly what I did. I had to re-condition myself to focus on the good things and make them even better in my mind. I had to train myself to find the good in any situation. It may take practice but it is certainly worth it.

The way that I did this originally was through using ‘Empowering Questions’ as advised by one of my inspirations, Anthony Robbins. Ask your brain a question, it is like Google; it has to find an answer. Imagine you asked and answered these questions during every challenging experience.

  • What’s the best thing about this situation?
  • How can I learn from this to make my life better?
  • How can I use this situation to feel better about myself?
  • What is the funniest thing about this?

You can use the questions that I use and you can use any others that create positive empowering response.  As you become better at this you will find yourself ‘happier’ more often, you will achieve your goals faster and you will inspire other people with your attitude.

You may not be able to control what is going on in the outside world but you can be certain that you can control your response…

Choose Wisely.

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3 Lies you Need to STOP Telling Yourself

LiesYou have become an amazing storyteller over the years. You have become so good that all of the stories that you have been telling yourself about why you can’t get in shape, make more money or have your dream relationship have become so believable you should be winning awards. The problem is you keep telling the same stories and making the same excuses they are becoming engrained on to your mind and you are accepting them as reality.

It’s time to write some new stories, don’t you think? Create some new truths that you can live up to. There are 3 common, yet MASSIVE lies that you need to stop telling yourself:

1. “It’s Too Difficult”

Why is it Too Difficult?

It’s too difficult because you are thinking of whatever it is that you are trying to achieve as some Mammoth task as opposed to realising that it can be broken down into much more achievable goals. If I asked you could you run a Marathon tomorrow? The chances are the answer would be a definite ‘no’ (it certainly would be for me!). However, if I said; could you run a Marathon in 2 Years time? The answer is much more likely to be ‘Yes’.

Why the sudden change from ‘No’ to ‘Yes’? What difference would the Two Years make, you’d still be the same person, right?

The answer is simple: Training! You could run to the end of your street tomorrow couldn’t you? Then perhaps next week half a mile, then a mile and so on and so on.

Achieving anything can be broken down like this. It may be extremely difficult and unlikely that you will be a Millionaire by tomorrow but what if you gave yourself 10 years?

Saying that ‘It’s Too Difficult’ is a Lie that you tell yourself so that you don’t even start.

Start small and you’ll get to the Big Stuff.

2. “I’m Too Busy”

I still sometimes find myself saying this in my head and then I think “Jermaine, what makes you so different? Everyone has 24 Hours a Day; It’s up to you to use them wisely”

If you stopped telling this lie to yourself and really woke up to how much time you are letting slip by unnecessarily laying in when you’ve had 7 Hours sleep and you could be up catching up with your dreams. We all (me included) let time idly slip by when we are really doing a whole lot of nothing. Surfing the internet and flicking through the TV channels and the like are all things that get in the way of our progress because time ticks by anyway.

One of My Favourite Motivational Speakers Eric Thomas (aka ET the Hip Hop Preacher) has had a phenomenal journey that has seen him get to a point in his life where he confesses that if he is in bed at 3.45am he is “Running Late”. Are you prepared to adopt that ‘whatever it takes’ attitude to create more time for yourself and create the life that you really want?

I know that it may be a difficult realisation, but the notion of being too busy is a lie. You just aren’t making enough time for yourself yet.

3. No one Will Like the ‘New Me’

Being ‘Normal’ is Highly overrated and the second that you decide to commit to some Major Goal and Take Action you will be on the road to leaving normality. The thing that is holding you back is the lie that no one will Like the ‘New You’.

The Funny thing is that this isn’t a total Lie. There are indeed people in your life who are not going to be happy with the positive changes that you are going to make, they will subconsciously dislike this ‘change’ being thrust upon them. However, you do not necessarily want (or need) these people in your life anyway. The people that support your changes and encourage your development are the people that you should keep close.

The idea that ‘No One’ will like you if make positive changes is a Lie. Some people won’t and Lot’s of people will. I like the way American Comedian Bill Cosby Puts it “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody”.

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3 Ways to Be Grateful Every Single Day

ID-100106167I truly believe that realising how grateful that you are every single day is a fast track to increased levels of Happiness. Do you want to be Happy more often? If yes, it is important that you learn to be grateful for everything that you have got going for you. (For example, if you just thought to yourself “I haven’t got anything going for me”……..you are reading this aren’t you?).

Begin small and start feeling grateful for every thing positive that you notice in your life. With practice this can become an incredible asset for your daily life. If you’re like me, you will start to notice how incredibly you grateful you are for a long list of things. It all starts with waking up; this is a phenomenal habit to get into. When you are grateful from the moment you open your eyes in the morning, you are off to a winning start. Notice your gratitude for everything: your health, your family, a roof over your head, your phone, your ability to see or hear…the list goes on.

3 Ways to Be Grateful Every Day

Rather than just ‘hoping’ that nice things that you can be grateful for simply find their way into your life, there are habits and routines that you can get into to make Gratitude part of your daily life.

1 – Start with a “Thank You”

It may feel a little strange at first and just have fun with it. As soon as you wake up say the words ‘Thank You’ out loud. Then go somewhere quiet and ask yourself “What am I grateful for?” and just allow the answers to flow. “I am grateful for…”, “I am grateful for…”, “I am grateful for…”. No matter how silly, allow the answers to keep coming and you’ll start saying things like “I am Grateful for the ability to tie my shoelaces” and finally you run out. This is not just some positive thinking trick. This is a real tool that will allow to start your days operating from a productive mindset. Starting the day like this means that whatever comes your way throughout the day, you have already programmed yourself into an ‘Attitude of Gratitude’.

2- Keep a Daily Gratitude Journal

At the end of every day, enjoy writing down all of the things that you are grateful for from that day. You can even expand and write down ‘why’ you are grateful. There are no rules to this process, have fun with it and allow it to grow. Start writing down things that you are proud of and excited about as well to really add some ‘juice’ to your expanding mindset.

3 – What if It’s Supposed to Happen?

Many things that have happened in my life and the lives of successful people that were very difficult to go through at the time. However, many of them (including me) will tell you that without some of those less desirable things happen they would not be doing what they are doing right now. The world’s greatest Peak Performance Coach, Tony Robbins puts it like this: “What if life was happening FOR YOU and not TO YOU?” What he means by this is, what if everything, good and bad, was supposed to happen in your life so you could reach your fullest potential? Operating from this level of thinking will allow you to see a negative situation differently and even allow you to be grateful for it because you know that it is going to make you grow as a person and ultimately, improve your life.

THANK YOU 🙂

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4 Easy Ways to Gain More Time

ID-1002071901. JUST SAY NO!

I am still in the process of putting this aspect of time mastery in to practice every day.  It is so easy to say “yes” to anything and everything that comes your way because you always want to be friendly and helpful. The unfortunate reality of saying yes to everything is we then have to spend valuable time getting out of things we shouldn’t have got ourselves into from the start.  The best technique I have found is to say “to be totally honest and up front with you, I can’t right now but if anything changes I’ll let you know straight away”. This allows you to focus on the things that are most important to you and stops you from adding to an already carefully balanced list of activities.

2. DO THE SAME AMOUNT IN HALF THE TIME

There are many situations when you could be successfully doing two things at once. You can get really creative with this and it actually becomes quite fun. I know that exercise will always be on my action plan for the day and I also know that listening to some educational material will be as well.  All I do is listen to the audios whilst I‘m exercising, easy.  You may be committed to playing with your children every day and also want to find time to do some light exercise. Why not go play with a ball game with your children in a nearby park? Have a think about where you can make this technique work in your life and the results can be wonderfully time saving.

ID-1001097593. IT WILL TAKE LONGER THAN YOU THINK!

How many times have you allotted an hour for an activity and it has taken two? Whenever you are planning your days, weeks or months make sure to realise that things often take longer than you would think.  Adopting this mindset ultimately saves you time and any unnecessary stress. Your productivity will start to plummet as you notice the clock ticking on and on and you realise that you are going to have to be ‘playing catch up’ with your to do list. When you overestimate the time it will take to do every task on your to do list then the worst that can happen is that it will take as long as you have predicted but most likely you will be so relaxed in the knowledge that you have enough time that you will find yourself in the wonderful position of being ‘ahead of schedule’.

4. LEARN FROM THE BEST AND SAVE TIME

I had no idea how to write to book, how to market a book, how to structure a book, how to speak about a book…you get the idea.  I now have a book coming out in less than 2 weeks, that would have probably taken 3 years longer to create if I hadn’t sought out the people at the top of my field, purchased their books and attended their seminars that explained how to execute the whole process. In effect, I would have ‘wasted time’. It is absolutely crucial that you find a role model and find out what they did to create their success. Whatever career or endeavour you are in there is someone who either got to the level that you want to get to or managed to find a way to leave that job and do what you ultimately want to do. Find these people, interview them, buy their books, and attend their courses because this investment of time and money in the short term will pay dividends in the rest of your life. You will save yourself, literally, years.

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