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7 Easy Ways to Enjoy the Present Moment

present-moment“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have” – Eckhart Tolle

A busy lifestyle is what everyone is used to in modern society. We have all done it; mindlessly skipped from one task to another without a break. It’s like being a hamster in a cage on one of those wheels, except you never get off! Is it any wonder that stress related illnesses are on the rise in Western society?

Developing the ability to enjoy the present moment several times a day can break up the mindless business and therefore reduce your stress levels. When you are feeling more relaxed every day as a result, you will be happier, healthier and more productive.

The wonderful thing about cultivating an appreciation for the present moment is it requires very little effort. You can start your day doing it, you can progress through your day doing it and you can end your day doing it.

When I first decided to improve my life, this concept was lost on me. I had no idea what I was missing. I was frantically writing business plans, health plans, developing ideas, attending meetings and generally being all over the place.

Even though I was getting deeply involved with many strategies taught within the self improvement industry, I found myself feeling strangely unfilled.

It was only through deep self-reflection that I realised that I wasn’t ‘Stopping to smell the Roses’. It became clear to me that I had to start enjoying the present moment a lot more often.

There are 7 Easy ways to start Enjoying the present moment:

1-Appreciate your Waking Moments                                                 

Instead of just shutting off your alarm and sluggishly rolling out of bed; just lie still and appreciate the new day. As you lie there focus on your breathing and feel grateful as the oxygen fills your body in this new day of your life. As you allow the feelings of gratitude to fill your spirit really appreciate the comfort that your bed has given you and then acknowledge how grateful you are to be able to get out of bed and begin a new day.

2-Feel Everything

Whenever your senses are being stimulated, make the effort to notice everything. If you are walking in the park notice the depth of the smells, the concert of sounds and the abundant sights. If you are trying some new food, be aware of every taste and texture. Even if you are just sat in your office notice how your body feels on the chair and acknowledge your fingers as they hit the keyboard (I’ve just done it and it really works).

3-Smile

Originally I thought that this idea was too simple and a little crazy. However, when I started to just stop at random points during the day, embrace the present moment and smile my days started to improve. Research suggests that smiling changes the hormones produced by your body, actually easing stress.

Smile randomly, smile at other people, smile at every living creature you encounter and enjoy the results.

4-Do what you’re doing

We have all attempted to multi-task and I’m sure you’d admit that it isn’t the most efficient way to get things done. Focusing on what you are doing and making that the only thing you are doing not only increases the likelihood of you enjoying it, it also increases the quality with which the task will be completed.

5 – Celebrate

When I set my first goals I realised that I wasn’t spending any time celebrating the ‘small wins’. My days were packed with things to do and I was just moving from one thing to another even though I was having some successes. I discovered that it is important to get present and celebrate when you have completed a task successfully. This can be anything from a 10 minute break to watch something funny or just to simply acknowledge yourself and give yourself a little “well done”.

6-Random Gratitude

When you are feeling grateful for something that you are currently experiencing you are enjoying the present moment. One sure fire way to accomplish this is to simply become aware of your heartbeat and feel grateful for it beating away in the centre of your chest.  You can extend this practice into being grateful for everything from your breathing to your ability to type. It is impossible to feel grateful and stressed at the same time.

7-Breathe

Turning your attention to your breathing stops thoughts from whizzing around your head at 100 miles an hour and takes you into the present moment. Breathe deeply and be aware of the air flowing in and out of your body, giving you the gift of oxygen as it does so.

Allowing yourself to embrace the present moment several times a day will be an amazing gift that you give yourself allowing a happier, healthier, less stressful life.

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5 Things Successful People do When ‘It all goes Wrong’ (Just doing #4 will Help)

ID-10075457I am a big fan of the phrase “sometimes life just happens”. What I mean by this, sometimes life will throw an unexpected challenge your way. However, sometimes life will just, flat out open a trap door from under you. You know, those times when you don’t know where to turn and you don’t know what to do.

You start to panic and you start to either ‘freeze’ or start to act like a crazy person.

There are some who people who respond to ‘life’s trap door’ with a huge measure of relaxed control.

How the heck do they do it?!

Below are 5 Things that they do to positively overcome an onslaught of adversity.

They See the Situation as it is…NOT worse than it is!

When a negative situation shows itself in our life, our mind absolutely loves exaggerating the extent of it. In a instant our mind can turn forgetting to pay a bill into becoming totally bankrupt. A happy, relaxed, successful person will tell you to focus on the reality of the situation and don’t add bits on.

They Focus on the Fact that Every Problem has a Solution

Once you have this realization you are cultivating the ability to deal with whatever comes your way. We live in a universe where things exist in opposites. Hot/Cold, Up/Down, Big/Small etc. Shifting your focus to the opposite of your problem (the solution) you are directing your mind to a more positive outcome.

They find things to be Grateful for

When things are ‘falling apart’ it is the can be a real challenge to focus on being grateful. You may not feel like feeling grateful for a long time in fact. However, happy, successful people know that finding things to be grateful for during the toughest times can shift your focus and bring you into a ‘Solution Focused’ mindset much quicker. By truly getting in touch with some of the things that you are grateful for you are taking control over the ‘crisis’ and turning it into a workable situation. You are taking back control because you are now the driving force of your mind.

They Stop ‘Negative Thought Cycles’

Negative thought cycles are those negative thoughts that just keep coming back into your head. You keep thinking “What the heck am I going to do?”, “Why always me?”, “I knew this would happen”. These thought patterns are stopping you from finding a creative solution and you’re making yourself feel even worse. A great strategy employed by the happy, successful elite is the ability to ask solution focused questions:

What is the best way for me to find a solution?

If there was a positive reason for this happening to me what would it be?

What am I willing to do to make things the way I want them to be?

By asking questions like these you are once again, powerfully shifting your focus to solutions.

They accept the Situation

By truly practising the art of acceptance you are detaching yourself from the dramatic, over exaggerations of the situation and you are left with the simple truth. When you stop yourself from reacting on impulse the challenges you are facing become much more simple. Without proper control our natural instinct tends to be to react. These reactions can often make the situation worse. The solution focused course of action is to ‘respond’ rather than ‘react’.

Above all, when you are faced with these very difficult situations the fact of the matter is whatever has happened has happened and when it comes to managing the situation. The choice is yours.

I’d love to hear about how you stay relaxed when it seems like ‘everything’ is going wrong?

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4 Things Goal Achievers will do in 2015 (Number 2 Takes the most Effort)

ID-100192667We are half way through the first month of 2015 and unfortunately there are already some people out there who have lost sight achieving their goals this year. You deserve to achieve every single one of your goals, as does everyone. We have an abundance of potential locked inside of us and it just takes some smart work to release it. Success can never be ‘guaranteed’ but it can be made more likely.

There are 4 things that people that look back on 2015 with a smile of achievement are going to do:

1. Take Daily Action on Bite Sized ‘Chunks’ of their ultimate Goal

As Tony Robbins says; “Clarity is Power!”. The people who achieve their goals in 2015 aren’t just going to have goals for the whole year; they are going to have things that they can do every day and every week to make progress towards their goals. For Example, if your goal is to make £3000 per month in Sales Commissions, you can enhance your likelihood of achieving this by ‘chunking’ it down. If each client makes you £1000, you have to bring in 3 clients per month. If your average sales ratio is 1 Sale out of every 10 meetings then you need to organize, plan and attend 30 meetings per month. The successful people of 2015 will take this a step further by scheduling 2 meetings per working day (40 per month), just to be safe).

The people that fall short of their goals in 2015 may not have a clear idea of how to get there and without breaking the goal down into bite sized chunks they be too overwhelmed to even get started.

2. Work on their Goals Even When they can’t be Bothered

People who are successful in 2015 will show up every single day of the year to make a dent in their goals. They may not feel motivated at the start of the gym session but the motivation will come as they realise ‘they’re doing it anyway’. Of course, sometimes you will make ‘quantum leaps’ but more often than not you are going to have to be disciplined and take action every day to achieve your goals this year. Make a commitment to realizing that the most important meeting, gym session or phone call is the one that you can’t be bothered with.

3. Stay Healthy

To really achieve all of their goals in 2015 the successful people are going to stay healthy. People that are successful this year are going to place a lot of emphasis on eating well, exercising and staying relaxed. They are going to consciously take control of their daily habits so they can stay healthy and be in a state to achieve all year. Staying healthy this year will allow you to be energized enough to achieve your goals. Make a record of the things that you are doing every day and ask yourself “are these actions are going to allow you to be successful this year?” If not commit to changing the negative habits into positive, healthy ones.

4. Stay Positive and Confident

You don’t need to know much about happy, successful people to realize that they stay positive and confident. People that do not achieve success this year will become entangled in negative thought processes. Thought processes like; ‘I’m not good enough, or ‘I’m not ready’. The people that achieve success in 2015 will not let negative thoughts hold them back. They will reframe these negative thoughts and turn their ‘inner critic’ into an ‘inner coach’. Without taking control of your moment to moment thought processes life can be a pretty negative place to be as highlighted in this video 

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How to be more Confident in 6 Easy Steps

c1When I first decided that there were several things that I wanted to create in my life, I didn’t believe that I was capable of achieving them. I wanted to write a book but I thought it would be too difficult for me because I wasn’t the best at English in school. I wanted to be a speaker but I thought my regional accent would hold me back. I wanted to be in a relationship but my past told me that I wasn’t cut out for one.

You may not have a long list of things that you want to do but you can can probably empathise with the feeling of really wanting to do something and being to scared to get started. Living in this fear stifles your potential and stops you from being able to share your gifts and talents with the world. There are, of course, many different things that fuel that fear and one of those will regularly be a lack of confidence. Confidence is a learned skill and just by following the steps below on how to be more confident you will build momentum towards being the most confident version of yourself.

1. Take a Compliment

I find it absolutely fascinating how people will so easily believe the negative things that they hear and totally ignore or even disagree with the positive. There is a pleasant, humble way to take a compliment and that is to simply say “Thank You”. Avoid saying things like “Oh no, don’t be silly, me?”. Use the compliments you receive to fuel your confidence. After you have said “Thank You” out loud you can get to work into growing the confidence in your own head. You can think ‘You know what, I did do a great job and that means that I can do it over and over again.

2. Practice Being Confident

All skills improve with intelligent practice and confidence is one of those things. My favourite way of practising being confident is when I meet new people. They don’t you which means you can show them the best, most authentically confident version of yourself. Think about how a confident person would move and speak whilst thinking confident thoughts. Hold your back and shoulders high and straight and speak with a clear measured voice.

You can practice the physiological side of being confident anywhere. Get in front of of mirror, puff your chest up, throw shoulders back, hold your head up and smile a that type of smile you smiled as a kid when you new a really cool secret. It may take time but it’s a skill and you will get better.

3. Trust Yourself

You know what you are good at; trust yourself to be good at those things. You should also trust in your ability and desire to improve and learn, knowing that you can always do even better next time. It is important that you are trusting in your capabilities and not someone else’s. Avoid comparisons. The only comparison you should make is the comparison to the person that you were last week, last month and last year.

4. Embrace Your ‘Toddler Confidence’

When you entered this world you had no idea about insecurities or the possibility of being judged. You just new what you needed and you did what you could to get it. When you were learning to walk you didn’t give up because you failed at your first step, you somehow ‘knew’ that you were going to master it so you just confidently kept going.

Unfortunately, this started to change when you became aware of people seeing you in different ways and the possibilities of positive and negative feedback. If you started to get a lot of negative feedback as you grew older, perhaps you were harsh on yourself and any confidence you had was drained away. When you notice yourself feeling low on confidence, realize that you have learned to feel this way and tap into the confidence that you came into this world with.

5. Take Calculated Risks

Doing the things in the same way that you have always done them doesn’t breed confidence. When I first got into speaking I joined Toastmasters International and I really enjoyed it and I learned so much. However, I began to feel comfortable with the 15-20 people that were there every week. When I was asked to compere a charity event and also be the auctioneer for 200 people, I thought to myself ‘Absolutely no way!”. Then I knew that jumping in and just doing it would be a calculated risk that would further my career. I made some mistakes and had some technical problems to deal with but it was a massive turning point in my speaking career. Had I not taken that calculated risk I’m not sure if I would have spoken to more than 20 people, ever.

6. See Success as Inevitable

You cannot predict the future but isn’t that what many of us do in the negative sense regularly? Have you ever been in a situation that was challenging and presumed that everything was going to go wrong?

I am well aware of this idea that you can expect the worst and then not end up being disappointed if you fall short. But what if I told you that this can just become a self-fulfilling prophecy where you are never overly disappointed when failure shows up but it shows up all the time?

Focus on and expect the tiniest of successes in every waking hour and watch as they increase as if by way of magic.

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2015: Making my Goals Public

2015-goals2015 is going to be the first year that I make my goals public. By putting them out there for all visitors to my website and my social media followers to see I will raise my standards to the level required for me to achieve them. I recently wrote about the Goals that I managed to achieved in 2014 and the Post regarding my 2015 goals will be even better reading because I made my goals public.

I am extremely grateful for the things that I achieved in 2014 and I have a whole new fire to achieve great things in 2015.

You will notice that my Goals are split into each area of my life so that I can achieve what I call ‘Circular Success’. I state my goals in the present tense which helps me to visualize the goal as already achieved. I have less goals this year as I am going to streamline in order to achieve them all.

Health, Fitness & Muscularity

  • It is December 31st 2015 and I weigh 12 Stone with 8% body fat and a clearly visible 6 Pack.

[I set the date as the last day of the year because in 2014 I got in great shape and then let it slide with too many ‘treat meals’ in December]

  • It is April 30th 2015 and I have had 64 Green Juices and Green Smoothies so far this year. (16 Per Month)
  • It is April 30th 2015 and I can easily do 5 ‘Muscle Ups’ with 15kg’s strapped to me

Business and Finances

  • It is December 31st 2015 and my membership site has over 1000 Members
  • It is December 31st 2015 and jermaine-harris.com has 100+ Blog Posts
  • It is December 31st 2015 and my Foreign Exchange Trading Account Easily makes me £2,500 per month in profits
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I have £7,000 saved towards the deposit on our first House
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I have changed the lives of over 1,000 people this year through events, seminars and training programmes, with earnings of more than £10,000 as direct profit from these events

Lifestyle

  • It is January 30th 2015 and I easily had enough money in my ‘Play Account’ to go to Barcelona for the weekend with my friends and watch FC Barcelona vs. Villareal.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and me, Katie & Fraizer (New Baby) enjoyed a beautiful break away that was at least 3 days long.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I easily have enough time for 3 rounds of Golf per month.
  • It is April 30th 2015 and I have had plenty of time to decorate our new Home and prepare it for the arrival of the baby.

Relationships

[There are one or two goals that I can’t put here just in case Katie reads this post 😉 Needless to say, she will be cared for, looked after and surprised plenty of times]

  • It is August 12th 2015 and my son is now 3 months old and I have got out of bed every time he needed us and I helped support him and Katie in every way that I could and I have associated positive feelings with the disturbed sleep as I am caring for my son.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and every time that Katie needed a break or to relax I was there to look after the Baby EVERY TIME.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I orchestrated a Family day out every week I was in the country this year.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I made visiting my family, friends and ‘future in-laws’ a weekly and monthly priority.

Contribution/Charity

  • It is December 31st 2015 and I easily continued my association with The British Heart Foundation, Cancer Research UK and Dementia UK
  • It is December 25th 2015 and I doubled my contribution to the Homeless Shelter and the Dogs Home this year.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I doubled my Social Media Reach with my positive messages.

Daily Habits & Self Improvement

  • It is December 31st 2015 and I easily completed my unread book collection purchased another 20 books this year.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I easily did 3 deep breathing sessions per day this year.
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I easily Worked Mastering Coaching Techniques at least 4 times per week this year,
  • It is December 31st 2015 and I did 192 Morning Rituals this year.

Will you make your Goals Public?

Share your Goals with me below and by making them public you’ll be more likely to take action on them and achieve them. I may even check in with you! Leave your goals in the comment box below and then get to it!

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7 Easy Ways to Stop Complaining

stop_complainingI still catch myself complaining sometimes even if I don’t realize straight away. I do complain a lot less than I used to though. Complaining rarely adds to the quality of your life; of course you may form a connection with someone with the same complaints but in the end these relationships don’t last. There are people that you come across (I’m sure that you can think of at least one) that are constantly moaning about their family, their health, their body, their job or all of the above! When you spend an extended period of time with these people you end up feeling drained of your life’s spirit don’t you? There doesn’t seem to be anything that can stop these people from complaining.

What if the issue is with YOU? What if you are stuck in this ‘complaining cycle’? We have all experienced that feeling where things seem to just be going wrong left right and centre and complaining seems like the only thing left. It takes less effort to complain than it does to tackle the issue head on and find a solution.

Below are 7 Easy ways to stop complaining and maintain a ‘Solution Focus’.

1. Take Responsibility

If there is something that is negatively impacting your life that you have the ability to change, accept the fact that either you can fix it right now or nothing can be done at this moment in time and you’ll fix it when the opportunity arises. You intellectually know that complaining won’t solve anything so put it into practice. Focus your mind on the things that you CAN do and action steps that you can take.

2. Look After Yourself

In modern society it is common for the stresses and strains of busy life to destroy our positivity. Be sure to schedule time just for you. Read that book you’ve been itching to read, play a round of golf, get a massage or do whatever makes you feel relaxed and re-energizes you.

3. Be the Positive Voice

Whenever you are with friends, family or co-workers and they get into a cycle of complaining, notice something positive about their life and/or the situation. This is a great way to change the focus and energy of the conversation. You could also simply say something funny to diffuse the complaining. Although useful, this technique may not always be appropriate and if that’s the case just keep quiet, control your thoughts and avoid complaining yourself.

4. Write a Gratitude List

You will have seen me mention this strategy in other posts. That is because it really is a great way to diffuse any negative feelings that you may have. Stop for a minute and write down all of things that you are grateful for. Everything from your health, to a roof over your head, to your family…everything that comes to mind. This will allow any petty complaints you had to fizzle away.

5. Meditate

When I first came across the idea of meditation I presumed that it wasn’t for me and that it was a practice reserved for the Buddhist monks of this world. However, I’ve found that even the simplest meditation can help. We often allow our minds to zoom off in a hundred different directions. Meditation will allow you to train yourself to calm these impulsive negative thoughts and be more positive and considered in your approach to life.

6. Re-Train Your Brain

Re-training your brain may be a challenge at first and it will have positive results 100% of the time when you stick with it. For whatever reason, without proper management our minds tend to go the negative. It is time for you to become aware of these thoughts and when you notice yourself thinking a negative thought about something, force yourself to stop (you can even say STOP!) and you can say a positive replacement. For Example, “I always get stuck in this stupid traffic!” “STOP!” “I’m so grateful to have a car”. I know that this takes time and persist with it and you will be amazed by the results.

7. Get it Out!

If you are going through an especially difficult time it is useful to vent sometimes. Be brave and share your feelings with a close friend, family member or therapist. Getting it out will then allow you to fully commit the some or all of the steps outlined above.

 

If you’ve been getting sick of it and wondering how to stop complaining following just a couple of these steps will get you on the road.

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2014: Goals Achieved & Crucial Lessons

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At the end of each year I reflect on how far I have come, the goals I managed to achieve, goals that I didn’t achieve and the lessons that I can learn. I first came across this idea when I was listening to a Jim Rohn audiotape. The great Mr. Rohn believe that you should reflect on the previous year for 2 major reasons: Firstly, to notice and celebrate all of the successes of the year. By taking the time out to celebrate your achievements you are reinforcing your belief to go ahead and achieve more goals. I also believe that the feeling of gratitude and pride that this process will give you is absolutely priceless. Secondly, reviewing the goals that you didn’t quite achieve allows you to ask some powerful questions so that you can do even better next time. What did I learn? What’s the best thing that will happen as a result of not achieving the goal? By going through the process of finding the positive lessons in each ‘failure’ you are making sure that you don’t make the same mistakes again and refine your processes for the next year.

The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be of greater value than what you get.  – Jim Rohn

2014 was the proverbial rollercoaster for me; there were holidays of a lifetime, family tragedies and illnesses, book releases, seminars, a pregnancy and more.

Goals Achieved and Accomplishments

Here the goals that I achieved and other accomplishments in 2014 that I am grateful to have created.

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  • Had a Green Juice at least 5 days per week
  • Did a 60 Day, 0 Carb ‘Protein and Green’ Eating Plan
  • The above allowed me to get down to 7% Bodyfat (Although this is technically a missed goal as my target was 6%. Still an accomplishment.
  • Ate a spoonful of Coconut Oil every day
  • Achieved my Goal of 10 ‘Muscle Ups’ in a Row

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  • Secured 4 Book Sponsors
  • Released my 1st Book ‘The Rut Buster’ 
  • Published 30 Blog Posts
  • Published 22 Videos to Youtube with my channel growing to over 4,000 views
  • Coached over 15 Clients One on One, helping to improve their lives
  • Conducted my first personal Seminar
  • Conducted my first 2 Day Long Seminar
  • Spoke to Over 400 People in South Africa
  • Launched a membership site
  • I learned how to trade the Foreign Exchange
  • I made 170% profit on my Foreign Exchange Account
  • I successfully separated my money into different accounts to control spending

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  • Got a New Car (Goal Accelerated by the Pregnancy of my girlfriend, Katie. I needed a 4 Door Car for the Baby Seat!)
  • Spent a week in Lanzarote, Canary Islands with Katie
  • Spent 5 Days in Las Vegas with Katie
  • Spent a week in Isla Mujeres, Cancun with Katie
  • Had a Great week off with my Friend who visited from Australia
  • Had a Great Long Weekend in Newcastle with my friends

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  • Supported my Nan through her near fatal heart attack and consequent recovery
  • Supported my girlfriend through several family tragedies
  • Visited my Grandfather in his Home regularly
  • Spent time with family and friends every week
  • Found out I am going to be a father
  • Surprised Katie with a Trip to Lanzarote for her Birthday
  • Had at least one Date Night/Date Day every week me and Katie were in the same country.
  • Had a lot of progressive Conversations with my best friend Rhydian of Thought Support
  • Dedicated more time to new relationships both social and business.
  • Coordinated the Rental of my first House with Katie
  • Dedicated myself with to the preparation and learning required to be a great dad

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  • Donated 3.33% of Book Profits to The British Heart Foundation
  • Donated 3.33% of Book Profits to Dementia UK
  • Donated 3.33% of Book Profits to Cancer Research UK
  • Gave £100 worth of Food to the Homeless Shelter on Christmas Eve
  • Gave Dog Food to the Dogs Home on Christmas Eve
  • Gave a lot of time helping people through answering Facebook messages, emails etc.
  • Helped all of the members of my membership site
  • Reached Thousands of People with my positive messages on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram
  • Allowed under 16’s to join my membership site for Free

Daily Habits & Self Improvement

  • Read 41 Books
  • Went through ‘Train the Trainer’ in South Africa
  • Created several Pinterest Vision Boards
  • Did my Morning Ritual consistently
  • Did Deep Breathing twice a day
  • Wrote a ‘Gratitude List’ every morning
  • Recorded any inspired thoughts in my journal

My Key Lessons from 2014

  • Going for too many goals at once can cause you to become confused and even stressed. Complete one goal at a time and then move on to the next one.
  • It is something that I always knew intellectually and I really started to practice it in 2014 and that is: what you THINK from moment to moment really will be the major factor in your happiness. Train yourself to focus on what you’re grateful for and to see the beauty in each moment and happiness will follow.
  • Remember to have fun with your friends. I know that people who write about personal development sometimes get caught up on working constantly and I used to be one of them. I realized in 2014 that you have to get out, socialize and enjoy the company of others to really nourish your spirit. Going back to working hard and achieving other goals will then be easier.
  • Being Healthy is easier than you think. Although I have gone to what some people would perceive to be extremes in the past to create rapid results and cure my asthma I have gotten to a stage where health and energy is easy. I make sure that I manage my mind when it comes to craving ‘bad’ foods, have a green juice, a green smoothie, my supplements and lots of greens with every meal and the rest easy. I have also realized that your ‘treat meal’ should be simply enjoyed with no negative feelings afterwards.
  • Nothing feels quite like giving to those with less than you.
  • Helping kids is amazing and they are like sponges. Give them good information and they will act on it and create great results.
  • Make sure that when you create an action plan (to do list) for the day, you mark the Top 3 items that you have to get done. These are the items that will contribute the most to your goals when compared to the rest.
  • The Foreign Exchange is a vehicle for long term wealth.
  • Separate yourself from that automatic ‘Little Voice’ and your true core. That ‘Little Voice’ is lying to you and holding you back by creating fears and excuses. Tell it to shut up and move forward!
  • It is important to keep improving no matter what. There is no destination only continual progress.

Even though 2014 came with it’s challenges, it was an amazing year and 2015 is going to be even better. For the first time I am going to publicly share my yearly goals to create a high level of accountability. Please keep up to date below:

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My Life Design – How to be Happy, How to Be Productive and How to Achieve Goals Faster

We are always hearing people talk about ‘balance’ when it comes to their life aren’t we? Would you like to create a design for ID-100213932your life so that you will be happier, more productive and achieve your goals faster?

Many people face the challenge that is the balancing of every area of their lives; whether it be the job, the business, the finances, the marriage, the health or the leisure time. I suffered with this challenge for many, many years and even when I first started coaching, I was still challenged by it. That was until I found a way to design my life and act on that design every single day.

I have created and refined this process over the last 3 years learning and applying information from some of the giants of personal development and success like Tony Robbins, Paul Mckenna and many more. During this Blog Post and the video below I am going to talk about  the whole life design process and how I make sure that I am ‘Living Into’ the life I have designed every single day. I am going to share with you how you can design your ‘Ideal Life‘, how to find a purpose in everything that you do, how to have a clear vision of who you are and how to mould these different things into exciting goals and achieve them. Now it is important that I add, that a lot of the information may seem a little ‘Out There’ at first but it isn’t magic. The techniques are based on real scientific results that you can get in your body, mind and life. Watch the Video Below and check out the rest of the Blog Post for more detail.

Your Ideal Life

This one of the very first things that I did when I decided that I wanted to create an amazing life for myself and other people. This first step is MASSIVE because having your Ideal Life written down in front of you, that you can read every day will make you excited and open your mind to the motivation because you are aware of the life that you are heading towards.

In my experience people lack this concept of an ideal life in front of them, what I call a ‘Fantastic Future’. People aren’t suffering from a lack of motivation all the time, they just haven’t designed a life to look forward to, so why bother? Why even get up in the morning?

When you were watching the video you saw how passionate and excited I got when I was describing my ideal life and all of the things it is going to entail. I have included my vision below to give you a couple of ideas but the key thing is to design your ideal life based on what is right for YOU because everyone is different. If there were no limits, what you design for your life? What life would excite you? What do you want your life to mean?  Answer these questions and picture your ideal life, take pen and write down everything that comes to mind no matter how far fetched you think that is right now. Here is mine for some ideas (notice how it is in the present tense, which is conditioning my mind):

My Ideal Life

“I am a person that is a true inspiration and leader in the world of personal transformations, personal development, writing, speaking, seminars, sports, health, trading, life coaching and golf.

I am someone who impacts millions of people’s lives through my incredible vision, determination, commitment, courage, compassion, and creativity.

I’m constantly improving people’s mindsets and the quality of their lives. I’m a successful internet businessman that earns a passive income through incredible products and services that make a difference in the lives of others.

I am financially free!

I focus on and do what I love.

I am fluent in French and Spanish.

I am a Master of NLP.

I am a master hypnotherapist.

I grow evolve and develop and develop who I am to reach my maximum potential and then surpass it!

I am the best I can be while sharing those gifts with millions of people through,my coaching,events,books, products and services worldwide.

I’ve built my own Charitable foundation.

I have an incredibly loving wife and family that is constantly nurtured and growing.

We live in a mansion in South Wales with our home gym, library, home office,home cinema, golf simulator and studio.

I am physically Fit, asthma free at 12 Stone with 7% body fat and a clearly visible 6 Pack

I’ve have travelled the world visiting at least 35 countries

I’m with my perfect 10, my soul mate, the woman of my dreams who I will spend my life with, Katie Clarke.

I’m completely fulfilled, passionate happy and grateful on a daily basis.I have incredible friendships and family life.

I’m spiritually connected to the memory of my grandfather and connected to the universe in such a way that I feel like I have control over it.”

When you have completed this for yourself, I promise that with repetition and a belief that looking forward to this fantastic future will mean that the quality of your daily life will increase every day.

Why Bother?

The next part of the process is to really get in touch with the reasons why you are here in this life. This will accompany the design of your Ideal Life and answer the question “Why should I even bother creating my ideal life?” My WHY’S pretty much just read like a list and when I read them every day it gives me enough power to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to make my ideal life a reality. My ‘Why’s’ are listed below and hopefully it will help you create yours. Again, we are all different and you can get going by answering questions like “What will achieving my ideal life give me?” and “What will it cost me if I don’t achieve it?”

Why do I Want It?

I am here to humbly serve humanity by being a passionate example of the unlimited possibilities that life offers.

I am here to sincerely love everything in the universe and appreciate the miracle that is everything as well as every moment.

I am here to live life to the fullest because my life has a meaning and a purpose and to honour this is the most powerful way to show my respect for myself and for my place in the universe by endeavouring to become more myself so I can set up strong example of what’s possible for others because I believe that you only have one life and you have to enjoy the process.

I make sure that my friends, family and loved ones are absolutely certain of my love for them.

I am here to feel excited about my life and what I can give, share and experience.

I am here to have an amazing time, create an unbelievable and inspirational story and leave behind a legacy that grows and inspires my friends and family for generations to come. I am here for those Magic Moments. I am here to Live Life on my terms. I will never settle for less than I can be, do create or give.

I am here to honour the memory of my Grandfather. I am here to give Katie her Dream Life. I am here to care and provide for mum the way she has always cared and provided for me. I am here to thank Nan for all she has done for me and for the family. I am here to repay Dad’s unwavering support and belief in me. I here to live in financial Freedom and help others do the same

I am here to be a living example of the endless possibilities of humanity. I am here to be an inspiration to others. I am here to be a role model. I am here to be remembered and leave a legacy. I am here to be a leader. I am here to create a financial situation where I have the freedom to do what I want, when I want. So I can travel the world. So I can live my perfect day. I am here to live beyond 100 years of age. I am here for Health, Wealth, and excitement. I am here for big smiles, to be playful, to be inspirational and to be energetic

Who are You?

You have big dreams, you have an idea why you want to achieve those dreams but are you really the person you need to be in order to get it done? A great thing to do is to create a vision of yourself where you keep your ‘true core’ and include features that you know the ‘best version of yourself’ will have. This can even include things that aren’t quite true…yet. You can then grow into this version of yourself. Take a look at mine below to give you an idea of what I mean. You can make this clearer in your head by asking questions like: “Who am I?” and “Who do I want to be?”

Who Am I?

I’m an extraordinary, passionate and loving man who loves people, family, friends, animals, changing lives & ideas that make a difference.

I love to discover and be creative. I love nature, beaches, beautiful scenery, travel, adventure, oceans, rivers, mountains, lakes, sunshine, wildlife and breathtaking views. I am a passionate man who takes the good things in life and makes them phenomenal and loves to share them openly, lovingly, passionately and playfully with others. I’m a massive source of inspiration. I’m a man with exceptionally high standards and excellent daily habits.

I’m a creator of possibilities, options, solutions, choices, opportunities and visions. I’m a creator of fun and laughter. I’m a creator of breakthrough moments. I’m an example of what’s possible. I’m an amazing, boyfriend, friend, son, grandson, nephew, mentor, strategist, Foreign Exchange Trader, personal transformation coach, internet marketer, public speaker, entrepreneur, student, teacher, author, visionary and strategic planner.

I’m fun, I’m silly, and I’m playful. I’m outrageous, I’m adventurous and spontaneous.

I test the realms of possibility. I’m happy and fulfilled. I’m and athlete. I’m an author. I’m a great golfer. I’m a playful kid who can make anyone smile. I’m confident. I’m powerful I’m masculine. I’m attractive and handsome. I’m at one with the universe. I’m a leader. I’m a great listener, I’m a master communicator. I’m committed. I’m patient.

 

What is your Vision? Why do you Want it? and Who Are You? In Every Area of your Life!

To really crank up this process you also need to do the above for every area of your life (Health/Fitness/body, Finances, Career,  Relationships, Contribution/Charity etc.) As an Example, my Health/Fitness/Body version is below:

Ideal Health and Body

I am 12 Stone  with 7% body fat, I am vital, healthy, energetic, athletic, muscled and ripped. I have a clearly visible 6 pack. I look in the mirror and smile and I feel proud. I feel outstanding, I have a high self-esteem, I feel confident. I am an inspiration for others.

Why?

I enjoy being muscled, toned and an inspiration for others. I enjoy being confident. I enjoy having non-stop energy. I enjoy the fact I am going to live beyond 100 years old. I enjoy staying young, healthy and vibrant.

Who Am I?

I’m a an athlete. I’m a manifestation of vibrant health and energy. I’m a peak performer. I’m an exemplar of physical health, vitality and strength.

You may be thinking that this is a long process. It is! However, what you’ll discover is, it’s worth it! Designing your life this way and working out why you want it and who you are is a gift that you will thank yourself for, forever!

Achieve a Goal in 30 Days!

Take one area of your life and work back from your ‘ideal’ and set a goal that will be a stepping stone to that vision when you achieve it! For Example if you wanted a certain level of health and physicality and at the moment you consider yourself ‘lazy’, you could set a goal something like “Over the last 30 Days, I have exercised for at least 30 minutes 3 times per week”. Achieve this and you will be sending a powerful “I can do this!” message to your mind. Every time that you do this in each area of your life, setting the goal isn’t enough, you must execute the final 2 parts of the process with all of your heart…

Robust Strategies and Abundant Action

No matter what your vision is for your life, no matter how noble your reasons might be; you need strategies that are highly workable and be prepared to do a LOT of stuff!

This process isn’t easy but it’s simple. Build an Ideal Life in your mind, why you want it, who you are, set your goals accordingly and then LIFT OFF! When I say ‘robust strategies’ I mean strategies that are designed to be flexible and get results.

Around 3% of people will take action on this to the point where their lives improve forever and that’s cool. Just make sure you are one of them! Comment Below and Subscribe because I want you to make sure that you catch the next Post where I reveal some techniques for daily happiness, success and productivity.

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How to Feel Better or Change a Negative Behaviour by Interrupting the Pattern

ID-100110736The true quality of our lives is defined by how we feel on a moment-to-moment basis right? Over the last 3 years I have wanted to investigate this concept a little deeper to see how I can stop feeling bad or change a negative feeling or behaviour in an instant. As a result, I kept coming across a technique called ‘The Pattern Interrupt’. This particular technique was popularized by the founder of NLP (or Neuro Linguistic Programming), Richard Bandler and I discovered its many applications in Bandler’s book; Get the Life you Want. I use this technique in my life on a regular basis due to the rapid success rate that it has. Think of a habit, behaviour or feeling that you would like to change. It can be anything from, feeling stressed, feeling anxious, comfort eating to lazing on the couch. I have realised that the key thing to realize is that the feeling or behaviour is simply an automatic pattern. It’s not you any more, you have been conditioned to the point where these things are just ‘happening’. The exciting thing about this realisation is how easy it then is to make rapid, positive changes. Depending on your learning style, you can watch the video of me going through the process or read the description of the process below. I recommend that which ever way around you do it that you read the description and watch the video to fully grasp the concept.

How to Change a Bad Feeling or Negative Behaviour using a Pattern Interrupt

1) Experience the Feeling or Behaviour at its Fullest Whatever you are looking to change, you must experience it as fully as possible first. Tony Robbins calls this ‘getting the pattern running’. As an example, I wanted to overcome the feeling of anxiety when it came to building my business so I purposely made myself feel anxious about my business. The fuller you can experience the feeling, the faster and more successful the change will be. Using anxiety as an example, you would ask yourself; “How can I get anxious right now?”, “How would I be holding my body?”, then change your body and head position to reflect the anxious state of mind. Think of the things that make you feel anxious and say what you’d say to yourself. When you are experiencing the anxiety to the fullest you can go to the next step.

2) Interrupt the Pattern Now that you are experiencing the emotion or behaviour to the fullest you must do something totally unique and somewhat outrageous to interrupt the pattern. Your feelings will be jolted so much that you will move into a more positive state. Think of  the simple Mathematics pattern: 2,4,6,8,10,12,14 – if I interrupt that pattern and make it 2,4,5,29,10,12,14 it simply isn’t a pattern any more. Human feelings are the same. I know what the next question you have, is: What Pattern Interrupt should I use? When you are experiencing the pattern of feelings at their fullest, change your body language drastically and shout or do something silly and crazy. You could jump up and shout “WOOOHHHOOO I LOVE GRASS!!!”. I know that sounds insane but that’s great, the more outrageous the better! It is the body change and craziness that interrupts the pattern. Sometimes with clients I tell them to jump up in a really loud voice, then tell to laugh as hard as they possibly can. Can you see how this really does interrupt the pattern?

3) Replace the Old, Negative Pattern with a Positive New One  Now that the pattern has been well and truly interrupted, you need to replace it with a positive pattern that you actually want to experience. For me, I wanted to feel happy and confident about building my business, replacing the old anxiety. The easy way to create this happy and confident feeling is to stand up, throw your shoulders back, throw your chest up and put a huge smile on your face. You know what positive alternatives will work for you, so do that. When you have done this enough times and it becomes totally automatic you will be reconditioned to feel the feelings and behave in a way that you want. I understand that you are probably sceptical, I was as well. The fact of the matter is, this stuff really works and you should use this tool to interrupt every negative pattern in your life.

Start Today and Keep Going

This process is a skill and in my opinion, like any other skill you can’t just do it once and expect to improve forever. Start right now with something that you’d like to change, then go through it 10 times per day for 2 weeks. You will notice yourself getting better and the old patterns being replaced. Most of all, Enjoy it!

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How to be More Positive

ID-10047087I have found life a lot more simple with a positive attitude. The challenges of life are going to come your way no matter what happens and I have discovered that these challenges become a LOT easier to deal with if you are more positive. Ever since I became interested in personal development I have been shocked by how negative most people are and how as a society we are almost ‘addicted’ to negativity. Moving away from this negative way of life will be a massive step in the direction of achieving your life’s goals before you even do anything.  Below you’ll find 7 Steps that will be valuable to you if you are trying to discover how to be more positive.

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1. Don’t React, ‘Choose’ to Respond.

There is no need whatsoever to bounce through life constantly reacting to the things that happen to you. You can choose exactly how to respond. Become aware of that small period of time where you have a choice. For example, you get up in the morning and you stub your toe. You can ‘react’ negatively: “oh no, I’m such an idiot…ow, ow, ow. Today is going to be such a bad day!” (sounds familiar right?). However, you can choose your response: “how funny, it makes me slightly peeved when I do that but if I’m honest it didn’t hurt that much….time for breakfast. Wonderful!” This may take a little practice and I promise it will change your life.

2. Be Thankful as Often as Possible

I have written about this topic many times recently and it really is a very simple way to be more positive. You have so many things to be grateful for as long as you are honest with yourself. Focusing on all of the things that you are grateful for is an amazing way to feel even better if you are in a good mood and a rapid way to go from angry to positive.

3. Move Positively!

This particular information changed my life and it has changed the lives of anyone that has been touched by it. If you aren’t feeling positive or confident, start to act like it and the feelings will follow suit. Force that smile on your face, puff your chest up and throw your shoulders back and be amazed by what happens. Even if it feels silly and you start laughing at yourself…it’s worked because you’re laughing.

4. Avoid Comparisons with other People

Comparing yourself to others can often be a fast track to feeling negative. Each time you notice that there is something different about you you will begin to focus on it and it will bring you down. Spend your time focusing on how you are always looking to become an even better version of yourself and you will be more positive.

5. Stay Present

I once heard an amazing expression from the Director of a company that I used to work for, he said “If you live with one foot in the past and one foot in the future, you are running the risk of urinating on the present!” Whilst this may not be a very pleasant analogy it gets the message across doesn’t it? If you are letting your thoughts move into the past or the future too often you will let your head drop and become negative. Bring yourself into the present moment and appreciate :).

6. Focus on What you Want

We have all seen the infant proudly carrying their beaker filled with drink, a big smile on their face, having no problems with it whatsoever. Then the parent says “Don’t spill it!” and wham, the drink goes everywhere. The parent and consequently, the child have started to focus on what they don’t want. Can you guess what happens if you think “I don’t want to be negative, I don’t want to be fat, I don’t want to be broke”? Focusing on what you want will get you more of what you want and as a beautiful by-product you will be more positive.

7. Fail Forward

Failure is once again something that produces a positive or negative response based on the choices that you make. Failure can only produce a negative reaction if you choose to see it as final. However, you can let it produce a positive, excited response in a similar way to the great Thomas Edison by realising that each temporary defeat is taking you closer to the ultimate goal. View each ‘failure’ as positive fuel to thrust you towards success and a negative reaction will not be possible. I genuinely wish you the positive daily life that you can create for yourself. Follow the steps above that work for you and mix it with your own ideas that will make a real difference. You can click the picture below to read about my e-book ‘How to be More Positive’ 

 

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