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7 Easy Ways to Enjoy the Present Moment

present-moment“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have” – Eckhart Tolle

A busy lifestyle is what everyone is used to in modern society. We have all done it; mindlessly skipped from one task to another without a break. It’s like being a hamster in a cage on one of those wheels, except you never get off! Is it any wonder that stress related illnesses are on the rise in Western society?

Developing the ability to enjoy the present moment several times a day can break up the mindless business and therefore reduce your stress levels. When you are feeling more relaxed every day as a result, you will be happier, healthier and more productive.

The wonderful thing about cultivating an appreciation for the present moment is it requires very little effort. You can start your day doing it, you can progress through your day doing it and you can end your day doing it.

When I first decided to improve my life, this concept was lost on me. I had no idea what I was missing. I was frantically writing business plans, health plans, developing ideas, attending meetings and generally being all over the place.

Even though I was getting deeply involved with many strategies taught within the self improvement industry, I found myself feeling strangely unfilled.

It was only through deep self-reflection that I realised that I wasn’t ‘Stopping to smell the Roses’. It became clear to me that I had to start enjoying the present moment a lot more often.

There are 7 Easy ways to start Enjoying the present moment:

1-Appreciate your Waking Moments                                                 

Instead of just shutting off your alarm and sluggishly rolling out of bed; just lie still and appreciate the new day. As you lie there focus on your breathing and feel grateful as the oxygen fills your body in this new day of your life. As you allow the feelings of gratitude to fill your spirit really appreciate the comfort that your bed has given you and then acknowledge how grateful you are to be able to get out of bed and begin a new day.

2-Feel Everything

Whenever your senses are being stimulated, make the effort to notice everything. If you are walking in the park notice the depth of the smells, the concert of sounds and the abundant sights. If you are trying some new food, be aware of every taste and texture. Even if you are just sat in your office notice how your body feels on the chair and acknowledge your fingers as they hit the keyboard (I’ve just done it and it really works).

3-Smile

Originally I thought that this idea was too simple and a little crazy. However, when I started to just stop at random points during the day, embrace the present moment and smile my days started to improve. Research suggests that smiling changes the hormones produced by your body, actually easing stress.

Smile randomly, smile at other people, smile at every living creature you encounter and enjoy the results.

4-Do what you’re doing

We have all attempted to multi-task and I’m sure you’d admit that it isn’t the most efficient way to get things done. Focusing on what you are doing and making that the only thing you are doing not only increases the likelihood of you enjoying it, it also increases the quality with which the task will be completed.

5 – Celebrate

When I set my first goals I realised that I wasn’t spending any time celebrating the ‘small wins’. My days were packed with things to do and I was just moving from one thing to another even though I was having some successes. I discovered that it is important to get present and celebrate when you have completed a task successfully. This can be anything from a 10 minute break to watch something funny or just to simply acknowledge yourself and give yourself a little “well done”.

6-Random Gratitude

When you are feeling grateful for something that you are currently experiencing you are enjoying the present moment. One sure fire way to accomplish this is to simply become aware of your heartbeat and feel grateful for it beating away in the centre of your chest.  You can extend this practice into being grateful for everything from your breathing to your ability to type. It is impossible to feel grateful and stressed at the same time.

7-Breathe

Turning your attention to your breathing stops thoughts from whizzing around your head at 100 miles an hour and takes you into the present moment. Breathe deeply and be aware of the air flowing in and out of your body, giving you the gift of oxygen as it does so.

Allowing yourself to embrace the present moment several times a day will be an amazing gift that you give yourself allowing a happier, healthier, less stressful life.

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2014: Goals Achieved & Crucial Lessons

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At the end of each year I reflect on how far I have come, the goals I managed to achieve, goals that I didn’t achieve and the lessons that I can learn. I first came across this idea when I was listening to a Jim Rohn audiotape. The great Mr. Rohn believe that you should reflect on the previous year for 2 major reasons: Firstly, to notice and celebrate all of the successes of the year. By taking the time out to celebrate your achievements you are reinforcing your belief to go ahead and achieve more goals. I also believe that the feeling of gratitude and pride that this process will give you is absolutely priceless. Secondly, reviewing the goals that you didn’t quite achieve allows you to ask some powerful questions so that you can do even better next time. What did I learn? What’s the best thing that will happen as a result of not achieving the goal? By going through the process of finding the positive lessons in each ‘failure’ you are making sure that you don’t make the same mistakes again and refine your processes for the next year.

The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be of greater value than what you get.  – Jim Rohn

2014 was the proverbial rollercoaster for me; there were holidays of a lifetime, family tragedies and illnesses, book releases, seminars, a pregnancy and more.

Goals Achieved and Accomplishments

Here the goals that I achieved and other accomplishments in 2014 that I am grateful to have created.

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  • Had a Green Juice at least 5 days per week
  • Did a 60 Day, 0 Carb ‘Protein and Green’ Eating Plan
  • The above allowed me to get down to 7% Bodyfat (Although this is technically a missed goal as my target was 6%. Still an accomplishment.
  • Ate a spoonful of Coconut Oil every day
  • Achieved my Goal of 10 ‘Muscle Ups’ in a Row

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  • Secured 4 Book Sponsors
  • Released my 1st Book ‘The Rut Buster’ 
  • Published 30 Blog Posts
  • Published 22 Videos to Youtube with my channel growing to over 4,000 views
  • Coached over 15 Clients One on One, helping to improve their lives
  • Conducted my first personal Seminar
  • Conducted my first 2 Day Long Seminar
  • Spoke to Over 400 People in South Africa
  • Launched a membership site
  • I learned how to trade the Foreign Exchange
  • I made 170% profit on my Foreign Exchange Account
  • I successfully separated my money into different accounts to control spending

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  • Got a New Car (Goal Accelerated by the Pregnancy of my girlfriend, Katie. I needed a 4 Door Car for the Baby Seat!)
  • Spent a week in Lanzarote, Canary Islands with Katie
  • Spent 5 Days in Las Vegas with Katie
  • Spent a week in Isla Mujeres, Cancun with Katie
  • Had a Great week off with my Friend who visited from Australia
  • Had a Great Long Weekend in Newcastle with my friends

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  • Supported my Nan through her near fatal heart attack and consequent recovery
  • Supported my girlfriend through several family tragedies
  • Visited my Grandfather in his Home regularly
  • Spent time with family and friends every week
  • Found out I am going to be a father
  • Surprised Katie with a Trip to Lanzarote for her Birthday
  • Had at least one Date Night/Date Day every week me and Katie were in the same country.
  • Had a lot of progressive Conversations with my best friend Rhydian of Thought Support
  • Dedicated more time to new relationships both social and business.
  • Coordinated the Rental of my first House with Katie
  • Dedicated myself with to the preparation and learning required to be a great dad

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  • Donated 3.33% of Book Profits to The British Heart Foundation
  • Donated 3.33% of Book Profits to Dementia UK
  • Donated 3.33% of Book Profits to Cancer Research UK
  • Gave £100 worth of Food to the Homeless Shelter on Christmas Eve
  • Gave Dog Food to the Dogs Home on Christmas Eve
  • Gave a lot of time helping people through answering Facebook messages, emails etc.
  • Helped all of the members of my membership site
  • Reached Thousands of People with my positive messages on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram
  • Allowed under 16’s to join my membership site for Free

Daily Habits & Self Improvement

  • Read 41 Books
  • Went through ‘Train the Trainer’ in South Africa
  • Created several Pinterest Vision Boards
  • Did my Morning Ritual consistently
  • Did Deep Breathing twice a day
  • Wrote a ‘Gratitude List’ every morning
  • Recorded any inspired thoughts in my journal

My Key Lessons from 2014

  • Going for too many goals at once can cause you to become confused and even stressed. Complete one goal at a time and then move on to the next one.
  • It is something that I always knew intellectually and I really started to practice it in 2014 and that is: what you THINK from moment to moment really will be the major factor in your happiness. Train yourself to focus on what you’re grateful for and to see the beauty in each moment and happiness will follow.
  • Remember to have fun with your friends. I know that people who write about personal development sometimes get caught up on working constantly and I used to be one of them. I realized in 2014 that you have to get out, socialize and enjoy the company of others to really nourish your spirit. Going back to working hard and achieving other goals will then be easier.
  • Being Healthy is easier than you think. Although I have gone to what some people would perceive to be extremes in the past to create rapid results and cure my asthma I have gotten to a stage where health and energy is easy. I make sure that I manage my mind when it comes to craving ‘bad’ foods, have a green juice, a green smoothie, my supplements and lots of greens with every meal and the rest easy. I have also realized that your ‘treat meal’ should be simply enjoyed with no negative feelings afterwards.
  • Nothing feels quite like giving to those with less than you.
  • Helping kids is amazing and they are like sponges. Give them good information and they will act on it and create great results.
  • Make sure that when you create an action plan (to do list) for the day, you mark the Top 3 items that you have to get done. These are the items that will contribute the most to your goals when compared to the rest.
  • The Foreign Exchange is a vehicle for long term wealth.
  • Separate yourself from that automatic ‘Little Voice’ and your true core. That ‘Little Voice’ is lying to you and holding you back by creating fears and excuses. Tell it to shut up and move forward!
  • It is important to keep improving no matter what. There is no destination only continual progress.

Even though 2014 came with it’s challenges, it was an amazing year and 2015 is going to be even better. For the first time I am going to publicly share my yearly goals to create a high level of accountability. Please keep up to date below:

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How to Feel Better or Change a Negative Behaviour by Interrupting the Pattern

ID-100110736The true quality of our lives is defined by how we feel on a moment-to-moment basis right? Over the last 3 years I have wanted to investigate this concept a little deeper to see how I can stop feeling bad or change a negative feeling or behaviour in an instant. As a result, I kept coming across a technique called ‘The Pattern Interrupt’. This particular technique was popularized by the founder of NLP (or Neuro Linguistic Programming), Richard Bandler and I discovered its many applications in Bandler’s book; Get the Life you Want. I use this technique in my life on a regular basis due to the rapid success rate that it has. Think of a habit, behaviour or feeling that you would like to change. It can be anything from, feeling stressed, feeling anxious, comfort eating to lazing on the couch. I have realised that the key thing to realize is that the feeling or behaviour is simply an automatic pattern. It’s not you any more, you have been conditioned to the point where these things are just ‘happening’. The exciting thing about this realisation is how easy it then is to make rapid, positive changes. Depending on your learning style, you can watch the video of me going through the process or read the description of the process below. I recommend that which ever way around you do it that you read the description and watch the video to fully grasp the concept.

How to Change a Bad Feeling or Negative Behaviour using a Pattern Interrupt

1) Experience the Feeling or Behaviour at its Fullest Whatever you are looking to change, you must experience it as fully as possible first. Tony Robbins calls this ‘getting the pattern running’. As an example, I wanted to overcome the feeling of anxiety when it came to building my business so I purposely made myself feel anxious about my business. The fuller you can experience the feeling, the faster and more successful the change will be. Using anxiety as an example, you would ask yourself; “How can I get anxious right now?”, “How would I be holding my body?”, then change your body and head position to reflect the anxious state of mind. Think of the things that make you feel anxious and say what you’d say to yourself. When you are experiencing the anxiety to the fullest you can go to the next step.

2) Interrupt the Pattern Now that you are experiencing the emotion or behaviour to the fullest you must do something totally unique and somewhat outrageous to interrupt the pattern. Your feelings will be jolted so much that you will move into a more positive state. Think of  the simple Mathematics pattern: 2,4,6,8,10,12,14 – if I interrupt that pattern and make it 2,4,5,29,10,12,14 it simply isn’t a pattern any more. Human feelings are the same. I know what the next question you have, is: What Pattern Interrupt should I use? When you are experiencing the pattern of feelings at their fullest, change your body language drastically and shout or do something silly and crazy. You could jump up and shout “WOOOHHHOOO I LOVE GRASS!!!”. I know that sounds insane but that’s great, the more outrageous the better! It is the body change and craziness that interrupts the pattern. Sometimes with clients I tell them to jump up in a really loud voice, then tell to laugh as hard as they possibly can. Can you see how this really does interrupt the pattern?

3) Replace the Old, Negative Pattern with a Positive New One  Now that the pattern has been well and truly interrupted, you need to replace it with a positive pattern that you actually want to experience. For me, I wanted to feel happy and confident about building my business, replacing the old anxiety. The easy way to create this happy and confident feeling is to stand up, throw your shoulders back, throw your chest up and put a huge smile on your face. You know what positive alternatives will work for you, so do that. When you have done this enough times and it becomes totally automatic you will be reconditioned to feel the feelings and behave in a way that you want. I understand that you are probably sceptical, I was as well. The fact of the matter is, this stuff really works and you should use this tool to interrupt every negative pattern in your life.

Start Today and Keep Going

This process is a skill and in my opinion, like any other skill you can’t just do it once and expect to improve forever. Start right now with something that you’d like to change, then go through it 10 times per day for 2 weeks. You will notice yourself getting better and the old patterns being replaced. Most of all, Enjoy it!

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Appreciate Everything

jermaine-harrisEven though it was raining this morning, I still chose to take my Dog, Prince, for a walk around the Park that is just down the road from my house in Cardiff. I realised that I was one of only a handful of people in the park and I found myself observing the beautiful spring trees, the blossoms and the rest of the park’s scenery. I felt totally relaxed and centred. 

It was an incredibly refreshing experience because I have been especially busy lately and it was amazing to be able to stand there and think freely.

I started to feel genuinely lucky. If things had transpired slightly differently in my life I may not have been able to walk or even be alive today. I felt lucky to be able to be able to experience the sights, smells and sounds of the park and this was compounded by my gratitude for being able to actually walk around it. I felt an immense gratitude for the fact that I am spending my days doing what I absolutely love to do, which is give my all, writing, speaking and coaching on topics that allow people to improve their lives. As is always the way; these positive thoughts seemed to attract more positive thoughts. I started thinking about my beautiful family and my lifelong friends.

I progressed to think about how fortunate that I am to have had so many different experiences before the age of 26. Everything that I have been through so far; both the positive and the negative experiences have made me who I am today. I have suffered from a massive amount of rejection, pain and failure. I have made many mistakes and awful decisions. However, every one of these of things have allowed me to develop into the person that I am right now.

I feel gratitude for all of the experiences. The negative ones actually provided me with the motivation that I needed at the time to push forward in life. All of the amazingly positive experiences have added depth, celebration and a true sense of worth that I will always remember. Whatever has happened in my life, I have decided to use them to fuel my human potential and create a new destiny for myself.

If I hadn’t been on the ‘Jermaine Harris Roller Coaster’, who knows what I’d be doing? The chances are I would have just ended up with an average existence, with less friends and definitely much less motivation.

I went on to think about how grateful that I am for the proactive decisions that I have made over the last 3 years. The decisions that have led me to be obsessed with improving my life and passionate about improving the lives of others. I felt grateful for taking the scary decision to quit a well paid job that I was good at to start my own coaching business and ultimately become an author.

appreciate-everythingI thought about how grateful that I am to have conquered my asthma and transform my health when doctors had said that it was ‘impossible’.

These positive thoughts were simply magnetic. It was at this point that I decided that I was going to share this information with you. I wanted to help you to be aware of the fact that it is…

...Gratitude and Appreciation that allow us to experience true fulfilment.

I know that this may sound like an old cliché but the fact of the matter is, most members of society are not taking the time think about being grateful. They are so busy paying attention to the next payslip or ‘becoming successful’ that the things that they can be truly grateful for are totally eluding them. Of course a massive part of what I do is focused on success but I have become increasingly aware of the fact that ‘achievement’ isn’t going to make you happy.

What will make you happy is the person that you develop into.

I want you to imagine yourself as an empty cup and take on the belief that the skill involved with continuous happiness is filling that cup every single day with the gratitude and appreciation for the things that you actually have.

When was the last time that you actually did this? I mean genuinely took the time to focus on the things that feel fortunate to have or experience in your life.

It will be an amazing gift that you will give yourself because you will be attracting the love, validation and respect that you want from other people and you’ll be creating it in your own mind. As you do this more regularly and your ‘cup’ is filled with gratitude every day you will develop an emotional strength without having to depend on other people.

The whole process becomes life changing and exciting when you realise how comfortable that you are in your own skin, how much you feel compelled to contribute to the lives of others and how ’emotionally fulfilled’ you feel every day.

Realise that the only reason you want to be successful is because it will give you ‘Good Feelings’. Why not experience them in advance?

To achieve this spend 10 Minutes in the morning and 10 minutes in the evening, thinking about or even better, writing down, all of the things that you are grateful for.

I’d love for you to comment below, stating the things that you are grateful for. Thank you 🙂

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