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My Life Design – How to be Happy, How to Be Productive and How to Achieve Goals Faster

We are always hearing people talk about ‘balance’ when it comes to their life aren’t we? Would you like to create a design for ID-100213932your life so that you will be happier, more productive and achieve your goals faster?

Many people face the challenge that is the balancing of every area of their lives; whether it be the job, the business, the finances, the marriage, the health or the leisure time. I suffered with this challenge for many, many years and even when I first started coaching, I was still challenged by it. That was until I found a way to design my life and act on that design every single day.

I have created and refined this process over the last 3 years learning and applying information from some of the giants of personal development and success like Tony Robbins, Paul Mckenna and many more. During this Blog Post and the video below I am going to talk about  the whole life design process and how I make sure that I am ‘Living Into’ the life I have designed every single day. I am going to share with you how you can design your ‘Ideal Life‘, how to find a purpose in everything that you do, how to have a clear vision of who you are and how to mould these different things into exciting goals and achieve them. Now it is important that I add, that a lot of the information may seem a little ‘Out There’ at first but it isn’t magic. The techniques are based on real scientific results that you can get in your body, mind and life. Watch the Video Below and check out the rest of the Blog Post for more detail.

Your Ideal Life

This one of the very first things that I did when I decided that I wanted to create an amazing life for myself and other people. This first step is MASSIVE because having your Ideal Life written down in front of you, that you can read every day will make you excited and open your mind to the motivation because you are aware of the life that you are heading towards.

In my experience people lack this concept of an ideal life in front of them, what I call a ‘Fantastic Future’. People aren’t suffering from a lack of motivation all the time, they just haven’t designed a life to look forward to, so why bother? Why even get up in the morning?

When you were watching the video you saw how passionate and excited I got when I was describing my ideal life and all of the things it is going to entail. I have included my vision below to give you a couple of ideas but the key thing is to design your ideal life based on what is right for YOU because everyone is different. If there were no limits, what you design for your life? What life would excite you? What do you want your life to mean?  Answer these questions and picture your ideal life, take pen and write down everything that comes to mind no matter how far fetched you think that is right now. Here is mine for some ideas (notice how it is in the present tense, which is conditioning my mind):

My Ideal Life

“I am a person that is a true inspiration and leader in the world of personal transformations, personal development, writing, speaking, seminars, sports, health, trading, life coaching and golf.

I am someone who impacts millions of people’s lives through my incredible vision, determination, commitment, courage, compassion, and creativity.

I’m constantly improving people’s mindsets and the quality of their lives. I’m a successful internet businessman that earns a passive income through incredible products and services that make a difference in the lives of others.

I am financially free!

I focus on and do what I love.

I am fluent in French and Spanish.

I am a Master of NLP.

I am a master hypnotherapist.

I grow evolve and develop and develop who I am to reach my maximum potential and then surpass it!

I am the best I can be while sharing those gifts with millions of people through,my coaching,events,books, products and services worldwide.

I’ve built my own Charitable foundation.

I have an incredibly loving wife and family that is constantly nurtured and growing.

We live in a mansion in South Wales with our home gym, library, home office,home cinema, golf simulator and studio.

I am physically Fit, asthma free at 12 Stone with 7% body fat and a clearly visible 6 Pack

I’ve have travelled the world visiting at least 35 countries

I’m with my perfect 10, my soul mate, the woman of my dreams who I will spend my life with, Katie Clarke.

I’m completely fulfilled, passionate happy and grateful on a daily basis.I have incredible friendships and family life.

I’m spiritually connected to the memory of my grandfather and connected to the universe in such a way that I feel like I have control over it.”

When you have completed this for yourself, I promise that with repetition and a belief that looking forward to this fantastic future will mean that the quality of your daily life will increase every day.

Why Bother?

The next part of the process is to really get in touch with the reasons why you are here in this life. This will accompany the design of your Ideal Life and answer the question “Why should I even bother creating my ideal life?” My WHY’S pretty much just read like a list and when I read them every day it gives me enough power to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to make my ideal life a reality. My ‘Why’s’ are listed below and hopefully it will help you create yours. Again, we are all different and you can get going by answering questions like “What will achieving my ideal life give me?” and “What will it cost me if I don’t achieve it?”

Why do I Want It?

I am here to humbly serve humanity by being a passionate example of the unlimited possibilities that life offers.

I am here to sincerely love everything in the universe and appreciate the miracle that is everything as well as every moment.

I am here to live life to the fullest because my life has a meaning and a purpose and to honour this is the most powerful way to show my respect for myself and for my place in the universe by endeavouring to become more myself so I can set up strong example of what’s possible for others because I believe that you only have one life and you have to enjoy the process.

I make sure that my friends, family and loved ones are absolutely certain of my love for them.

I am here to feel excited about my life and what I can give, share and experience.

I am here to have an amazing time, create an unbelievable and inspirational story and leave behind a legacy that grows and inspires my friends and family for generations to come. I am here for those Magic Moments. I am here to Live Life on my terms. I will never settle for less than I can be, do create or give.

I am here to honour the memory of my Grandfather. I am here to give Katie her Dream Life. I am here to care and provide for mum the way she has always cared and provided for me. I am here to thank Nan for all she has done for me and for the family. I am here to repay Dad’s unwavering support and belief in me. I here to live in financial Freedom and help others do the same

I am here to be a living example of the endless possibilities of humanity. I am here to be an inspiration to others. I am here to be a role model. I am here to be remembered and leave a legacy. I am here to be a leader. I am here to create a financial situation where I have the freedom to do what I want, when I want. So I can travel the world. So I can live my perfect day. I am here to live beyond 100 years of age. I am here for Health, Wealth, and excitement. I am here for big smiles, to be playful, to be inspirational and to be energetic

Who are You?

You have big dreams, you have an idea why you want to achieve those dreams but are you really the person you need to be in order to get it done? A great thing to do is to create a vision of yourself where you keep your ‘true core’ and include features that you know the ‘best version of yourself’ will have. This can even include things that aren’t quite true…yet. You can then grow into this version of yourself. Take a look at mine below to give you an idea of what I mean. You can make this clearer in your head by asking questions like: “Who am I?” and “Who do I want to be?”

Who Am I?

I’m an extraordinary, passionate and loving man who loves people, family, friends, animals, changing lives & ideas that make a difference.

I love to discover and be creative. I love nature, beaches, beautiful scenery, travel, adventure, oceans, rivers, mountains, lakes, sunshine, wildlife and breathtaking views. I am a passionate man who takes the good things in life and makes them phenomenal and loves to share them openly, lovingly, passionately and playfully with others. I’m a massive source of inspiration. I’m a man with exceptionally high standards and excellent daily habits.

I’m a creator of possibilities, options, solutions, choices, opportunities and visions. I’m a creator of fun and laughter. I’m a creator of breakthrough moments. I’m an example of what’s possible. I’m an amazing, boyfriend, friend, son, grandson, nephew, mentor, strategist, Foreign Exchange Trader, personal transformation coach, internet marketer, public speaker, entrepreneur, student, teacher, author, visionary and strategic planner.

I’m fun, I’m silly, and I’m playful. I’m outrageous, I’m adventurous and spontaneous.

I test the realms of possibility. I’m happy and fulfilled. I’m and athlete. I’m an author. I’m a great golfer. I’m a playful kid who can make anyone smile. I’m confident. I’m powerful I’m masculine. I’m attractive and handsome. I’m at one with the universe. I’m a leader. I’m a great listener, I’m a master communicator. I’m committed. I’m patient.

 

What is your Vision? Why do you Want it? and Who Are You? In Every Area of your Life!

To really crank up this process you also need to do the above for every area of your life (Health/Fitness/body, Finances, Career,  Relationships, Contribution/Charity etc.) As an Example, my Health/Fitness/Body version is below:

Ideal Health and Body

I am 12 Stone  with 7% body fat, I am vital, healthy, energetic, athletic, muscled and ripped. I have a clearly visible 6 pack. I look in the mirror and smile and I feel proud. I feel outstanding, I have a high self-esteem, I feel confident. I am an inspiration for others.

Why?

I enjoy being muscled, toned and an inspiration for others. I enjoy being confident. I enjoy having non-stop energy. I enjoy the fact I am going to live beyond 100 years old. I enjoy staying young, healthy and vibrant.

Who Am I?

I’m a an athlete. I’m a manifestation of vibrant health and energy. I’m a peak performer. I’m an exemplar of physical health, vitality and strength.

You may be thinking that this is a long process. It is! However, what you’ll discover is, it’s worth it! Designing your life this way and working out why you want it and who you are is a gift that you will thank yourself for, forever!

Achieve a Goal in 30 Days!

Take one area of your life and work back from your ‘ideal’ and set a goal that will be a stepping stone to that vision when you achieve it! For Example if you wanted a certain level of health and physicality and at the moment you consider yourself ‘lazy’, you could set a goal something like “Over the last 30 Days, I have exercised for at least 30 minutes 3 times per week”. Achieve this and you will be sending a powerful “I can do this!” message to your mind. Every time that you do this in each area of your life, setting the goal isn’t enough, you must execute the final 2 parts of the process with all of your heart…

Robust Strategies and Abundant Action

No matter what your vision is for your life, no matter how noble your reasons might be; you need strategies that are highly workable and be prepared to do a LOT of stuff!

This process isn’t easy but it’s simple. Build an Ideal Life in your mind, why you want it, who you are, set your goals accordingly and then LIFT OFF! When I say ‘robust strategies’ I mean strategies that are designed to be flexible and get results.

Around 3% of people will take action on this to the point where their lives improve forever and that’s cool. Just make sure you are one of them! Comment Below and Subscribe because I want you to make sure that you catch the next Post where I reveal some techniques for daily happiness, success and productivity.

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How to Feel Better or Change a Negative Behaviour by Interrupting the Pattern

ID-100110736The true quality of our lives is defined by how we feel on a moment-to-moment basis right? Over the last 3 years I have wanted to investigate this concept a little deeper to see how I can stop feeling bad or change a negative feeling or behaviour in an instant. As a result, I kept coming across a technique called ‘The Pattern Interrupt’. This particular technique was popularized by the founder of NLP (or Neuro Linguistic Programming), Richard Bandler and I discovered its many applications in Bandler’s book; Get the Life you Want. I use this technique in my life on a regular basis due to the rapid success rate that it has. Think of a habit, behaviour or feeling that you would like to change. It can be anything from, feeling stressed, feeling anxious, comfort eating to lazing on the couch. I have realised that the key thing to realize is that the feeling or behaviour is simply an automatic pattern. It’s not you any more, you have been conditioned to the point where these things are just ‘happening’. The exciting thing about this realisation is how easy it then is to make rapid, positive changes. Depending on your learning style, you can watch the video of me going through the process or read the description of the process below. I recommend that which ever way around you do it that you read the description and watch the video to fully grasp the concept.

How to Change a Bad Feeling or Negative Behaviour using a Pattern Interrupt

1) Experience the Feeling or Behaviour at its Fullest Whatever you are looking to change, you must experience it as fully as possible first. Tony Robbins calls this ‘getting the pattern running’. As an example, I wanted to overcome the feeling of anxiety when it came to building my business so I purposely made myself feel anxious about my business. The fuller you can experience the feeling, the faster and more successful the change will be. Using anxiety as an example, you would ask yourself; “How can I get anxious right now?”, “How would I be holding my body?”, then change your body and head position to reflect the anxious state of mind. Think of the things that make you feel anxious and say what you’d say to yourself. When you are experiencing the anxiety to the fullest you can go to the next step.

2) Interrupt the Pattern Now that you are experiencing the emotion or behaviour to the fullest you must do something totally unique and somewhat outrageous to interrupt the pattern. Your feelings will be jolted so much that you will move into a more positive state. Think of  the simple Mathematics pattern: 2,4,6,8,10,12,14 – if I interrupt that pattern and make it 2,4,5,29,10,12,14 it simply isn’t a pattern any more. Human feelings are the same. I know what the next question you have, is: What Pattern Interrupt should I use? When you are experiencing the pattern of feelings at their fullest, change your body language drastically and shout or do something silly and crazy. You could jump up and shout “WOOOHHHOOO I LOVE GRASS!!!”. I know that sounds insane but that’s great, the more outrageous the better! It is the body change and craziness that interrupts the pattern. Sometimes with clients I tell them to jump up in a really loud voice, then tell to laugh as hard as they possibly can. Can you see how this really does interrupt the pattern?

3) Replace the Old, Negative Pattern with a Positive New One  Now that the pattern has been well and truly interrupted, you need to replace it with a positive pattern that you actually want to experience. For me, I wanted to feel happy and confident about building my business, replacing the old anxiety. The easy way to create this happy and confident feeling is to stand up, throw your shoulders back, throw your chest up and put a huge smile on your face. You know what positive alternatives will work for you, so do that. When you have done this enough times and it becomes totally automatic you will be reconditioned to feel the feelings and behave in a way that you want. I understand that you are probably sceptical, I was as well. The fact of the matter is, this stuff really works and you should use this tool to interrupt every negative pattern in your life.

Start Today and Keep Going

This process is a skill and in my opinion, like any other skill you can’t just do it once and expect to improve forever. Start right now with something that you’d like to change, then go through it 10 times per day for 2 weeks. You will notice yourself getting better and the old patterns being replaced. Most of all, Enjoy it!

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How to be More Positive

ID-10047087I have found life a lot more simple with a positive attitude. The challenges of life are going to come your way no matter what happens and I have discovered that these challenges become a LOT easier to deal with if you are more positive. Ever since I became interested in personal development I have been shocked by how negative most people are and how as a society we are almost ‘addicted’ to negativity. Moving away from this negative way of life will be a massive step in the direction of achieving your life’s goals before you even do anything.  Below you’ll find 7 Steps that will be valuable to you if you are trying to discover how to be more positive.

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1. Don’t React, ‘Choose’ to Respond.

There is no need whatsoever to bounce through life constantly reacting to the things that happen to you. You can choose exactly how to respond. Become aware of that small period of time where you have a choice. For example, you get up in the morning and you stub your toe. You can ‘react’ negatively: “oh no, I’m such an idiot…ow, ow, ow. Today is going to be such a bad day!” (sounds familiar right?). However, you can choose your response: “how funny, it makes me slightly peeved when I do that but if I’m honest it didn’t hurt that much….time for breakfast. Wonderful!” This may take a little practice and I promise it will change your life.

2. Be Thankful as Often as Possible

I have written about this topic many times recently and it really is a very simple way to be more positive. You have so many things to be grateful for as long as you are honest with yourself. Focusing on all of the things that you are grateful for is an amazing way to feel even better if you are in a good mood and a rapid way to go from angry to positive.

3. Move Positively!

This particular information changed my life and it has changed the lives of anyone that has been touched by it. If you aren’t feeling positive or confident, start to act like it and the feelings will follow suit. Force that smile on your face, puff your chest up and throw your shoulders back and be amazed by what happens. Even if it feels silly and you start laughing at yourself…it’s worked because you’re laughing.

4. Avoid Comparisons with other People

Comparing yourself to others can often be a fast track to feeling negative. Each time you notice that there is something different about you you will begin to focus on it and it will bring you down. Spend your time focusing on how you are always looking to become an even better version of yourself and you will be more positive.

5. Stay Present

I once heard an amazing expression from the Director of a company that I used to work for, he said “If you live with one foot in the past and one foot in the future, you are running the risk of urinating on the present!” Whilst this may not be a very pleasant analogy it gets the message across doesn’t it? If you are letting your thoughts move into the past or the future too often you will let your head drop and become negative. Bring yourself into the present moment and appreciate :).

6. Focus on What you Want

We have all seen the infant proudly carrying their beaker filled with drink, a big smile on their face, having no problems with it whatsoever. Then the parent says “Don’t spill it!” and wham, the drink goes everywhere. The parent and consequently, the child have started to focus on what they don’t want. Can you guess what happens if you think “I don’t want to be negative, I don’t want to be fat, I don’t want to be broke”? Focusing on what you want will get you more of what you want and as a beautiful by-product you will be more positive.

7. Fail Forward

Failure is once again something that produces a positive or negative response based on the choices that you make. Failure can only produce a negative reaction if you choose to see it as final. However, you can let it produce a positive, excited response in a similar way to the great Thomas Edison by realising that each temporary defeat is taking you closer to the ultimate goal. View each ‘failure’ as positive fuel to thrust you towards success and a negative reaction will not be possible. I genuinely wish you the positive daily life that you can create for yourself. Follow the steps above that work for you and mix it with your own ideas that will make a real difference. You can click the picture below to read about my e-book ‘How to be More Positive’ 

 

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10 Reasons Why You Need a Life Coach

life-coachIf that negative little voice woke up when you read the headline of this article and said “I don’t need a life coach”. Take a breather, you may need to read this more than anyone else.

Whether it is the best selling self-help books of all time, the best athletes or the world’s most successful businessmen; all of their best advice would have one thing in common: The most rapid route to success/achievement in anything is to locate a coach, role model or mentor that has either achieved what you are trying to achieve or has helped others to achieve it. This is something that you have heard before, right? All of the successful people that I have studied offer this advice, from Tiger Woods to Tony Robbins.

Although this is true and everyone accepts this notion, most people don’t have a life coach in their lives. We are all addicted to the “I can do it myself” mentality and we are not prepared to invest our money into the most important thing in our lives (ourselves!). I used to be one of these people and it was holding me back from success. I now have several coaches and mentors to coach me in different areas of my life and if I could turn back the clock, I would have had a life coach as soon as I turned 18 (if not younger). I would have saved so much time, money and effort. That being said, I will be forever grateful for the coaches and mentors that I have in my life right now and I am delighted to have learned from my mistakes.

I have been doing a lot of reflecting recently and I decided to make a Video about “The10 Reasons Why you Need a Life Coach”. Having a coach has allowed me to improve my life much faster and has allowed me to become a much better life coach myself. Whatever I have invested in coaching I have always made it back at least 3 times over in time and money. Without my coach I wouldn’t have started my own business, I wouldn’t have got down to 7% body fat, I wouldn’t have cured my asthma, I wouldn’t be making money on the internet whilst I was asleep; I wouldn’t have achieved so many things.  

Please Watch My Video Blog on The 10 Reasons Why you Need a Life Coach:


In the above Video I discuss how having coaches has impacted my life and how much my life has changed as a result. 

10 Reasons Why You Need a Life Coach

Below are the 10 Reasons Why you Need a Life Coach in more detail:

1. Having a Life Coach Saves you Time and Brings you in a State of ‘Rapid Achievement’

We are all running out of time. You can always get more money, more food, more cars, more businesses but you’ll never be able to get more time. Although this is true and people, once again, accept this idea on an intellectual level, they still try to do things the hard way; by themselves and end up wasting precious time. This happens when we try and do things on or own because we are on a path that is new to us and we don’t know the fastest route. 

Imagine you were stuck in the Sahara Desert and you had to find your way to civilisation. You could end up on an incredibly frustrating, stressful journey of trial and error that would ultimately end in your death.

Now imagine the same scenario but you are allowed to have the most experienced Sahara Desert Navigator in the world with you at all times. This person knows every inch of the great desert, knows how to survive and knows how to get to civilisation very quickly one hundred times out of a hundred. Would this save you time, stress and anguish? Would it ultimately save life your life? In fact, would this actually end up being an enjoyable experience that you would recommend to your family and friends? 

This is the best way I can describe having a coach. They give you the ‘map’ or the path to follow. Like the Desert Adventurer they have been there before, they know how to help you and they will get you to where you need to go a lot faster. They know every wrong turn to avoid and they know exactly what to do if you venture in the wrong direction.

2. Having a Life Coach Makes you Accountable

When I had my first life coach I really benefited from being held accountable for everything that I did. When you have a life coach you’ll find yourself procrastinating less, you’ll stop fear from holding you back and you’ll generally get things done faster. Every human has limiting beliefs and restrains that we place on ourselves. We all have thought and behaviour patterns that stop us from fulfilling our greatest potential. A life coach that is there to push you to heights that you have never been to before will allow you to have breakthroughs and “aha” moments. Once this happens, your life elevates itself quickly and easily.

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The idea of a coach making you accountable addresses the fact that most of us already know what we have to do to move forward but we just don’t do it. Having a life coach that expects you to have made progress by your next call or session makes sure that you get on with things! The life coaching process will teach you to place no value on excuses and to only be interested in taking action. When you are doing things by yourself, you only answer to yourself. And as you probably already know, you are very good and finding excuses as to why you couldn’t do it. What I found in being accountable to a coach is that just the thought of giving excuses makes you feel embarrassed so you force yourself to step up. 

3. Having a Life Coach Allows you to Vent Your Frustrations in a ‘Safe’ Environment

You know those days where things just don’t seem to be going quite right? Things have annoyed you, people have gone back on their word? You have tried your absolute best and things just haven’t worked out, you know those days, right? It is great to have supportive family and friends in this situation but I can tell you there is nothing quite like having a Life Coach. With family and friends you ‘guess’ what there opinion is going to be before they give it, you let the tension build between you rather than venting it fully. With a Life Coach you can really get the most out of a day filled with bad moments. A quality coach will get you to use your ‘bad day’ to your advantage, so you can push forward rather that be held back. 

4. Having a Life Coach Saves you Money

I thought that running a coaching business and an online business simultaneously was going to be easy. After all, I had read a couple of books, I had the motivation, I had the skills, right? WRONG. I really had no idea and when you have no idea you are letting money just pass you buy. To compound this further, you will find yourself (just like I did) wasting money on things that you think will make you money but end up making you nothing. You start to operate at a loss. When I took on a coach to help me with my business, he told me what to DO and I did it. He ended up thinking of things that I never would have thought of, he believed that I could do it. All I had to do was execute.

Going into all of the ways that coaches have helped me would take a very long time indeed. It suffices to say that the investment that I have made in coaches has saved me thousands of pounds! If that little voice in your head has ever said “I can’t afford a Life Coach”, let me tell you the plain truth You can’t afford NOT to have one!

5. Having a Life Coach will Help you Find Your Purpose

I had no idea what my purpose was when I first entered into life coaching and mentoring programmes. Yes, I had started to turn my life around and I had improved my daily behaviour. I knew that I wanted to help people do the same but with help from my coach, I discovered my purpose. I now know that I am here to truly inspire others to believe in and live a life filled with health, wealth and happiness. 

What purpose could you have sitting inside of you? I don’t know you but I do know something about you…you have greatness within you. The world is waiting for your massive contribution. Unfortunately, without someone’s help you may never discover what that purpose actually is. 

6. Having a Life Coach Give You Ideas you may Have Never had

When I first started as Life Coach I was only offering ‘hour-by-hour’ coaching. This was giving me a decent living but I wanted to build something bigger. That was when my life coach suggested that I start offering ‘Transformational Programmes’ that involved similar processes that I had used to change my life. At first I tried to tell him that I wasn’t sure it would work and that was when he coached me through the fact that I was just fearful of offering more expensive programmes. 

These are now the programmes that I offer clients from all over the world and they can adapted for face to face coaching, email coaching, skype coaching and telephone coaching. My business is as much as 4 times as profitable as a result of this one idea and better still, I no longer have to pencil in multiple one hour slots that effect my business activity. 

7. Having a Life Coach Helps you Avoid Unnecessary Stress

HappinessNumber 1 touches on how you will be saved stress and potential pain by having a Life Coach but it is worth mentioning in more detail. Ultimately, life is made up moments and if the majority of these moments are positive moments we are in for a positive life right? The great thing about having a coach is they can help you to avoid potential stress in the future, either because they have lived it themselves or they have helped other people avoid it. The greatest unnecessary stress that a life coach allows you avoid is the stress of getting things wrong over and over and again. Why try 100 different diets when a coach can get you to a place where you’re looking and feeling amazing first time round? A life coach will allow you to take the right route at the right time meaning you’ll be on a journey with the stressful obstacles already removed by the coach.

8. Having a Life Coach Makes Your Feel Excited About Life Again

Do you remember, as a child when every day was like an adventure? What cardboard box were you going to turn into a spaceship? What spoonful of green stuff would whizz itself towards your mouth posing as an aeroplane? What furniture item would be your new climbing frame? Life can be like this again! These creative, adventurous tendencies that are ‘beaten out of us’ by life are not extinct. They just lay dormant. A coach will bring these attributes back to life. Having a coach will make every day feel like an adventure again. What new business will you start? How will you go out and meet the love of your life? What new sport will you try? Your coach will open up a list of exciting questions that are in your head and then encourage you to go out and answer them.

9. Having a Life Coach will Help you to Get to Know Yourself Better.

My coaches and mentors have allowed me to gain such amazing insights into myself and who I am. Every step that you take in the coaching journey, your coach will provide you with feedback and help you make new discoveries. I am a big fan of the phrase “You can’t see the picture when you are in the frame”. I can honestly say that with every single one of the clients that I have coached over the last 3 years I have always noticed subtleties in the way that they think and act that they weren’t even aware of. Often times it is a ‘story’ that I can tell they have’on repeat’ in their head or the way that the quality of their body language drops when they talk about a certain aspect of their lives. The only way that these negative, unconscious thought processes and behaviours can be undone is if we are deliberately ‘reprogrammed’ by someone else.

The beauty of having a coach make you aware of these challenges is that you can rapidly change them together. I’ve seen absolutely phenomenal transformations just by making a small change. This was particularly true of one client of mine who we’ll call Jane for the purposes of this Blog Post. Whenever, Jane would talk about a particular family member I would literally watch her shoulders drop and I could sense her making negative pictures on the screen of her mind. Just by tackling this issue head-on, Jane made all kinds of positive strides in every area of her life. She was no-longer a prisoner of unconscious thoughts and behaviours. Without a coach Jane never would have known.

10. Having a Life Coach will Make you More Confident

I’d be willing to bet you that there is a list of things that you want to do but you don’t feel confident enough or you don’t have the self-belief to do them. When my coach suggested that I run in the Cardiff Half Marathon I didn’t think that I could do it. I had taken on the belief that the doctors had given me that I couldn’t run long distance on a hard surface. That’s when my coach reminded me of an important fact: “someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality”. This ‘shot in the arm’ allowed me to get confident enough to start the training program and ultimately complete the run. I believed in his belief in me. Having a coach will make you step up, raise your standards and your confidence will grow as an inevitable by-product.

Happy-lifeIf Tiger Woods, Beyonce and Richard Branson have Coaches…

Every person at the top of any field has a coach. Whether we are talking entertainers, sports people or business people. If they need coaches, so do we! Answer me this, does Beyonce need a coach? Does Richard Branson need a coach? Of course they don’t, but by having coaches in their lives it gives them a ‘cutting edge’. They use the coaches to draw more out of themselves that they ever would have gotten on their own.

No successful person got to where they are on their own. They all had mentors, coaches, advisers and role models. It’s time to make the “I can make it on my own” philosophy, die. Stop telling yourself this story because it is preventing you from getting to where you want to go in life. The next thing that troublesome little voice in your will say is “I can’t afford it”. More nonsense! I have come to realise that when anyone (me included) says those words it is in fact nothing to do with money and everything to do with how committed you are. With full commitment, you make things happen. It’s an old analogy but answer it truthfully: if someone had a gun held to the head of the person that you love most in this world and said “if you don’t get me £5,000 in 4 weeks I pull the trigger”, we both know that you would find the money. It sounds far fetched but you can literally take that level of commitment and urgency into everything that you do.

So many times in recent years, I haven’t had the money for a coach or to attend an inspirational event or start another passive income stream. Rather than saying to myself “I can’t afford it” and leaving it there I now say “If I am committed to making this happen, I will find the money and I will find it quickly”.

The most recent example of this was when I had money tied up in my businesses and I didn’t have the cash-flow to capitalise on an opportunity to make more money online. Did I just let the opportunity sail by? Of course not! I ended up selling a lot of stuff that I didn’t use any more on eBay. I got together £700 which was more than enough to get my new venture off the ground.

If I’m totally honest with you, you genuinely can’t afford not to have a coach. It’s costing you a fortune financially, physically, mentally and emotionally already. It may seem like I have gone to a lot of trouble, writing 3,000+ words to make the point that we should all have coaches but let me tell you one thing: if you are still reading these words you are the type of person that will reach world-beating heights with the help of a life coach! If you just read this post and then go back to what you were doing before, nothing changes. However, if you accept my challenge, take action on what you have just read and find a coach straight away, (yes right now), it will be one of the greatest decisions that you have ever made.

Even though I am phasing out the ‘One on One Coaching aspect of my business, I’d still love to hear from you if you’re interested in taking me on as your coach. Transforming people’s lives is my passion and I’d love to help you. I currently have 3 Open slots for coaching as several people have just renewed recurring coaching contracts. You can email jermaine@jermaine-harris.com to contact me about coaching or message me on my Facebook or Leave a Comment below. 

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Tiger Woods, Russell Brand or Tony Robbins?


Life is constantly changing and I believe that it’s important that we find our purpose. For me it has moved from being a professional golfer, through an alcoholic womanizer and finally to a personal development guru. It has been a weird and wonderful journey for me so far and I’d love to share it with you…….

I’m excited to talk to you how I could have been a professional golfer, I could have been dead by age 19 and how I now aspire to be the pre-eminent personal development coach on the planet.

professional golfer

I wasn’t in to golf at all. However, all of that changed when I seen Tiger Woods win the US Masters in April 1997. I was a 9 year old boy without what you might call a ‘hero’ at this point. When Tiger burst on to the scene I was amazed at how COOL golf had become overnight.

Over the next 3 years I began caddying for my dad and watching the golf on TV. It wasn’t until 2001 that I had my own full set of clubs and by 2002 I was in the Wales team. Everything was happening so fast and I really thought that I was capable in following in the great man’s footsteps; I was even negotiating a scholarship at Arizona University.

My world came crashing down when I broke my arm in a silly changing room incident in school; I didn’t pick up a golf club for 18 months and started to move towards the second phase of my young life…….

professional golfer

From 16 onwards, now that golf had taken a back seat I was free to in any direction. Unfortunately, I chose the wrong one! My life became an 8 year whirlwind of drinking, womanizing and gambling. I became the ringleader of what any parent would call ‘the wrong crowd’ and I was drinking the equivalent of 12 Bottles of vodka and 12 bottles of wine every week.  During one particular scary week I had an episode where it felt like my heart was stopping. It turned out that I was having alcohol induced ventricular ectopics, which is when your heart gets confused, stops and then resets itself.

At 22 I finally got to a point in my life where ‘Enough was Enough’…..

professional golfer

With the help of Tony Robbins, I turned my life around, completed my Masters Degree with a distinction and started, what is now a lifelong quest into researching, success, happiness and personal development. I spent 2 years reading over 100 books and changing myself for the better in every area of my life. It is now my life’s mission to help as many people as I can change their lives for the better.

As you’ve already heard, it was my original perception that I was destined to be the next Tiger woods. This was not meant to be and I spent some time believing I was destined to be the next Russell Brand (minus the fame and fortune)

NOW, my purpose is clear I am destined to dedicate myself to changing lives in a similar to Tony Robbins.

I am now at ease with myself and my life. I jump out of bed, every day, excited and I am now chasing my dreams (and gaining on them).

Without knowing WHY? We do what we do we are merely drones

Think about it…..

Without knowing WHY? We do what we do we are merely drones

So I encourage you…..

FIND YOUR PURPOSE…..