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7 Easy Ways to Enjoy the Present Moment

present-moment“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have” – Eckhart Tolle

A busy lifestyle is what everyone is used to in modern society. We have all done it; mindlessly skipped from one task to another without a break. It’s like being a hamster in a cage on one of those wheels, except you never get off! Is it any wonder that stress related illnesses are on the rise in Western society?

Developing the ability to enjoy the present moment several times a day can break up the mindless business and therefore reduce your stress levels. When you are feeling more relaxed every day as a result, you will be happier, healthier and more productive.

The wonderful thing about cultivating an appreciation for the present moment is it requires very little effort. You can start your day doing it, you can progress through your day doing it and you can end your day doing it.

When I first decided to improve my life, this concept was lost on me. I had no idea what I was missing. I was frantically writing business plans, health plans, developing ideas, attending meetings and generally being all over the place.

Even though I was getting deeply involved with many strategies taught within the self improvement industry, I found myself feeling strangely unfilled.

It was only through deep self-reflection that I realised that I wasn’t ‘Stopping to smell the Roses’. It became clear to me that I had to start enjoying the present moment a lot more often.

There are 7 Easy ways to start Enjoying the present moment:

1-Appreciate your Waking Moments                                                 

Instead of just shutting off your alarm and sluggishly rolling out of bed; just lie still and appreciate the new day. As you lie there focus on your breathing and feel grateful as the oxygen fills your body in this new day of your life. As you allow the feelings of gratitude to fill your spirit really appreciate the comfort that your bed has given you and then acknowledge how grateful you are to be able to get out of bed and begin a new day.

2-Feel Everything

Whenever your senses are being stimulated, make the effort to notice everything. If you are walking in the park notice the depth of the smells, the concert of sounds and the abundant sights. If you are trying some new food, be aware of every taste and texture. Even if you are just sat in your office notice how your body feels on the chair and acknowledge your fingers as they hit the keyboard (I’ve just done it and it really works).

3-Smile

Originally I thought that this idea was too simple and a little crazy. However, when I started to just stop at random points during the day, embrace the present moment and smile my days started to improve. Research suggests that smiling changes the hormones produced by your body, actually easing stress.

Smile randomly, smile at other people, smile at every living creature you encounter and enjoy the results.

4-Do what you’re doing

We have all attempted to multi-task and I’m sure you’d admit that it isn’t the most efficient way to get things done. Focusing on what you are doing and making that the only thing you are doing not only increases the likelihood of you enjoying it, it also increases the quality with which the task will be completed.

5 – Celebrate

When I set my first goals I realised that I wasn’t spending any time celebrating the ‘small wins’. My days were packed with things to do and I was just moving from one thing to another even though I was having some successes. I discovered that it is important to get present and celebrate when you have completed a task successfully. This can be anything from a 10 minute break to watch something funny or just to simply acknowledge yourself and give yourself a little “well done”.

6-Random Gratitude

When you are feeling grateful for something that you are currently experiencing you are enjoying the present moment. One sure fire way to accomplish this is to simply become aware of your heartbeat and feel grateful for it beating away in the centre of your chest.  You can extend this practice into being grateful for everything from your breathing to your ability to type. It is impossible to feel grateful and stressed at the same time.

7-Breathe

Turning your attention to your breathing stops thoughts from whizzing around your head at 100 miles an hour and takes you into the present moment. Breathe deeply and be aware of the air flowing in and out of your body, giving you the gift of oxygen as it does so.

Allowing yourself to embrace the present moment several times a day will be an amazing gift that you give yourself allowing a happier, healthier, less stressful life.

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5 Things Successful People do When ‘It all goes Wrong’ (Just doing #4 will Help)

ID-10075457I am a big fan of the phrase “sometimes life just happens”. What I mean by this, sometimes life will throw an unexpected challenge your way. However, sometimes life will just, flat out open a trap door from under you. You know, those times when you don’t know where to turn and you don’t know what to do.

You start to panic and you start to either ‘freeze’ or start to act like a crazy person.

There are some who people who respond to ‘life’s trap door’ with a huge measure of relaxed control.

How the heck do they do it?!

Below are 5 Things that they do to positively overcome an onslaught of adversity.

They See the Situation as it is…NOT worse than it is!

When a negative situation shows itself in our life, our mind absolutely loves exaggerating the extent of it. In a instant our mind can turn forgetting to pay a bill into becoming totally bankrupt. A happy, relaxed, successful person will tell you to focus on the reality of the situation and don’t add bits on.

They Focus on the Fact that Every Problem has a Solution

Once you have this realization you are cultivating the ability to deal with whatever comes your way. We live in a universe where things exist in opposites. Hot/Cold, Up/Down, Big/Small etc. Shifting your focus to the opposite of your problem (the solution) you are directing your mind to a more positive outcome.

They find things to be Grateful for

When things are ‘falling apart’ it is the can be a real challenge to focus on being grateful. You may not feel like feeling grateful for a long time in fact. However, happy, successful people know that finding things to be grateful for during the toughest times can shift your focus and bring you into a ‘Solution Focused’ mindset much quicker. By truly getting in touch with some of the things that you are grateful for you are taking control over the ‘crisis’ and turning it into a workable situation. You are taking back control because you are now the driving force of your mind.

They Stop ‘Negative Thought Cycles’

Negative thought cycles are those negative thoughts that just keep coming back into your head. You keep thinking “What the heck am I going to do?”, “Why always me?”, “I knew this would happen”. These thought patterns are stopping you from finding a creative solution and you’re making yourself feel even worse. A great strategy employed by the happy, successful elite is the ability to ask solution focused questions:

What is the best way for me to find a solution?

If there was a positive reason for this happening to me what would it be?

What am I willing to do to make things the way I want them to be?

By asking questions like these you are once again, powerfully shifting your focus to solutions.

They accept the Situation

By truly practising the art of acceptance you are detaching yourself from the dramatic, over exaggerations of the situation and you are left with the simple truth. When you stop yourself from reacting on impulse the challenges you are facing become much more simple. Without proper control our natural instinct tends to be to react. These reactions can often make the situation worse. The solution focused course of action is to ‘respond’ rather than ‘react’.

Above all, when you are faced with these very difficult situations the fact of the matter is whatever has happened has happened and when it comes to managing the situation. The choice is yours.

I’d love to hear about how you stay relaxed when it seems like ‘everything’ is going wrong?

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How to Change your Environment and Ultimately your Life

I was overwhelmed when someone that I had never met from Germany e-mailed me and said that he had watched my videos and found me inspiring and that I had changed his life. This was an absolutely incredible feeling and I am so thankful that my videos are doing what they’re supposed to do. My new friend had also explained how I had inspired him to only spend time with positive people in positive places and he wanted more advice on how to build on this.

This raises an important point: You have to surround yourself with people who are going to give you energy and push you up, rather than drain you and pull you down.


If you sit down and think about it, you will realise that you are becoming (or have become) like the people that you most associate with. You think like them, you talk like them, you do the things that they do and you have the same mindset as them. Of course this is absolutely wonderful if you’re surrounded by confident, excited, motivated, healthy, ambitious, hard working people. The challenges arise when you spend all of your time with people who are negative, lazy with low self-esteem, you are truly in danger of becoming the same way. I have been lucky in the fact that I have friends that have understood my transformation and supported it and interestingly enough, to use money as an example, something has happened where we are all finally earning more money than ever before. Although this was the case for me, I can relate when people say that they don’t know where to look when it comes to finding positive influences.

The best thing that you can do is to find these positive associations through books, blogs or youtube videos. You will notice that you are changing your environment just by doing this. These role models that you find through these channels will become part of your psyche just like friends do. The person in the Youtube Videos in the beginning for me was Tony Robbins. I literally started to take on parts of Tony’s mindset, beliefs and habits. This was pretty amazing as Tony Robbins is probably the peak performance genius of our time. You can do the same. Use positive blogs and videos like this one, use books and audio programmes. Do whatever you can to change the people you surround yourself with, whether you are spending face to face time with them or not.

If you have been surrounded by negative, draining people with no ambition the great news is you can reverse the damage. Since deciding to turn my life around I read hundreds of books, attended seminars, paid for programmes and hired coaches. I can tell you right now, it feels like I am genuinely surrounded by these positive people every day because I continually refresh their message. That’s why I love doing what I do now. All of the videos that I make, the programmes that I teach and the blog posts that I write are the culmination of everything that I have learned from all of these people.

As you do this and you become this mixture of all of the great people that you are hanging around with and learning from you will begin to see amazing things happening in your life. From the people you attract to the positive changes that you experience.

It is this feeding and strengthening of the mind that I have become increasingly passionate about in recent months and I really want to help as many people as possible do the same. You see our mind is like a muscle, the more we work it, strengthen it and feed it, the stronger it becomes. If this is something that you’d like to know more about you could Check out my Monthly Mind Upgrade to see how I will upgrade your mind every single month.

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How to Overcome Obstacles

ID-100123059I had been working tirelessly on a project that could have been life and business changing when I got some information that was going to hurt the project in a big way. The Obstacle had presented itself and I started to feel anxious and on edge pretty much immediately. I could have rolled over there and then and just felt defeated and depressed. However, I decided to do whatever it took to find a meaning for the situation that meant that it was actually good news.

Nothing has any meaning beyond the meaning that you give it.

I wanted to make a video as soon as this happened because unexpected obstacles is one of the main things that I get asked about. I wanted to share with you how I face the obstacle straight away and how I overcome it as quickly as possible. No matter how positive you are ‘Life is going to Happen’ and sometimes it’s going to smack you in the face. However, the main thing that we have to do is DECIDE to believe in a positive outcome and change the way that you are viewing the situation straight away. This will allow you to get back to it and making progress as quickly as you possibly can.

The Video is Below:


As I said, you ARE going to encounter adversity in your life and if you follow my process of how to overcome obstacles, your life will never be the same again. It is up to us and only us to find the empowering possibilities that the obstacle could be giving us. You can begin to do this immediately by asking the empowering questions that I also use in my morning ritual like “What’s the best thing about this?” or “What is the fastest most fun way for me to turn this around?”. I always say that your mind is like Google; ask it a question and it has to give you answer. Ask a better question and you’ll get a better answer.

What if Life wasn’t happening TO you and it was happening FOR you?

The above is a belief that I have internalised. No matter what happens, I always believe: “Everything that is happening in my Life is happening to ultimately make my life even better”. I have trained myself to find the positive in any situation, I just have to find it.

Nothing in Life will last FOREVER, no matter how much it feels that way sometimes. I have also taken on the belief “This obstacle hasn’t come to stay, it has come to pass”. Of course, it always does. Realise that you can jump up, take positive action and keep going until you win.

Just picking up a tiny tip from this Blog Post will serve you. I know that there may be obstacles in your life at the moment and you have to train yourself to believe that things will work out your favour and turn out how you want them to as long as you keep moving forward.

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5 Keys to Success that I Learned from John Legend

141372052620141014IMG_1008I am always on the lookout for things to learn from Successful people and when I went to see John Legend Live 2 weeks ago, I was not disappointed. The man oozes confidence, success and happiness in such a ‘cool’ way. When you listen to him speak in between songs you can tell that he has learned a lot on the way up and is very inspirational when he talks about it. Thankfully for everyone at the concert he gave away a lot about his journey and some of the keys to his success. I have narrowed it down to ‘5 Keys to Success’ that I believe have helped John Legend become who he is today.

1. Know How Great you are (and be Proud of it!)

There was just something about the way that John moved. The way he sat at the piano and perhaps the biggest give away to his confidence was the way he received applause. He just sort of stood there and looked so centred and confident whilst nodding a sort of ‘yea, I know I’m good’ style. For whatever reason in today’s society we have been culturally persuaded to think that knowing how good we are will be perceived as arrogant. Not True. You will rapidly increase your chances of success if you realise how great you and begin to accept it. Of course, be gracious just like Mr. Legend was but in your head you can be saying the most ‘arrogant’ things in the world. Think about it; how often do you let that little voice in your head say ridiculously negative things and get away with it? If you’re going to have inner conversation you might as well do what John Legend obviously does so well and be very positive about yourself.

2. Stand on the Shoulders of Giants

Why would you want to struggle and strain your way to the top when you can use the help and talents of other people? John Legend talked about spending time with multiple grammy award winners Lauryn Hill and Kanye West. It is clear that John was able to learn a lot from people like this and he featured on Lauryn Hill’s album and supported Kanye West on his tour. Sometimes you have to be prepared to live and learn from the success of others and even hang on to their coat tails a little bit. These days, John Legend has had many successful albums and tours of his own.

3. “Sometimes our Dreams Take a Detour”

John told a wonderful story of how he moved to New York City to pursue a career in music. He remembered how this didn’t go so well at the start and he actually spent some time as a management consultant! He laughed at the memory and came out with one of the most inspirational quotes I have ever heard live: “Sometimes our Dreams take a Detour”. Amazing. What John is saying is, of course the plan was to go to New York and become a recording artist straight away but sometimes you have to be aware that the path you take isn’t necessarily going to be ‘Plan A’.

4. Keep Going…

You, me or anyone that has read anything about ‘Success’ has come across this piece of advice many, many times. It was however, refreshing to hear the details of a story directly from someone as successful as John Legend. As mentioned above, he was a management consultant when he wanted to be a full time singer but he would still sing by night in a New York City Bar. He talked about the fact that there was only ever 5 people in attendance and 3 of those were bar staff! John didn’t let this deter him and he just kept on and on until he was successful. 

5. Do it for the People Close to you

John Legend’s 2 best performances of the night were a Song that he dedicated to his late grandmother and ‘All of me’ which is the number 1 that he wrote for his new wife. This is not a coincidence. These 2 people obviously mean an awful lot to him and no doubt provide the motivation, passion and belief to carry on working hard and making music. We can all use this to our advantage. Think of someone close to you or someone that you were close to that is no longer with us and dedicate your endeavours to them. This has been massive for me personally and you will be motivated and ultimately successful as a result.

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My Life Design – How to be Happy, How to Be Productive and How to Achieve Goals Faster

We are always hearing people talk about ‘balance’ when it comes to their life aren’t we? Would you like to create a design for ID-100213932your life so that you will be happier, more productive and achieve your goals faster?

Many people face the challenge that is the balancing of every area of their lives; whether it be the job, the business, the finances, the marriage, the health or the leisure time. I suffered with this challenge for many, many years and even when I first started coaching, I was still challenged by it. That was until I found a way to design my life and act on that design every single day.

I have created and refined this process over the last 3 years learning and applying information from some of the giants of personal development and success like Tony Robbins, Paul Mckenna and many more. During this Blog Post and the video below I am going to talk about  the whole life design process and how I make sure that I am ‘Living Into’ the life I have designed every single day. I am going to share with you how you can design your ‘Ideal Life‘, how to find a purpose in everything that you do, how to have a clear vision of who you are and how to mould these different things into exciting goals and achieve them. Now it is important that I add, that a lot of the information may seem a little ‘Out There’ at first but it isn’t magic. The techniques are based on real scientific results that you can get in your body, mind and life. Watch the Video Below and check out the rest of the Blog Post for more detail.

Your Ideal Life

This one of the very first things that I did when I decided that I wanted to create an amazing life for myself and other people. This first step is MASSIVE because having your Ideal Life written down in front of you, that you can read every day will make you excited and open your mind to the motivation because you are aware of the life that you are heading towards.

In my experience people lack this concept of an ideal life in front of them, what I call a ‘Fantastic Future’. People aren’t suffering from a lack of motivation all the time, they just haven’t designed a life to look forward to, so why bother? Why even get up in the morning?

When you were watching the video you saw how passionate and excited I got when I was describing my ideal life and all of the things it is going to entail. I have included my vision below to give you a couple of ideas but the key thing is to design your ideal life based on what is right for YOU because everyone is different. If there were no limits, what you design for your life? What life would excite you? What do you want your life to mean?  Answer these questions and picture your ideal life, take pen and write down everything that comes to mind no matter how far fetched you think that is right now. Here is mine for some ideas (notice how it is in the present tense, which is conditioning my mind):

My Ideal Life

“I am a person that is a true inspiration and leader in the world of personal transformations, personal development, writing, speaking, seminars, sports, health, trading, life coaching and golf.

I am someone who impacts millions of people’s lives through my incredible vision, determination, commitment, courage, compassion, and creativity.

I’m constantly improving people’s mindsets and the quality of their lives. I’m a successful internet businessman that earns a passive income through incredible products and services that make a difference in the lives of others.

I am financially free!

I focus on and do what I love.

I am fluent in French and Spanish.

I am a Master of NLP.

I am a master hypnotherapist.

I grow evolve and develop and develop who I am to reach my maximum potential and then surpass it!

I am the best I can be while sharing those gifts with millions of people through,my coaching,events,books, products and services worldwide.

I’ve built my own Charitable foundation.

I have an incredibly loving wife and family that is constantly nurtured and growing.

We live in a mansion in South Wales with our home gym, library, home office,home cinema, golf simulator and studio.

I am physically Fit, asthma free at 12 Stone with 7% body fat and a clearly visible 6 Pack

I’ve have travelled the world visiting at least 35 countries

I’m with my perfect 10, my soul mate, the woman of my dreams who I will spend my life with, Katie Clarke.

I’m completely fulfilled, passionate happy and grateful on a daily basis.I have incredible friendships and family life.

I’m spiritually connected to the memory of my grandfather and connected to the universe in such a way that I feel like I have control over it.”

When you have completed this for yourself, I promise that with repetition and a belief that looking forward to this fantastic future will mean that the quality of your daily life will increase every day.

Why Bother?

The next part of the process is to really get in touch with the reasons why you are here in this life. This will accompany the design of your Ideal Life and answer the question “Why should I even bother creating my ideal life?” My WHY’S pretty much just read like a list and when I read them every day it gives me enough power to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to make my ideal life a reality. My ‘Why’s’ are listed below and hopefully it will help you create yours. Again, we are all different and you can get going by answering questions like “What will achieving my ideal life give me?” and “What will it cost me if I don’t achieve it?”

Why do I Want It?

I am here to humbly serve humanity by being a passionate example of the unlimited possibilities that life offers.

I am here to sincerely love everything in the universe and appreciate the miracle that is everything as well as every moment.

I am here to live life to the fullest because my life has a meaning and a purpose and to honour this is the most powerful way to show my respect for myself and for my place in the universe by endeavouring to become more myself so I can set up strong example of what’s possible for others because I believe that you only have one life and you have to enjoy the process.

I make sure that my friends, family and loved ones are absolutely certain of my love for them.

I am here to feel excited about my life and what I can give, share and experience.

I am here to have an amazing time, create an unbelievable and inspirational story and leave behind a legacy that grows and inspires my friends and family for generations to come. I am here for those Magic Moments. I am here to Live Life on my terms. I will never settle for less than I can be, do create or give.

I am here to honour the memory of my Grandfather. I am here to give Katie her Dream Life. I am here to care and provide for mum the way she has always cared and provided for me. I am here to thank Nan for all she has done for me and for the family. I am here to repay Dad’s unwavering support and belief in me. I here to live in financial Freedom and help others do the same

I am here to be a living example of the endless possibilities of humanity. I am here to be an inspiration to others. I am here to be a role model. I am here to be remembered and leave a legacy. I am here to be a leader. I am here to create a financial situation where I have the freedom to do what I want, when I want. So I can travel the world. So I can live my perfect day. I am here to live beyond 100 years of age. I am here for Health, Wealth, and excitement. I am here for big smiles, to be playful, to be inspirational and to be energetic

Who are You?

You have big dreams, you have an idea why you want to achieve those dreams but are you really the person you need to be in order to get it done? A great thing to do is to create a vision of yourself where you keep your ‘true core’ and include features that you know the ‘best version of yourself’ will have. This can even include things that aren’t quite true…yet. You can then grow into this version of yourself. Take a look at mine below to give you an idea of what I mean. You can make this clearer in your head by asking questions like: “Who am I?” and “Who do I want to be?”

Who Am I?

I’m an extraordinary, passionate and loving man who loves people, family, friends, animals, changing lives & ideas that make a difference.

I love to discover and be creative. I love nature, beaches, beautiful scenery, travel, adventure, oceans, rivers, mountains, lakes, sunshine, wildlife and breathtaking views. I am a passionate man who takes the good things in life and makes them phenomenal and loves to share them openly, lovingly, passionately and playfully with others. I’m a massive source of inspiration. I’m a man with exceptionally high standards and excellent daily habits.

I’m a creator of possibilities, options, solutions, choices, opportunities and visions. I’m a creator of fun and laughter. I’m a creator of breakthrough moments. I’m an example of what’s possible. I’m an amazing, boyfriend, friend, son, grandson, nephew, mentor, strategist, Foreign Exchange Trader, personal transformation coach, internet marketer, public speaker, entrepreneur, student, teacher, author, visionary and strategic planner.

I’m fun, I’m silly, and I’m playful. I’m outrageous, I’m adventurous and spontaneous.

I test the realms of possibility. I’m happy and fulfilled. I’m and athlete. I’m an author. I’m a great golfer. I’m a playful kid who can make anyone smile. I’m confident. I’m powerful I’m masculine. I’m attractive and handsome. I’m at one with the universe. I’m a leader. I’m a great listener, I’m a master communicator. I’m committed. I’m patient.

 

What is your Vision? Why do you Want it? and Who Are You? In Every Area of your Life!

To really crank up this process you also need to do the above for every area of your life (Health/Fitness/body, Finances, Career,  Relationships, Contribution/Charity etc.) As an Example, my Health/Fitness/Body version is below:

Ideal Health and Body

I am 12 Stone  with 7% body fat, I am vital, healthy, energetic, athletic, muscled and ripped. I have a clearly visible 6 pack. I look in the mirror and smile and I feel proud. I feel outstanding, I have a high self-esteem, I feel confident. I am an inspiration for others.

Why?

I enjoy being muscled, toned and an inspiration for others. I enjoy being confident. I enjoy having non-stop energy. I enjoy the fact I am going to live beyond 100 years old. I enjoy staying young, healthy and vibrant.

Who Am I?

I’m a an athlete. I’m a manifestation of vibrant health and energy. I’m a peak performer. I’m an exemplar of physical health, vitality and strength.

You may be thinking that this is a long process. It is! However, what you’ll discover is, it’s worth it! Designing your life this way and working out why you want it and who you are is a gift that you will thank yourself for, forever!

Achieve a Goal in 30 Days!

Take one area of your life and work back from your ‘ideal’ and set a goal that will be a stepping stone to that vision when you achieve it! For Example if you wanted a certain level of health and physicality and at the moment you consider yourself ‘lazy’, you could set a goal something like “Over the last 30 Days, I have exercised for at least 30 minutes 3 times per week”. Achieve this and you will be sending a powerful “I can do this!” message to your mind. Every time that you do this in each area of your life, setting the goal isn’t enough, you must execute the final 2 parts of the process with all of your heart…

Robust Strategies and Abundant Action

No matter what your vision is for your life, no matter how noble your reasons might be; you need strategies that are highly workable and be prepared to do a LOT of stuff!

This process isn’t easy but it’s simple. Build an Ideal Life in your mind, why you want it, who you are, set your goals accordingly and then LIFT OFF! When I say ‘robust strategies’ I mean strategies that are designed to be flexible and get results.

Around 3% of people will take action on this to the point where their lives improve forever and that’s cool. Just make sure you are one of them! Comment Below and Subscribe because I want you to make sure that you catch the next Post where I reveal some techniques for daily happiness, success and productivity.

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How to Feel Better or Change a Negative Behaviour by Interrupting the Pattern

ID-100110736The true quality of our lives is defined by how we feel on a moment-to-moment basis right? Over the last 3 years I have wanted to investigate this concept a little deeper to see how I can stop feeling bad or change a negative feeling or behaviour in an instant. As a result, I kept coming across a technique called ‘The Pattern Interrupt’. This particular technique was popularized by the founder of NLP (or Neuro Linguistic Programming), Richard Bandler and I discovered its many applications in Bandler’s book; Get the Life you Want. I use this technique in my life on a regular basis due to the rapid success rate that it has. Think of a habit, behaviour or feeling that you would like to change. It can be anything from, feeling stressed, feeling anxious, comfort eating to lazing on the couch. I have realised that the key thing to realize is that the feeling or behaviour is simply an automatic pattern. It’s not you any more, you have been conditioned to the point where these things are just ‘happening’. The exciting thing about this realisation is how easy it then is to make rapid, positive changes. Depending on your learning style, you can watch the video of me going through the process or read the description of the process below. I recommend that which ever way around you do it that you read the description and watch the video to fully grasp the concept.

How to Change a Bad Feeling or Negative Behaviour using a Pattern Interrupt

1) Experience the Feeling or Behaviour at its Fullest Whatever you are looking to change, you must experience it as fully as possible first. Tony Robbins calls this ‘getting the pattern running’. As an example, I wanted to overcome the feeling of anxiety when it came to building my business so I purposely made myself feel anxious about my business. The fuller you can experience the feeling, the faster and more successful the change will be. Using anxiety as an example, you would ask yourself; “How can I get anxious right now?”, “How would I be holding my body?”, then change your body and head position to reflect the anxious state of mind. Think of the things that make you feel anxious and say what you’d say to yourself. When you are experiencing the anxiety to the fullest you can go to the next step.

2) Interrupt the Pattern Now that you are experiencing the emotion or behaviour to the fullest you must do something totally unique and somewhat outrageous to interrupt the pattern. Your feelings will be jolted so much that you will move into a more positive state. Think of  the simple Mathematics pattern: 2,4,6,8,10,12,14 – if I interrupt that pattern and make it 2,4,5,29,10,12,14 it simply isn’t a pattern any more. Human feelings are the same. I know what the next question you have, is: What Pattern Interrupt should I use? When you are experiencing the pattern of feelings at their fullest, change your body language drastically and shout or do something silly and crazy. You could jump up and shout “WOOOHHHOOO I LOVE GRASS!!!”. I know that sounds insane but that’s great, the more outrageous the better! It is the body change and craziness that interrupts the pattern. Sometimes with clients I tell them to jump up in a really loud voice, then tell to laugh as hard as they possibly can. Can you see how this really does interrupt the pattern?

3) Replace the Old, Negative Pattern with a Positive New One  Now that the pattern has been well and truly interrupted, you need to replace it with a positive pattern that you actually want to experience. For me, I wanted to feel happy and confident about building my business, replacing the old anxiety. The easy way to create this happy and confident feeling is to stand up, throw your shoulders back, throw your chest up and put a huge smile on your face. You know what positive alternatives will work for you, so do that. When you have done this enough times and it becomes totally automatic you will be reconditioned to feel the feelings and behave in a way that you want. I understand that you are probably sceptical, I was as well. The fact of the matter is, this stuff really works and you should use this tool to interrupt every negative pattern in your life.

Start Today and Keep Going

This process is a skill and in my opinion, like any other skill you can’t just do it once and expect to improve forever. Start right now with something that you’d like to change, then go through it 10 times per day for 2 weeks. You will notice yourself getting better and the old patterns being replaced. Most of all, Enjoy it!

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What’s Your Excuse?

Amazing Video of a Man with no Arms Playing Table Tennis!

Are your ‘reasons’ for not trying just excuses?

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5 Ways you are Sabotaging your Own Happiness

ID-10051360Happiness doesn’t just come to people by chance, it may seem that some people have ‘the gift’ but they are proactively moving through life in such a way that is making them happy. What you will find is there are also things that they are NOT doing that is greatly enhancing their chances of happiness.

Below are 5 Things that could be ruining your chances of being Happy.

1. Focusing on What you Want and Missing Out on What you Already Have

If getting everything that we ‘wanted’ made us happy then all millionaires and billionaires would be happy, right?

You are putting yourself in a position where you are training your brain to place happiness as something in the future. You are always saying to yourself: “I’ll be happy when…”If you think like this, your happiness will always be in the future!

To be happy you need to start with what you already have. What can appreciate right now? Your health? Your friends? Your ability to see? Whatever it is for you, bring it to the front of your mind and realise how happy you are about it.

2. Constantly Criticizing Yourself

We are all excellent at being our own worst critic. Are you allowing yourself to self-criticize to the point where it is becoming ridiculous? You know the thought process: “I can’t believe I didn’t make that sale. I’m going to get sacked now. I won’t be able to pay the mortgage. Now everyone is going to hate me.” This may be a slight exaggeration but you get my point. How is it possible to be happy if we have thoughts like this bouncing around our heads all the time? The fastest way to fix this faulty thinking is to transform the inner criticism into inner ‘coaching’ as soon as it happens. For example, if you hear yourself say something like “I can’t believe I didn’t make that sale. I’m going to get sacked now”, quickly transform it into some self-coaching like, “What have I learned from that call that will enable me to do better next time and become good enough to get a promotion?” This may take a little practice, of course, but when you find yourself doing it automatically, you will be happy a lot for often.

3. Placing too Much Value on What Others Think

Are you deciding what shoes to buy based on what other people are going to think? Do you ever keep quiet when you have a new idea so you don’t upset the status quo? For true happiness to be present in your life you have to be your authentic self all of the time. If that means you love bright green shoes, by all means grow your collection of bright green shoes! It’s who you are.

When you get to a point where you have stopped other people dictating who you are and what you do, you will reach a level of happiness that you never even imagined was possible.

4. Spending Time with ‘Energy Drainers’

It may sound like a cliché but you really are becoming who you are spending most of your time with. The way we think and act will eventually harmonize with those that are closest to us. This is wonderful if you are surrounded by happy, positive, ambitious people all day long but if you aren’t, you are robbing yourself of your true happiness.

5. Focusing on your Goals so much that you Forget the Present Moment

I love setting goals and I believe that they are integral part of success and happiness. However, if you are too busy focusing on the final destination; the chances are you are missing out on the splendour of the journey. All of the little triumphs and successes are easily missed if we don’t celebrate them. It is essential that you regularly remind yourself to enjoy the present moment. An amazing way of doing this is to STOP and realize how grateful you are to be making progress today and how much fun you are having right now and why.

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How to be More Positive

ID-10047087I have found life a lot more simple with a positive attitude. The challenges of life are going to come your way no matter what happens and I have discovered that these challenges become a LOT easier to deal with if you are more positive. Ever since I became interested in personal development I have been shocked by how negative most people are and how as a society we are almost ‘addicted’ to negativity. Moving away from this negative way of life will be a massive step in the direction of achieving your life’s goals before you even do anything.  Below you’ll find 7 Steps that will be valuable to you if you are trying to discover how to be more positive.

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1. Don’t React, ‘Choose’ to Respond.

There is no need whatsoever to bounce through life constantly reacting to the things that happen to you. You can choose exactly how to respond. Become aware of that small period of time where you have a choice. For example, you get up in the morning and you stub your toe. You can ‘react’ negatively: “oh no, I’m such an idiot…ow, ow, ow. Today is going to be such a bad day!” (sounds familiar right?). However, you can choose your response: “how funny, it makes me slightly peeved when I do that but if I’m honest it didn’t hurt that much….time for breakfast. Wonderful!” This may take a little practice and I promise it will change your life.

2. Be Thankful as Often as Possible

I have written about this topic many times recently and it really is a very simple way to be more positive. You have so many things to be grateful for as long as you are honest with yourself. Focusing on all of the things that you are grateful for is an amazing way to feel even better if you are in a good mood and a rapid way to go from angry to positive.

3. Move Positively!

This particular information changed my life and it has changed the lives of anyone that has been touched by it. If you aren’t feeling positive or confident, start to act like it and the feelings will follow suit. Force that smile on your face, puff your chest up and throw your shoulders back and be amazed by what happens. Even if it feels silly and you start laughing at yourself…it’s worked because you’re laughing.

4. Avoid Comparisons with other People

Comparing yourself to others can often be a fast track to feeling negative. Each time you notice that there is something different about you you will begin to focus on it and it will bring you down. Spend your time focusing on how you are always looking to become an even better version of yourself and you will be more positive.

5. Stay Present

I once heard an amazing expression from the Director of a company that I used to work for, he said “If you live with one foot in the past and one foot in the future, you are running the risk of urinating on the present!” Whilst this may not be a very pleasant analogy it gets the message across doesn’t it? If you are letting your thoughts move into the past or the future too often you will let your head drop and become negative. Bring yourself into the present moment and appreciate :).

6. Focus on What you Want

We have all seen the infant proudly carrying their beaker filled with drink, a big smile on their face, having no problems with it whatsoever. Then the parent says “Don’t spill it!” and wham, the drink goes everywhere. The parent and consequently, the child have started to focus on what they don’t want. Can you guess what happens if you think “I don’t want to be negative, I don’t want to be fat, I don’t want to be broke”? Focusing on what you want will get you more of what you want and as a beautiful by-product you will be more positive.

7. Fail Forward

Failure is once again something that produces a positive or negative response based on the choices that you make. Failure can only produce a negative reaction if you choose to see it as final. However, you can let it produce a positive, excited response in a similar way to the great Thomas Edison by realising that each temporary defeat is taking you closer to the ultimate goal. View each ‘failure’ as positive fuel to thrust you towards success and a negative reaction will not be possible. I genuinely wish you the positive daily life that you can create for yourself. Follow the steps above that work for you and mix it with your own ideas that will make a real difference. You can click the picture below to read about my e-book ‘How to be More Positive’ 

 

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