Three quarters of people in the UK are unhappy.
That is 75 people out of every 100 not living the way that they would like to live on a day-to-day basis. Now, many of you are now shifting in your seat and feeling uncomfortable as you sit there thinking: “Am I part of that majority?”
“Am I one of those unhappy people?”
You’re about to find out……….
I’m going to outline: The ways in which people virtually, guarantee, their unhappiness.
I’m going to move on to give you some practical tools that will allow you to ‘choose’ to be happy and I am going to talk about how choosing to be happy all of the time can improve EVERY area of your life.
So, how do people make themselves unhappy?…….It is a combination of 3 main factors:
The way they move
The Pictures they make in their mind and
The way they talk to themselves.
Starting with the way they move how many of you know someone who just by the way they carry themselves makes you feel down? They could be saying the most positive things in the world but they carry themselves in such a way that their brain cannot possibly allow them to feel good. People often say to me “Jermaine, I just can’t understand why I feel so down all of the time, I’m a positive guy? ”Really? you could have fooled me my friend”. Consequently, when they are in that physical state their mind will proceed to offer up negative images. Like the golfer who straight after he hits the poor shot immediately and almost proudly states “I knew that I was going to put that in the water!” How did they know? Because as they gingerly approached the ball, they felt unhappy about hitting the shot and they ‘seen’ it in go in the water in their minds before they even swung the club. The chain of negative processes can then continue when we start speaking to ourselves in a way that we would never speak to anybody, ever! We say things like: “You are such an idiot! Why can’t you do anything right?” It is easy to see how unhappiness is pretty much guaranteed if we approach life and situations like this on a regular basis.
So what are we supposed to do about this? How can we choose to be happy and control our state?
It is very simple, we take conscious control over the most powerful computer in the universe, our brains and we make it a habit to take control of the way move, the images we make in our minds and the way we talk to ourselves.
Firstly, make a conscious, deliberate determined effort to hold yourself as if you were the happiest person in the world and your biochemistry will follow suit. If you are worried that people will think you are crazy then just laugh to yourself at the fact that they are in fact the crazy ones because they are taking no action towards improving their personal happiness.
Secondly, I’d like you to think of the worst movie you have EVER watched everybody got one? How many of you would watch it again?
So why is it that when something bad happens to us we relive it and watch it and relive it watch it over and over again?
Just wipe the screen of your mind and CHOOSE to hold an image in mind that makes you feel good.
Finally, be extra vigilant about what you are saying to yourself. Successful entrepreneur John Assaraf said “be very careful what you say to yourself, someone important is listening….YOU!”
How many of us know someone who says things like “These things ALWAYS happen to me” or “I’m so unlucky”. We have to be very careful about what we say becoming self fulfilling prophecies, unless of course you say “I’m ALWAYS happy, healthy and confident!”
Aristotle said “we are what we repeatedly do, excellence, therefore is not an act but a habit”
So if we are what we repeatedly do, getting into the happiness habit will have a positive effect on every area of your life, from your health to your contribution to humanity.
The happiness habit will allow you to be healthier, which will allow you to have more time and energy to create and build better relationships. Some of these relationships will be with clients, colleagues or superiors which will lead you to go further in your career which will improve your finances which will improve your leisure time and your ability to help people that less fortunate than yourself, which I believe is the greatest gift we can give to humanity.
GET THE HAPPINESS HABIT!