How to Overcome Fear And Improve Your Life Quickly

Watch the Video Blog Below on How to Overcome Fear and read the Blog Post Below

ID-100262240As time progresses I am getting more and more passionate about sharing videos and blog posts that contain ideas that have changed my life. One thing that I have had to do consistently is overcome fears. The exciting thing that I have discovered is that you can actually use fear to your advantage as opposed to being paralysed by it. The strategies that I am going to describe have been invaluable to me and some of my clients that have been suffering from the symptoms of fear.

You may be in a situation where you are doing anything and everything instead of doing the thing that you are scared to do. These tools on how to overcome fear will change your life in the same way that they have changed mine. They are the tools that I have learned and developed that allow me to work hard and smart on my goals every single day. They help me to take action on the things that improve my life, they help me to eat well, train hard and build my business.

Each and every time you find yourself not doing what you know you SHOULD be doing it’s because you’re not being totally honest with yourself as to how important the task actually is. You are subconsciously avoiding the things that scare you a little bit even though they’ll take you to where you want to go. That ‘Little Voice’ in your head starts saying things like “Ah it’s okay, you can do it later” or “It won’t make that much of a difference” or “I just don’t want to do it right now” or whatever ever other nonsense the little voice in your head is telling you.

ID-100174428You have to have the presence of mind to consciously say to that voice “STOP!..that is absolute rubbish! Ultimately, what price will I have to pay if I don’t do this right now? What major impact could it have on my life if I don’t do it?”

It is getting head on with the gravity of the situation that will get you back on track and making progress in spite of fear.

I often simplify human behaviour as a drive to gain good feelings or a drive to avoid bad feelings.

If you are not getting on with something, it is because you think that you’ll feel bad in some way if you do it. You have managed to associate bad feelings in some way to the task. This was useful when humans wanted to avoid the bad feelings of being in the presence of a Lion in the wild, however, it is often not as useful now. If you really sat down and thought about how much worse the bad feelings of being obese, with no energy and a likely early grave are than the good feelings of eating that extra cake are you’ll see the power of this idea. We often find ourselves focusing on the immediate good feelings that we will have without considering the long term bad feelings.

There are many Questions you can ask yourself to change your focus to the overall impact on the quality of your life. Here are some that I use to realise the bad feelings that are coming my way if I keep living in this fearful, negative way:

“What will be the overall effect on my life if I keep doing this?”

“What price will I pay in my health, relationships and finances?”

“What will I deny myself in my life if I keep living like this?”

“What has living like this already cost me?”

Here are the questions that I ask myself to induce the good feelings that I will experience if I do the things that will make my life better, even though I may be fearful:

“How will my life improve by doing this?”

“How does doing it move me closer to achieving my BIG goals?”

“How will doing this improve my health, finances and my relationships?”

“Why will I be grateful in 20 years time for doing it?”

ID-10022465I have found that fear can be a sneaky temptress and you can be subconsciously fearful of all sorts of bad feelings that you didn’t even no existed. For example, at the back of your mind, you may believe that if you become a millionaire all of your friends will be jealous and no one will like you. This fear will lead you to link bad feelings to being a millionaire and therefore make you procrastinate and not work on creating financial freedom for you and your family.

The secret is to ask these questions with every choice that you face; fries or salad? Write a business plan or Browse Facebook? Gym or TV? Do you see how often we are faced by these choices?

If you still find yourself not making progress on your goals because of pesky little subconscious fears it is because you haven’t been totally honest with yourself yet.

You cannot get to the point where you know how to overcome fear by just thinking about the good feelings and the bad feelings on an intellectual level. You have to truly FEEL them at your emotional centre. Experience the intense good feelings of being a happy, healthy, success at your very core and experience the overwhelming bad feelings of being an overweight failure and you really are on the road to lasting change.

The fact of the matter is you KNOW that you should be more afraid of what your destructive habits are doing to you but do you actually feel it?

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Book Review – You Were Born Rich

Born-RichChoosing a career in personal development is one of the greatest decisions that I have ever made in my life. It has allowed me (and still allows me) to have so much fun learning, growing and consequently teaching from the thoughts of the most amazing authors, speakers and business people. The whole world is full of inspirational mentors and the great Bob Proctor is no exception. Bob Proctor has been involved with personal and professional development for longer than any other human that is alive today. There are a phenomenal amount of happy, successful people that pin their achievements his advice and teachings.

My personal favourite Bob Proctor piece of work is the Book You were Born Rich . It is another one of those self help books that you simply have to read if you are looking to experience rapid personal growth.

One of the greatest things about You were Born Rich is the fact that it doesn’t just speak to the head it speaks to the heart as well. I would imagine that you can relate to this feeling. Isn’t it amazing when someone speaks to the ‘whole you’ and their message resonates with you on a conscious and subconscious level? This book doesn’t just advocate Positive Thinking for the sake of thinking positively it really explains why things like a positive mindset and setting goals are important. You may even find that the messages are conveyed so powerfully that some of your beliefs may be changed immediately.

This book allows the reader top understand how we really are in control of our own destinies and that with a true level of commitment we can achieve what we want to achieve in life. Proctor has the amazing ability to explain to the reader how our thoughts have such a huge impact on the results that we experience in our lives. He talks about laws of the Universe and how we can tune into them to better ourselves.

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In an enlightening part of the book, Proctor describes the ‘Acorn Analogy’. He outlines how acorns are just like humans (and everything else in our universe) in as much that they are just a mass of energy is a high speed of vibration. Leave an acorn out of the earth and it begins to die. However, the second that you plant the acorn, it starts to attract the energy particles that help the growth of an oak tree. A human being is also a large mass of energy at a particular rate of vibration. This rate of vibration is dependent upon the person’s thoughts and they then proceed to attract the energy that correlates with their most common thoughts. Interesting, right?

This analogy made a lot of sense to me and my and my life because I started to see a potential correlation between the way I had been thinking and the results that I had been getting. An example of this was the way that I had always thought that the best review about we were Born Richway to take care of myself and my loved ones financially was to progress through University as I was doing, ‘get a good job’ that paid well and be done with it. This is very nearly what happened. Luckily for me I made a conscious effort to use the ideas of Bob Proctor (and others) to reprogram my thinking and perceive life in a completely different way.

I now run my dream business, where I can work from home and do what I love most. Which is writing, coaching and speaking on the topic of personal development.

My copy of You were Born Rich is always on show on my book case and I still regularly consult it. It is a fantastic book that will initiate a transformation in your life no matter what or who you want to be. 

3 Lies you Need to STOP Telling Yourself

LiesYou have become an amazing storyteller over the years. You have become so good that all of the stories that you have been telling yourself about why you can’t get in shape, make more money or have your dream relationship have become so believable you should be winning awards. The problem is you keep telling the same stories and making the same excuses they are becoming engrained on to your mind and you are accepting them as reality.

It’s time to write some new stories, don’t you think? Create some new truths that you can live up to. There are 3 common, yet MASSIVE lies that you need to stop telling yourself:

1. “It’s Too Difficult”

Why is it Too Difficult?

It’s too difficult because you are thinking of whatever it is that you are trying to achieve as some Mammoth task as opposed to realising that it can be broken down into much more achievable goals. If I asked you could you run a Marathon tomorrow? The chances are the answer would be a definite ‘no’ (it certainly would be for me!). However, if I said; could you run a Marathon in 2 Years time? The answer is much more likely to be ‘Yes’.

Why the sudden change from ‘No’ to ‘Yes’? What difference would the Two Years make, you’d still be the same person, right?

The answer is simple: Training! You could run to the end of your street tomorrow couldn’t you? Then perhaps next week half a mile, then a mile and so on and so on.

Achieving anything can be broken down like this. It may be extremely difficult and unlikely that you will be a Millionaire by tomorrow but what if you gave yourself 10 years?

Saying that ‘It’s Too Difficult’ is a Lie that you tell yourself so that you don’t even start.

Start small and you’ll get to the Big Stuff.

2. “I’m Too Busy”

I still sometimes find myself saying this in my head and then I think “Jermaine, what makes you so different? Everyone has 24 Hours a Day; It’s up to you to use them wisely”

If you stopped telling this lie to yourself and really woke up to how much time you are letting slip by unnecessarily laying in when you’ve had 7 Hours sleep and you could be up catching up with your dreams. We all (me included) let time idly slip by when we are really doing a whole lot of nothing. Surfing the internet and flicking through the TV channels and the like are all things that get in the way of our progress because time ticks by anyway.

One of My Favourite Motivational Speakers Eric Thomas (aka ET the Hip Hop Preacher) has had a phenomenal journey that has seen him get to a point in his life where he confesses that if he is in bed at 3.45am he is “Running Late”. Are you prepared to adopt that ‘whatever it takes’ attitude to create more time for yourself and create the life that you really want?

I know that it may be a difficult realisation, but the notion of being too busy is a lie. You just aren’t making enough time for yourself yet.

3. No one Will Like the ‘New Me’

Being ‘Normal’ is Highly overrated and the second that you decide to commit to some Major Goal and Take Action you will be on the road to leaving normality. The thing that is holding you back is the lie that no one will Like the ‘New You’.

The Funny thing is that this isn’t a total Lie. There are indeed people in your life who are not going to be happy with the positive changes that you are going to make, they will subconsciously dislike this ‘change’ being thrust upon them. However, you do not necessarily want (or need) these people in your life anyway. The people that support your changes and encourage your development are the people that you should keep close.

The idea that ‘No One’ will like you if make positive changes is a Lie. Some people won’t and Lot’s of people will. I like the way American Comedian Bill Cosby Puts it “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody”.

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7 Things You Need to Stop Doing

7-Things-You-Need-to-Stop-DoingThere are behaviours, attitudes and lifestyle choices that are ruining your chances of being happy and successful. There are things that if you simply stopped doing them  the quality of your life would go through the roof. I spend most of my time writing and speaking about things that you should do but like an overrun garden it is also important to ‘rip out the weeds’ so that all of your new positive habits, beliefs and lifestyle choices have space to grow. Here are 7 Things that you should stop right now:

1. Stop Being Scared of Making Mistakes

To make progress in this life you are going to have to become comfortable with a certain amount and a certain level of risk. You cannot move forward without taking a step. Those ‘once in a lifetime opportunities’ will force you to stretch yourself if you are going to take them. Embrace failure as ‘temporary defeat’ and it will be one hundred times more productive for you in the long run.

2. Stop Worrying About Things That You Can’t Control

Be organized and make solid, workable plans in relation to the things that you can control. Your business, your life, your body; whatever goals you have can only grow based on the amount of time that you work productively on the things that you can control. Worrying about the things that you can’t control robs you of any strength that you should be using to improve your situation. This idea extends to your day-to-day happiness. I know it may be difficult at first but let’s say you are stuck in traffic, rather than worrying and stressing about the situation (which you can’t control). Why not turn the radio up and enjoy the music because that is something that you can control.

3. Stop Taking Things For Granted

Appreciate all of the things that surround you. Pause for a moment and realise that having running water or electricity is not a privilege that is afforded to everyone in this world. In fact there are probably Billions of people who would love to experience the things that you experience on a daily basis, and you don’t even pay attention to them. Change that today. If your parent, child, brother sister or friend gives you a hug. Embrace it, feel it and be grateful for it. That may sound cheesy right now but it is these moments that you are going to be thankful for at the end of your life.

4. Stop Holding on To Emotion

We are all going to have our bad moments and sometimes we have the tendency to ‘bottle up’ all of the emotion that is involved and end up making ourselves feel worse and even make ourselves ill. ‘E’-Motion is ‘Energy in Motion’; let the emotions move through you and let them run their course. Release the emotion, shed the tears; whatever you need to do and then you can get a smile back on your face much quicker after the emotion has been dealt with.

5. Stop Thinking Money Will Make You Happy

Money will only make you more of what you already are. When I hear people say that money will make them happy I respond by asking “do you think that all millionaires are happy?”. Of course they are not. Happiness is moment to moment neuro-chemical event that is most often brought on by magic moments with family and friends like laughter, holding your baby, a passionate kiss and moments of companionship. Allow yourself to be happy whilst you pursue greater wealth if that’s what you desire.

6. Stop Thinking Money Isn’t Important

This may seem like a quick contradiction of number 5 but hear me out. The fact of the of the matter is we all want that moment to moment happiness described above and there are lots of ways to achieve high levels of happiness. However, it is important to realise that you can’t pay the bills with love. Money isn’t more important than anything else but it is just as important. Remember to be financially organised and grow your wealth so you have the security to spend more time creating magic moments with ones that you love.

7. Stop Spending Time With The Wrong People

There are people in your life who are subconsciously (sometimes consciously) bringing you down. Often this is through no fault of their own and if you hooked them up to a lie detector and asked them if they wanted you to succeed they would say “yes” and they would pass the test 100% of the time. It’s not that they don’t want you to succeed, it’s the fact that people don’t like it when change is thrust upon them and you improving yourself qualifies as doing that.

It is also important to avoid people who are negative, pessimistic, don’t make time for you and don’t realize your worth. Never lower your standards to make room for people who refuse to raise theirs.

Get into the habit of being around people that are brighten your day, make you stretch and support you in your quest to succeed.

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How I created a Passive Income Online…


Passive IncomeIn the early days of turning my life around I was consistently coming across the idea that I could create what was known as ‘Passive Income’. At the time I didn’t know what this was and with a little research, I discovered that it meant making money whether you were working or not. I could make money in my sleep, whilst on the golf course or whilst walking around the shops. Needless to say, I liked the idea! The first piece of advice that I would give you, would be to begin exploring the different ways to create passive income for yourself immediately. I say this because it could, of course take some time. If it was easy everybody would be doing it, right.

Working IncomeWorking Income vs. Passive Income

Working income is the type of income that requires your time and effort. The best example of working income is a job. With a job you get paid for the amount of hours you spend in work. If you don’t put in the TIME then you will not get paid and ultimately get fired. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a job as one of your income streams. My experiences have taught me, however, that adding passive income streams is where the real fulfilment and financial security lies…

Passive income only requires you to work hard ONCE! For example, when J.K. Rowling was sat writing Harry Potter she was actually earning less money than someone working in a Fast Food Restaurant. However, when the book was finished, a whole world of passive income streams was created for J.K. She will be making money 24 hours per day, 7 days per week doing whatever she wants with her time, for the rest of her life.

The Goal of Financial FreedomFinancial Freedom

Financial Freedom is the situation you can create for yourself where your passive income covers all of your expenses. Over the past couple of years I have met several people who have created this for themselves and I have been obsessed with creating it in my life as well. Not because of greed but because I have found that people that are financially free can leverage their business to help more people across the world, they can spend more time with their loved ones and they can do incredible ‘hands-on’ work for charity. One of my favourite books on the importance of having passive income streams when it comes to creating financial freedom online is Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki. His style of writing will inspire you and will probably make you think that his concepts should be taught in schools!

It Started with the Internet…

Although there seemed to be so many ways of ways of creating passive income (property, stocks & shares, creating products and more), the method that really stuck out for me was making money online. It stood out because it was very affordable to get started and you could make quick returns. I set about finding some sort of affordable training and I am not ashamed to admit that I spent money on a whole load of nothing to begin with because I didn’t know what I was doing. That is why I feel privileged to be able to talk about this stuff to you so that you don’t have to make all of the same mistakes.

Bring the FreshTo cut a long story short, I can recommend a training program called Bring the Fresh, which contains step by step videos that will guide you through the whole process. It was following the Bring the Fresh training that allowed me to create a whole new feeling in my emotional bank. That feeling you get when you wake up and realise that you have made money whilst you have been asleep. (It’s Incredible)

When it comes to starting out making a passive income online, there’s nothing that I could recommend more highly. Making passive income online has meant that I can spend more time creating books and programs that help people (which is my passion) without having to worry about the money coming in whilst I’m creating them.

The internet may not be the place for you to get started in creating passive income streams as you may have some start up capital to perhaps look elsewhere. However, the internet is such a big marketplace and is growing every day. This makes it the ‘obvious’ choice for your first passive income generating venture.

 

Good Luck and I wish you Financial Freedom!