You have become an amazing storyteller over the years. You have become so good that all of the stories that you have been telling yourself about why you can’t get in shape, make more money or have your dream relationship have become so believable you should be winning awards. The problem is you keep telling the same stories and making the same excuses they are becoming engrained on to your mind and you are accepting them as reality.
It’s time to write some new stories, don’t you think? Create some new truths that you can live up to. There are 3 common, yet MASSIVE lies that you need to stop telling yourself:
1. “It’s Too Difficult”
Why is it Too Difficult?
It’s too difficult because you are thinking of whatever it is that you are trying to achieve as some Mammoth task as opposed to realising that it can be broken down into much more achievable goals. If I asked you could you run a Marathon tomorrow? The chances are the answer would be a definite ‘no’ (it certainly would be for me!). However, if I said; could you run a Marathon in 2 Years time? The answer is much more likely to be ‘Yes’.
Why the sudden change from ‘No’ to ‘Yes’? What difference would the Two Years make, you’d still be the same person, right?
The answer is simple: Training! You could run to the end of your street tomorrow couldn’t you? Then perhaps next week half a mile, then a mile and so on and so on.
Achieving anything can be broken down like this. It may be extremely difficult and unlikely that you will be a Millionaire by tomorrow but what if you gave yourself 10 years?
Saying that ‘It’s Too Difficult’ is a Lie that you tell yourself so that you don’t even start.
Start small and you’ll get to the Big Stuff.
2. “I’m Too Busy”
I still sometimes find myself saying this in my head and then I think “Jermaine, what makes you so different? Everyone has 24 Hours a Day; It’s up to you to use them wisely”
If you stopped telling this lie to yourself and really woke up to how much time you are letting slip by unnecessarily laying in when you’ve had 7 Hours sleep and you could be up catching up with your dreams. We all (me included) let time idly slip by when we are really doing a whole lot of nothing. Surfing the internet and flicking through the TV channels and the like are all things that get in the way of our progress because time ticks by anyway.
One of My Favourite Motivational Speakers Eric Thomas (aka ET the Hip Hop Preacher) has had a phenomenal journey that has seen him get to a point in his life where he confesses that if he is in bed at 3.45am he is “Running Late”. Are you prepared to adopt that ‘whatever it takes’ attitude to create more time for yourself and create the life that you really want?
I know that it may be a difficult realisation, but the notion of being too busy is a lie. You just aren’t making enough time for yourself yet.
3. No one Will Like the ‘New Me’
Being ‘Normal’ is Highly overrated and the second that you decide to commit to some Major Goal and Take Action you will be on the road to leaving normality. The thing that is holding you back is the lie that no one will Like the ‘New You’.
The Funny thing is that this isn’t a total Lie. There are indeed people in your life who are not going to be happy with the positive changes that you are going to make, they will subconsciously dislike this ‘change’ being thrust upon them. However, you do not necessarily want (or need) these people in your life anyway. The people that support your changes and encourage your development are the people that you should keep close.
The idea that ‘No One’ will like you if make positive changes is a Lie. Some people won’t and Lot’s of people will. I like the way American Comedian Bill Cosby Puts it “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody”.